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I want to get a little something out in the open because a post that I wrote over at Real Simple hurt some of my fellow blogger friends and I feel the need to clear things up. To quote a blogger who wrote in recently, “But you have to know that publicly posting your top-ten list was hurtful to the dozens, hundreds, of other bloggers out there who are pouring their hearts and souls and untold hours into what they do. I’ve since heard from several of them who told me that they felt really hurt by that post, too.”

Here’s the post that hurt some of my friends.


By publicly posting the blogs that I read daily I was not trying to discredit other blogs that are out there. I do read other blogs on a weekly basis via my RSS feeds that were not mentioned. On a daily basis I’m clicking around on the various comments that are posted on decor8 to see where they are coming from which leads me to dozens of beautiful blogs spanning every imaginable topic. In fact, I bookmark many blogs and save them in a special file on my desktop and they each eventually become the Blog of the Week.

I know that all bloggers have an important voice and that everyone has something valuable to say because it’s you — your voice — and you are important to me and all of your loyal readers, too.

I’m sorry that my words hurt and made some bloggers feel excluded because perhaps your blog was not listed. I never meant to exclude anyone, I was just honestly revealing the blogs that I enjoy reading, at least this month. Ask me next month and who knows, I might be hot on Cute Overload again.

Want to know a funny story behind this? I wrote what I did in reaction to a decor8 post on the topic, Is there such a thing as too much inspiration? where 63 of you commented and many expressed how blog reading can be draining and that many are trying to cut back or stop reading blogs altogether. When I read that I thought that I needed to some how help. The mission behind my words was to show blog readers that they don’t have to stop reading them, but instead to try narrowing down the list if one is feeling overwhelmed. Read only the ones that ‘click’ with them and help them to see their way through the smog that can appear when one feels like they can no longer be creative due to over-exposure. I thought I was being encouraging when instead, I ended up helping blog readers and hurting blog writers.

So with that, please forgive me and know that I’m here to support everyone the best way that I can. But I also can’t write as though I’m walking on eggshells. I have to be authentic and honest, that’s what I think is sometimes missing in society today. People are afraid of hurting others so much that everything just comes out so fake and kiss kiss and never real or genuine. I have realized though that there is such a thing as ‘seasoning’ and I need to exhibit more tact and season my words a bit more than I do. I promise I will work on this because the feelings of my blogger friends are worth considering.

I know some will tell me that this post was completely unnecessary but I’m a small business and my heart is in this — if I said something that hurt or offended my blog friends, I need to step up and admit it and apologize. Thanks for giving me a moment to address this. :) Again, I am very sorry.

xo,
Holly

(card shown from turtle papers)

Posted by decor8 in inspiration, small business on April 30, 2008

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  1. IF+D commented
    April 30th, 2008 at 4:17am

    Holly,

    I just wanted to drop a line and say I really appreciated the genuine honesty and sincerity you showed in your apology post. Being honest myself, I wasn’t actually offended by your post at all, instead choosing to rather work harder on my personal blog and aspire to be on any of your future lists :). I can certainly attest to the frustration of being a lowly blogger toiling away daily to a small readership, but truthfully seeing the success of you and other bloggers helps me work harder to attain my own personal goals. I now realize this comment is getting lengthy and the point convoluted, but I just wanted to say thank you for being an honest and inspirational blogger to look up to.

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  2. Anonymous commented
    April 30th, 2008 at 4:20am

    Hi Holly -

    Thanks for the post – I think you do a wonderful job on your blog and you are so sincere and authentic in your writing and it shows in every post. Don’t worry about it – you can’t please everyone.

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  3. John Trosko commented
    April 30th, 2008 at 4:55am

    Holly,

    This is incredible!

    This is your blog. Your site. Your business. You are not a public service like the National Endowment for the Arts. I cannot describe how terific you have been to the community– you have always linked to other sites, and included everyone in your world. Keep doing what you are doing, We will be there every step of the way. Honored that sometimes you mention our sites, but just as happy to discover fresh finds for hip spaces!

    Your friend,

    John

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  4. Anke commented
    April 30th, 2008 at 5:00am

    This was a great post! I don’t think that an apology was really necessary – you didn’t want to hurt anybody and you just can’t mention everyone. The blogs you listed are on most of our bloglines – and for a reason…they put so much work and dedication into their blogs, just like you. (Not saying that all the others are not, but the ones mentioned seem to be posting constantly and at least once a day). Furthermore you DO give less well known blogs a voice with “Blog of the Week” or when posting about things artists etc. emailed you about. Keep up the good work – it is impossible to please everyone…

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  5. Martha Craig commented
    April 30th, 2008 at 5:02am

    Holly, I cannot believe people were mean spirited enough to make you feel guilty. You are entirely justified in listing your current favourites. You should tell people if they really want to make the list they should send very large, expensive gifts to you. Joking!

    Keep up your brilliant work, love it.

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  6. Catherine Chandler commented
    April 30th, 2008 at 5:05am

    Hey there,

    I read your blog daily. I don’t expect you to read mine…let alone feature me or mention me! There are thousands upon thousands of blogs out there to read…I myself subscribe to 98 at the moment. Luckily not everyone posts every day! At any given time I have at least 50 posts marked as saved. The volume that you must go through I’m sure is overwhelming, and I honestly don’t think you owe an apology, but that is just my opinion. I do appreciate that you feel strongly enough about how much you care for the blogging community to apologize, though, and express your adoration for others. That’s awesome. Keep up the good work! Goodness, I think I’ve linked back to your blog many times in my artist features. Have a great night!

    Catherine

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  7. Lili commented
    April 30th, 2008 at 5:14am

    I actually wanted to thank you for that very post. Lately I have felt very bogged down by all of the blogs I read, the tv I watch and the websites I visit. On the day of that post I organized my 126 blogs on my reader to 16 “every day must reads” and the rest I am saving for when I have more time. And, because of you and your inspirational writing, I’ve started to ask myself if this blog etc. is contributing to my life. If not, its motivation to move on to something else. I am actually thinking about going cold turkey on the internet except for starting my own personal blog, my bloglines must reads and flickr.

    I’ve always really liked your blog Holly because you share things like this with us. Your writing is very easy to relate to and I find your more personal posts some of my favorites.

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  8. paisleystclaire commented
    April 30th, 2008 at 5:30am

    I’m actually quite astounded that people got offended by you not mentioning them. We are not in high school and being left off someone’s party invitation list. At the risk of becoming a loathed blogger, I think perhaps some people need to get some perspective and not be so precious.

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  9. edina commented
    April 30th, 2008 at 6:13am

    Dear Holly,

    I feel your apology was wholly unnecessary, though it was very generous of you to make anyway. It’s too bad some people can’t see past their egos to contemplate the fact that your post was meant to be helpful and not exclusionary. Moreover, there are so many other problems in the world that these bloggers (and the rest of us) should be agonizing over. Thanks for providing us welcome respite from those problems with your wonderful blog!

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  10. helen commented
    April 30th, 2008 at 7:19am

    Hi, I also think you don’t have to apologise for saying what you like to read. There are more important things in life than whether you read one blog or another. Every blog I’ve read has a list of other blogs so it’s a circle of inspiration.

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  11. Heather Moore commented
    April 30th, 2008 at 7:35am

    I thought your post was great, and completely in line with the honesty and realness that’s always exhibited on your blog. Keep doing everything the way you do, cos it’s grand!

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  12. Rebecca Matheson commented
    April 30th, 2008 at 8:12am

    I agree with Edina… blogs are places to express opinions – if you showcase some so be it. Tough luck to the others. It’s kind of immature to complain.

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  13. Cherryskin commented
    April 30th, 2008 at 11:32am

    I don’t understand how anyone could have been offended: you mentioned several times that the list was not the be-all-and-end-all. Personally, I loved checking them out, and have even found a couple of new faves (not that I’m telling who they are! Heh heh).
    Your blog is amazing and inspirational, and you sound like a lovely person — I wouldn’t worry another second about it.

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  14. Mme. Meow commented
    April 30th, 2008 at 12:01pm

    I agree with all the comments that feel your apology is unnecessary.

    There is such a thing called opinion, and if we all were to be hurt because you didn’t mention our blogs (design or no– or do you have something against non-design blogs, huh?–j/k), you’d be up all hours of day and night apologizing even to the spam blogs.

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  15. Ariane Benefit commented
    April 30th, 2008 at 12:09pm

    Hi Holly,

    I agree with John Trosko! Even though it can be tempting to get your feelings hurt when friends don’t mention your blog as a favorite or they don’t have you on their blogrolls, it’s more productive to ask yourself either what you could do to make your blog more of a favorite, or simply to reevaluate the purpose of your blog. Are you trying to please all your friends and make them daily readers? Are you writing it for yourself? For other bloggers? for high traffic? or for LOYAL fans? Get clear on purpose and on who your readers are and don’t sweat it if other busy bloggers don’t find yours the most useful to them. Even if they are friends, they have a right to read the blogs that are fascinating or helpful to them at the moment. As we grow and change, so does what we have time to read!

    Okay…I’ll step down from my soapbox now. Great Blog, Holly! Go forth and read whatever you want to read! : )

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  16. shannon commented
    April 30th, 2008 at 12:13pm

    paisleystclaire, you’re not a loathed blogger. i agree with your sentiment 100%.

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  17. Stacey commented
    April 30th, 2008 at 12:23pm

    That was very big of you to apologize for this but I agree with the other readers – unnecessary. I agree also with what you say – I also read several new blogs a week but there are a core group that click with me that I check constantly because we’re on the same wavelength. I wouldn’t expect my “top 10″ to be everyone’s because we have different interests, etc. People are being VERY sensitive.

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  18. erinn commented
    April 30th, 2008 at 12:36pm

    I encourage you to continue to be yourself. With such a wide audience it is nearly impossible to please everyone. It is your authenticity that keeps me coming back to read decor8. It is what inspires me to be authentic on my own blog and not worry about what is going to get me on someones top 10 list. I was also inspired to pair down my own daily blog reading list and am already seeing the benefits.

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  19. Sixthandelm commented
    April 30th, 2008 at 12:46pm

    Hmm. Maybe there were reasons some people were offended that I can’t understand, but come on! All your post did as give us a good idea of what the bloggers themselves are readng and an idea of where our blogs need to get to to be a top ten. This was a professional post for a professional magazine and you can’t be expected to be catering to friends when you are speaking with your professional design blogger pants on.

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  20. Anonymous commented
    April 30th, 2008 at 12:48pm

    Sometimes, it might be better to NOT address every little thing that people write. You have to follow your own voice instead of trying to put out all the little fires. I read awhile ago that you were a “people pleaser” and wrote about it as if it were a good thing. It is not a good thing. It is better to just be yourself. Good luck.

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  21. quaint handmade commented
    April 30th, 2008 at 12:54pm

    i don’t think you have to apologize.

    people read decor8 because of your editorial view and it helps sort out all of the content that is available. you were simply sharing your current must read blogs and i looked forward to seeing your list. you do have a very thorough blogroll on your site, so you are recognizing many bloggers on a daily basis.

    most readers have their own favorites, too. i’ve recently started my own blog and i only list those that i always read and that will probably change overtime.

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  22. Andrea commented
    April 30th, 2008 at 1:18pm

    Holly, I agree with some of the other responses noting that the reaction to your post was crazy! When you post a list of products from etsy, for example, do you expect the crafters of products not included in the post to email in to say that they’re hurt that they weren’t included? This seems very bizarre to me. I love your blog and will keep visiting it, along with the many others that appear in my rss feed.

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  23. Melissa Lewis-Off The Wall commented
    April 30th, 2008 at 1:40pm

    Okay Holly!

    I must say, I have to agree with every single comment above. I have been around a lot of people (in a completely different industry) that are LEADERS. Leaders must assume that they will at some point offend certain people, and get shot from behind. This is the risk you take being a leader. I, as I’m sure so many others, consider you a leader in the blogging sphere in addition to the home decor world.

    The more known you become, the more readers you get, people will sometimes get their feelings hurt while others do not. Though the apology was very humble and sincere, this shows a lot about your integrity here, it wasn’t necessary. You are not always going to know when you have hurt someones feelings, this time you did. I am sorry that you half to experience this, but as someone who knows from personal experience what being shot at from behind feels like…thick skin is required.

    I thought the original post was great! Keep on being the innovative blogger you are:) Keep inspiring others daily as you always do!

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  24. daisyjanie commented
    April 30th, 2008 at 1:47pm

    You definitely can’t please all the people all the time, but certainly you go waaaay out of your way than most for the most. For that, you are owed accolades – we are not owed apologies. You and your peers have set standards in this blogging genre, while still raising the bar everyday for the rest of us in terms of inspiration, motivation and connectedness. Keep it up!!!

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  25. Homegrown {& the Bug} commented
    April 30th, 2008 at 2:04pm

    I tend to go against the masses (it’s my cross to bear) but I have to agree with everyone here. I was neither hurt nor offended by your post – instead I was inspired to work harder at what I do in hopes of one day being as awesome as the blogs you recommended. As someone said, you are NOT the National Endowment, it’s not your job to give attention to everyone that asks for it. Good lord, if it were would you ever sleep?
    I appreciate your views and opinions on blogs, design, etc. but take them as just that – *your* opinion, and one that you’re entitled to whether you run a super successful blog or not :)

    Keep up the good work Holly. And keep bringing up your important insight. I, for one, appreciate it immensely :)

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  26. {evy} commented
    April 30th, 2008 at 2:19pm

    xoxo

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  27. Shari Berkowitz commented
    April 30th, 2008 at 2:40pm

    Holly, nicely done. We can’t be all things to all people. In this day and age we can reach out to so many people. We hope they’ll receive what we’re saying in the manner in which we intend…but sometimes they don’t. Your writing about it is full of love and support. I’m glad that you’ll continue to write without “walking on eggshells”. Thank you for your wonderful blogs always.

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  28. willikat commented
    April 30th, 2008 at 3:18pm

    i think people are being overly sensitive. your recommendations didn’t hurt anyone; they are your personal preferences and you are a blogger–you only have so much space to write before you lose your reader. you boosted blogs, but didn’t slag on any–that would have been the hurtful thing. it was nice of you to apologize, but from this reader: you didn’t have to. you are very supportive of the blog community overall and people know that.

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  29. Andy Mathis commented
    April 30th, 2008 at 3:24pm

    I lurk by from time to time, and missed the list, but you don’t have to apologize for what you are reading at the moment.

    People shouldn’t be offended by that.It’s your site, your blog, your opinion, your voice. And that’s why we read it.

    You can’t always be all inclusive.

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  30. karen barb commented
    April 30th, 2008 at 3:41pm

    I can’t believe you are apologising for posting your current favourite blogs. It’s so sweet of you, but I feel people there are OVERREACTING.

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  31. Justine commented
    April 30th, 2008 at 3:44pm

    Holly, this may sound harsh, but I don’t think you even need to apologize. To me this seems like a blogosphere version of kids getting hurt feelings over not being invited to a birthday party. I understand it stings to not be included, but it’s just not logical to include every single person/blog you like/are associated with.

    By making your article into some sort of junior high popularity contest, it really dampens the relationships that bloggers and readers can have.

    You consistently direct your readers to all sorts of blogs and websites — some that are not on your top ten ARE on mine, because I found them through your site! Just because they are not on your top ten, doesn’t mean they won’t be on someone else’s, and it certainly doesn’t mean that they are less valuable.

    I think that you should not feel badly, and I think some othes might need some perspective and understanding. Sorry if that sounds harsh to some, but I think we need to be grown up about stuff like this.

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  32. Claire Elizabeth commented
    April 30th, 2008 at 3:44pm

    As an editor, I appreciate your clear writing and inspirational posts. When I read your top blogs list at Real Simple, it did cross my mind that people may respond negatively. Never underestimate the power of the caveat–always say that your “top 10″ is “for this month”, etc. That way you can keep listing, keep changing. We all change! It takes a lot of courage to be so honest online. Thank you for discussing such a personal/behind-the-scenes topic.

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  33. reclaiming_miss_havisham commented
    April 30th, 2008 at 4:15pm

    As one of the ones who DID have an adverse reaction to this article I figure I should speak up for myself. I wrote a post condemning this article on my blog not even thinking Holly would get involved in it. And admittedly my maturity level is borderline at best, but this wasn’t about being left off a list. It was about a blogger with a unshakable readership making suggestions that affect how people read.

    Holly does wonders for other blogs. She linked to me a few weeks ago and the resulting traffic made me hide under the covers for two days from agoraphobic stress.

    I didn’t really care so much about her posting a top ten list so much as implying that people should cut down on reading or limit their reading and if you then look at the list of basically the top ten design blogs, well that would pretty much be the end of the rest of us. Let’s be honest, people tend to do what they are told. I just personally think its the responsibility of every blogger who is trying to build a readership to either be encouraging of blog reading (ANY blog) or say nothing at all.

    So no it’s not about the fact that Holly didn’t include me. This is America, she can write post after post tellng me to cram it and I would accept that so long as the message is pro-reading.

    I’ll go hide in my bed again.

    Leslie

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  34. decor8 commented
    April 30th, 2008 at 4:19pm

    Please note that when you leave a long link that it often goes beyond my column width so I have to remove it at times. I ask that you use tinyurl.com to place large links into the comments section.

    And thanks all for your supportive words, it’s really nice of you. It feels better that I got that off of my chest. :)

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  35. Lori commented
    April 30th, 2008 at 4:26pm

    I don’t think the problem is having a top 10 my favorite blog list, we all have those. The problem, I felt, was the idea that you should only read 10 blogs. For a blog that pulls inspiration from the rest of the community I didn’t see how that was even possible. Isn’t the idea to expand and find new favorite things constantly. I read this blog to find new things, new people to link to. If we narrow down to only reading 10, that’s already set in stone we all have those 10 blogs in our readers, how do we learn about new things. I use google reader and I consider myself a harsh editor. I add and delete blogs all the time. I can’t imagine never seeking new blogs, there’s new voices everywhere and old voices I haven’t found, even in the design blog community. That’s what upset some people, I think, not the idea that we’re not on decor8’s top 10 but the idea that we never can be because the list is done, she has all the reading she needs and wants and maybe you should too. What if the end all be all of etsy editors said these are the only 10 people you should buy art from, the only ones I like, the only ones I put in my house, the only ones that matter. Can you imagine what everyone would be missing out on. That’s all. This was posted on decor8, Real Simple, and Apartment Therapy so yeah it will affect a lot of blog readers.

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  36. Natalie commented
    April 30th, 2008 at 4:58pm

    Everyone has their top blogs. There’s no harm in you posting a list. People who get offended…that’s just bad Internet ettiquette. The Web is all about finding the golden grains of wheat in the shaff — there’s so much out there — we’re all free to judge it differently.

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  37. mariss commented
    April 30th, 2008 at 5:49pm

    Holly, I’m sorry that some people made you feel bad. I admire what you do, and think that you help the design / internet community in a VERY positive manner.

    I am definitely one of the 63 commenters who did feel that need to cut down, but that was my own decision, not a result of your list. Also, I did not feel that your list was saying that you personally only wanted people to read 10 blogs. Most of us aren’t receiving hundreds of submissions from people like I’m sure you do, in addition to catching up and browsing blogs.

    Thanks for your honesty and voice. I’m your reader because I trust your editorial skills, design sense and integrity.

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  38. John Trosko commented
    April 30th, 2008 at 5:53pm

    This is my second comment on this post– can you believe it?

    From a productivity standpoint, limiting yourself to reading 10 blogs a day is quite generous. If you have ever reviewed headshots, resumes or fabric samples, your “must-have” piles move around constantly until you find your 5 to call for an interview, show the client, etc. And next week, another resume/headshot/fabric sample will come in better than the one this week. It’s just the name of the game. Survival of the chic-est.

    - John

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  39. dawn commented
    April 30th, 2008 at 6:15pm

    I agree. Your apology is completely unnecessary. Like design, our interests are always changing. I think John and Catherine said it best in their comments so I won’t belabor the point. Just know that I love your blog and even though it isn’t on my list of “Daily Reads” on my blog, I do read it daily!

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  40. Katie commented
    April 30th, 2008 at 7:17pm

    Oh pluuuease. That comment was so unnecessary. I mean, even Letterman has a top ten list! Holly is always encouraging us to read tons of other blogs besides the ones on her short list. People will read what they want to read anyways. If this complainer’s blog is any good, then maybe people will frequent it… Don’t blame Holly if not.

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  41. Christine commented
    April 30th, 2008 at 7:44pm

    Coming late to the comments, but I also thought your apology was unnecessary. I loved your post on “Design Blogs that Inspire” because you had made a thoughtful selection of sites (from who knows how many you have ever looked at!) and bravely shared your list. I would much rather be directed toward sites that someone of your experience considers to be of high quality than click around for hours on my own.

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  42. Leslie (Reclaiming Miss Havisham) commented
    April 30th, 2008 at 9:05pm

    Okay I hate to keep stirring the pot but:

    “I would much rather be directed toward sites that someone of your experience considers to be of high quality than click around for hours on my own.”

    I think this statement is exactly what the “complainers” were concerned about (and it wasn’t just me) The 40 comments above make anyone who disagreed with the article look crazy.

    It’s NOT about not making the list. At least it wasn’t about that for me. I don’t even write a design-only blog that would have been eligible for the list. Holly does wonders promoting lesser known blogs on her site. She doesn’t have to do it but is generous enough to. This particular article in question was different than that. It was an article about cutting back on blog reading (design blog smog…) and then attaches a list of ten. As evidenced by the comment above this one, people WILL do what they are told especially when the legwork is done for them.

    So in summary: It’s not about being left off the cool list (although I can guarantee after this mess I will not be getting a chrimma card from holly) its about media control. And the goal from both sides was never to make anyone feel bad, hurt or left out. I doubt anyone actually felt bad about it. I just had a different opinion. It’s just a lively debate among adults with differing opinions.

    Okay I’m off like a prom dress….hopefully this will be my last comment here.

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  43. rebekah @ elizabeth anne designs commented
    April 30th, 2008 at 10:03pm

    I completely understand the limited list. There are a lot of GREAT blogs that I just don’t have the time to read. I can’t spend the entire day on the internet, and your post inspired me to delete the blogs that consume the most time. My personal feeling? If someone isn’t reading our blog, it’s because they don’t need what we’re writing about. No worries. Plenty of other people are reading!

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  44. Anrosh commented
    April 30th, 2008 at 11:10pm

    I am not a design blogger, but have learnt much on coming to this blog – that’s because it has a voice and an honest one.

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  45. Jennifer Perkins - Naughty Secretary Club commented
    May 1st, 2008 at 12:31am

    I feel awful that you felt awful. I just read an article with Nat at Craft/Coquette where she said she has 1,000 blogs on her reader but she only mentioned her top 6 or so. The other 9,994 can’t be mad about it. You do a great service for the crafty design community we heart you no matter what blogs you read and don’t read.

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  46. SimplyGrove commented
    May 1st, 2008 at 3:47am

    You are lovely Holly! Thank you for having such a great blog. You are an inspiration to many many peolple!

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  47. Anonymous commented
    May 1st, 2008 at 4:37am

    Holly – YOU out of anyone who runs a blog is the most dedicated blogger I KNOW!

    And oh yeah that ridiculous comment about “how other people spend a lot of time on thier blogs”.

    Whoever made that comment should be ashamed of yourself!

    DO you guys have any idea how much time this LOVELY lady spends on her blog! I personally know since I receive emails in the middle of night (and I am on the west coast). THIS GIRL DOES NOT STOP WORKING. And for who? For ALL THESE readers!

    Holly you do not owe anyone an appolgy! You have created the best design blog out there! You hit every topic related to design. In addition you give ENORMOUS props to up and coming artists and alike. You have every right to pick your top blogs for the month, its not like your picking your top blogs forever.

    For goodness sake people grow up and stop being such babies.

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  48. Anonymous commented
    May 1st, 2008 at 7:46am

    Holly-
    I must say I totally admire your dedication to your blog and all of your readers. You share so much, and I never feel any sort of competitive undercurrent here about other bloggers, artists, sources, etc….this is an honest place where you choose to share your knowledge and experiences, and you have no reason at all to apologize.

    Blogging is something people do because they love it, not because they are trying to be number 1. If competition is the motivation, than one is sure to be disappointed.

    Keep up your awesome work, and never forget that this is YOUR blog…..
    xooxoxoox

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  49. Courtney commented
    May 1st, 2008 at 1:11pm

    Holly, this just goes to show what a nice person you are. It also shows how true you are to yourself. You chose to write an article that was honest and inpsirational to a lot of people. Because we are all unique, others chose to take it differently. Then, instead of being defensive, you humbly apologized to those people, too, and decided to look for ways you can improve through the experience. Oh.My.Word. If only the rest of the world could respond with the amount of maturity you did! Keep doing exactly what you’re doing. You inspire me in more ways than just your design picks for the day! Your blog is wildly successful because of your taste, but also your honesty and genuine spirit. You go, girl!

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  50. A Print A Day commented
    May 1st, 2008 at 1:55pm

    i admire your honesty, miss holly!

    i think you’ve done many bloggers, artists and crafters a HUGE and generous by featuring them in your own blog on a daily basis. you’re a great inspiration, and i love your enthusiasm. no need to feel guilty, but your apology is so sweet and sincere, it was touching to read :)

    xo
    yasmine

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  51. Marisa and Creative Thursday commented
    May 1st, 2008 at 3:21pm

    Oh my goodness ~ I was away from the internet for a day and missed this. I’m so sorry people have misunderstood your intentions. Your ever present graciousiness, integrity, honesty, kindness and not to mention your endless support of other bloggers continue to inspire me.

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  52. Elaine commented
    May 1st, 2008 at 4:46pm

    Wow, well that was a controversial one, judging from all the comments. I would like to add that I am glad you list my blog. I get a lot of traffic from you. Thanks again, Elaine

    In the immortal words of Boynton, “Don’t let the turkeys get you down.” I read that on a mug once. Good advice.

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  53. Anonymous commented
    May 1st, 2008 at 5:15pm

    Hi. I don’t read this blog every day but saw this post and felt like commenting.

    This is a successful blog. It is popular. It’s also a small business.

    We blog readers realize how we can all over indulge, even drown and let beautiful images go from being inspiration to being overwhelming.

    It’s a fact that you can’t look at a bazillion pretty pictures and come right out with your own UNIQUE creative vision. You have to limit – digest – contemplate – create – make mistakes – create…

    Top ten list. big deal. everyone has their daily faves.
    Holly said to limit your reading – she didnt say DONT READ other blogs.

    I wonder if jealousy is at the root of some of this hub-bub.

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  54. decor8 commented
    May 1st, 2008 at 5:33pm

    I’m heading out for the afternoon but I want to thank everyone for their comments here. I appreciate the good, the bad, and even the ugly because it’s your opinion and you have a right to express your views.

    However, I really don’t want this to turn into a fighting match. My point in posting this was merely to convey apologies for writing something that offended some dear bloggers out there and although it wasn’t my intent, I see now how it could have come across in a negative way and this post was to apologize, not drum up support, though it made me quite glad to know that you stopped in to comment and that some of you do see my point.

    At least now everyone knows what I was feeling when I wrote what I did over at Real Simple and how I feel about it now. That was super important for me to convey publicly. You don’t have to share my point of view, but at least you heard it.

    You are all my friends, whether we agree on points or not, I think that if we all agreed we’d be a boring bunch of people! But at the same time I don’t like to promote bad feelings or fighting so let’s perhaps turn our attention back to pretty things… art, design, decorating, encouragement, friendship, and the reason we all gather here in the first place.

    xo,
    Holly

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  55. Anonymous commented
    May 2nd, 2008 at 6:06pm

    People need to get beyond their overly large egos. You totally have a right to post your top ten favs.

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  56. amm commented
    May 2nd, 2008 at 9:47pm

    Holly,
    I have a little blog that I do mostly to please myself. But I have to say that whatever heat you took for your piece for Real Simple is just dumb. It’s nice of you to apologize for everyone’s hurt feelings, but I think it’s totally unnecessary. You like what you like. Other people do too. Do designers email you with petty rage if you don’t feature their stuff? My guess is no. I like your blog and I’ll check out the blogs that are new to me from your list. But I probably won’t read them too often unless one of them blows me away, because I’ve already got my top ten and I can only spend so much time…Perhaps that was your point ;)?

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  57. dailydesignspot commented
    May 5th, 2008 at 12:44am

    wow.. heat is on here! haha.. look out! i really wonder what people were so upset about? i mean there is prob a chance you have been to my ‘blog’ before but i by no means am upset for you not ‘big upping’ me.. i think i fall into the smog category anyway… i think you are doing a wonderful job and i would say that the list you gave represented other blogs which are at a similar level of your own.. great designs.. true vision.. and organization.. which a lot of blogs (just like mine) do NOT have .. i truely respect the people that put in the hours.. makes my day a lot better! thanks!

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