What a great thing to consider on a Friday as we approach a new weekend, Doing Is Believing! It’s so true, isn’t it? I was going to post something love-related having to do with couples, but you know I think loving yourself is more important than even loving another person and with so many single ladies (and men!) out there trying to find a match and put a ring on it, this weekend can really bite hard. I remember when I was single how alone I felt in stores with all that candy and romance in the air. So we’re not going to talk about love and hearts and how wonderful it is to find the perfect someone.
Let’s think about loving ourselves, showing care and appreciation for who we are, and believing in our hard work and talents. So no red + pink today on this blog, not because I don’t believe in the power of loving someone else (I do! Very much!) but because I want to promote love for yourself instead. To love yourself first and be your own best friend is also a great way to attract the love of others. So, if you’re single give yourself a glass of champagne and chocolates and toast to your life. Buy yourself a dozen roses. Call your best friend who won’t be romantically matched on Sunday and make a date with them to see a movie. If you just broke up with someone watch the terminator. If you feel anger at someone watch a comedy. Do something to make yourself happy if the 14th depresses you. Doing is believing – trust yourself and do what makes you happiest single or partnered up. Have faith in that!
(image: keep calm gallery)
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The weather has been rubbish in most parts of America. Winter is making the northern Europeans a little mad too. I think the only ones who are truly happy at the moment are dancing on tables in Ibiza because most of us are freezing our cheeks off. And so with the cold icy streets that we fall on and the bitter to-the-bone chill that we feel… these serene visions of warmer days are for you. Thank you photographer Lucas Allen for the amazing visual inspiration that you’ve made available online via your stunning portfolio.
Do you think the Dalmatian is dreaming about Spring too?
About Lucas Allen: He began shooting professionally at the age of 21 and has been at it ever since and he’s now in his mid thirties. Australian born and raised, he currently lives in New York and has worked for a broad range of publications from Real Simple to Blueprint and Vogue in addition to various ad campaigns. His photographs have appeared in magazines worldwide… do your recognize any of these from your favorite glossies? I encourage you to view his work online, there are many images I’ve not shown here that you will most likely find inspirational.
And in regards to winter well friends, hang in there. I hear Spring begins next month, psst…pass it on…
Toast just launched their Spring preview. Ah. Spring.
Have you felt the magic of Chelsea Victoria’s photography? Lady of Chinatown, Through the Trees and Wonderland all paint three separate stories for me which is why I’ve selected them to share below. I find most of her photos to be like this though, they make you really stop and look. And think. And then you begin to slip away into a little daydream. And let’s face it, sometimes we need daydreams because life can present challenges and leave us with little time to play around with ideas in our head, alone, being imaginative and creative and dreaming… So take a moment out for yourself now and look at these photos one by one and try to see beyond them if you can – create a little tale or see what feeling they give you.
I remember when I once worked in a cubicle I had the most amazing rotating gallery of photos that I had taken — all of them arranged in a way that helped keep me sane in a very busy job. I had photographs of London and Paris and Germany mostly, and lots of poems and inspirational quotes on my wall. I even had photos from my friends around, and lots of pictures of me with my friends. I guess all of that helped me to play escape artist throughout the day as it was so easy to feel lost and out of touch with my dreams back then being young with little money and a very good job that I loved but also felt scared to stay in forever because I knew it gave me no real ability to express my creativity and this bothered me so much. I think that is why today I support and write about art and photographers and creative types for a living, because I see their work as being more than just pretty or nice but as motivating, powerful and often able to lift us from very dark places and I want others to pay attention to that. Many still do not know the power in a simple, beautiful photograph. Or a painting that completely touches their heart.
One look at a particular print, photograph or painting in my home and I experience some emotion whether it be excitement, passion, encouragement, deliverance, peace. It’s important to look for work that gives you emotions that can save you on days when life feels really, really scary or cold or like a losing battle. We can all have tough days or even periods of time but I believe that all of the photos I took and displayed in my big beige cubicle gave me hope, vision, gave me something to work towards though at the time I wasn’t even sure exactly what yet but I knew I’d someday find love, end up in Europe, and be working in a creative field as a motivator and supporter and writer of some sort. I knew I wanted more. If you think art as therapy or art as emotional support sounds crazy, then I understand because it sounds a little crazy as I type it. Almost like I’m blogging under the influence or something. But I just had this idea that if we could all create the life we want to have around us today, even if only through a window of photography, paintings, etc. then could it make the current moment feel more pleasurable and could it possibly lead to something greater down the road? How long can you look at something and want for something and dream of something without eventually taking hold of it — I mean I may be a dreamer but can it be possible that perhaps seeing and believing can ultimately lead to having?
I don’t wonder anymore. It’s possible for some and why not let the some be you? Post some photos around that help you to feel very specific emotions, or that remind you of attainable dreams. A mentor can show the way. A role model can lead by example. Can a seemingly simply photograph be your guide as you go?
(images: chelsea victoria)