Hello Monday and hello to you too! I hope your weekend was heaven or at least you had a small slice of it at some point. Did you do something good for yourself? It’s so important to fit in a little self care now and then — so good for the soul. My feel good moment was yesterday when I picked up two French magazines at the train station and snuggled beneath the blankets in my bed last night with a cup of fruit & cream tea before going to bed. It may not sound like much, but these are (to me) the best moments that make me feel refreshed and emotionally clear. I also took a long walk in the forest yesterday near my house, just after the morning rain. I saw not one, but two massive rainbows and some of the most amazing cloud formations ever – the sky was putting on such a show, lots of drama and very “end of the world” ala some Will Smith film. It was awe-inspiring to say the least and made me feel somewhat small in a very large universe. It’s humbling and a good reminder that often our worries have become so petty up against the bigger things in life. I like to remember that as often as I can, personally it’s how I find peace and harmony within my soul & family life. Remembering that my feelings and ideas aren’t all that matter in this world. Blogging and social media make me forget this at times.
Many (and I include myself at times), let’s face it, have turned into self-promoting cheerleaders on so many levels that it can feel very unreal and lacking in charm and value. Blogging can make us so self-focused! But this is the reason for blogging, right? I mean, it’s a “web log” or an online diary – at least so they began this way. And then over time blogs grew into valued resources and this magic takes place worldwide every day where thousands are publishing their thoughts and journeys via their blogs. I’ve crafted just to show and tell, or taken a photograph with the idea of showing it on my blog to inspire someone. Who else can you talk about in your diary but yourself, right? And of course you are going to share your life and work on your blog. Totally normal and well, expected. At least in most cases.
But because blogging is a public diary, we each become authors writing a moving biography and often we can forget that our life is pretty mundane in the grand scheme of things. Nature has a way of changing the popular “me me me” perspective very quickly because it runs the show, you have no control over external circumstances or people, only control over your own thoughts (unless of course you suffer an emotional illness and often lack control there, too). In the end, it’s vital for me personally to have these time-out moments to keep sane. I love blogging but I don’t want to become self-absorbed. Yes, this is my blog, my diary, and so of course I’m going to talk about my feelings. This post is the perfect example. But I can assure you that by sharing in this open space I’m only trying to make a connection with you and perhaps raise a topic that may make you think about something and in return, your comments do the same for me. Again, finding a balance in all this crazy blogging is key. I often like to sit down and just think about blogging and what it means to me, why I do, what is my goal with having a blog, etc. and then I feel really clear as I begin a post. If you ever feel like your blog is running your life and not vice versa, try to think about finding some balance with it.
This “me” mentality, which can sometimes take hold on someone who blogs frequently, really affects how one approaches work. Take art as an example. Art may become less about painting something you love as much as it becomes painting something that will sell (which isn’t always what you love). Making a living and having a life have such a huge gap between them! It’s important to work hard to be humble in your work, know your place, and be authentic. This can be really hard when you have a successful business as most of you know — when you are good at something, whether it’s designing a building, caring for animals or working on a project at your job – you tend to have success with it and then with success comes fans of your work — those who look to you to set an example. If you are immature or a “fame whore” as we call these people in the states who will stop at nothing until they rule the world (ha ha), then all this attention can quickly go to your head and you forget your roots and often mistreat others or misuse your own power. Or if you’re rare like Oprah, you have heart, you use it for the good of others. And some bloggers do this so, so well. I think we bloggers in general have to keep it in perspective, don’t you agree? We are constantly writing about our thoughts and feelings that we can forget that our ideas are not all that matters. I think this is why I battle with the idea of having a cult following (reminds me of zombies following some great leader) or being a tastemaker/trendsetter. On one side, I see the need and it can be quite community building and helpful. On another side, if you are the leader of this, it can be quite hard to live up to. It can also make one quite narrow-minded I think and it can be very isolating – especially since you start to wonder if your same friends would care for you if you were not wearing your current hat. And for the followers, they can start to forget their personal goals and dreams and start mirroring that of their leader instead, or of the pack, so as to fit in and be popular, cool, accepted. Something to think about, right?
That’s when a good time out is needed. Step away from the computer and think of what made you happy as a child and that it had nothing to do about blogging or the internet and everything to do about being creative, playing and having joy – and usually this involved getting very dirty and giggling a lot, or reading a book with your parents in bed. And when your parents are gone and if you have no children to read to, then you simply must grab a stack of books or magazines and read to yourself. This gives such a nice balance to the soul but also a great start to the work week. Flipping through French magazines does a body good. :) A little nature walk, some fresh air, reminding yourself that you are not perfect, and that you are not all that matters. I think it’s freeing actually, when you accept these truths because then there is a burden that is lifted and better work can flow more freely from your soul. And so this ends my essay, which really is an assemblage of random musings without one focal point, but perhaps you can extract something from it that will make your week a bit more interesting.
And so, now to talk a bit about Anna, who has definitely lost her spotlight in this post and for that I’m very sorry, Anna. But she receives full shine over at Real Simple where I wrote about her earlier today. Have you heard of Made By Anna and her blog, Colour + Sound? I think it’s a nice way to begin our week. I wrote about her over on Real Simple if you’d like to learn more… These photos above are just a glimpse of some of the photographs on her blog that inspire her work and that have inspired me today.
(images: anna betts)