Monday, Monday…

September 17, 2012

Hello friends! How are you today? It’s Monday, a new week and new possibilities. I’ve been thinking a lot about the post that I wrote, Thoughts on Being Honestly Happy, where nearly 250 of you left beautiful, uplifting and often very personal comments and so later today I plan to write another post as a follow up. It’s so important to me to not leave anyone hanging – when I read some of my favorite blogs and the blogger pours out their heart and then, never returns to let readers know what’s what, I often feel a bit concerned and wonder what is going on. Blogs make us responsible, accountable, we can’t just say stuff and assume it’s not important to others because, well, it is. We cannot assume no one cares. We’re all in this together.

Monday, Monday...

After I wrote that post, I was actually quite overwhelmed and even moved to tears at times by your reaction – not just the comments but also the very personal emails, Facebook emails, tweets and even text messages and phone calls that rolled in and are still coming in even though it’s been nearly 3 weeks since I wrote it. I must admit that I assumed only a few of you would really “get” me or relate (boy, was I wrong!) and the rest of you may simply skim through it and move on to the more fluffy and pretty design posts, but you didn’t… You stopped, read, and tried to relate and it felt amazingly validating and beyond encouraging. You really blew me away. THANK YOU. So yes, later today I’ll post about a few of the plans of action that I’ve taken since and how so far, I’m beating “this” – though I’m still not exactly certain what “this” really is yet. I’ll also tell you about a few aha! moments I’ve had, epiphanies if you will…

Back in a moment with beauty to inspire… Then I’ll begin writing Thoughts on Being Honestly Happy: Part Two.



(photos: holly becker/instagram)


  • Reply Naturally Carol September 17, 2012 at 2:50 pm

    You touched my heart with that post..I think it was because we are in this life together and I look forward to sharing this journey with you..and the seven billion others on the planet…though when one of us shares their heart it’s that one that we listen to at that moment.

  • Reply Ursula September 17, 2012 at 2:53 pm


    Lovely post – and thanks for “letting us know”. You are right – I often have the same feeling when reading blogs that you read, you comment, you think about what was written – usually before commenting ;-) – but then life goes on and you never hear about it again …

    It is very nice and thoughtful of you to let us readers know how you are doing! Sweet of you!

    Looking forward to the part 2. :-)



  • Reply elizabeth September 17, 2012 at 3:00 pm

    I read your post before, and wanted to comment, but didn’t because I couldn’t figure out exactly what to say. For some reason, reading this follow up, I had a few things come to mind: I think it is important to really FEEL whatever the “this” is that you are referring to, to sit in it and be ok with feeling that way. I think we all go through it at some point, but I don’t think people usually talk about it because we feel weak. We are supposed to have it all figured out, right? Life is full of transitions and sometimes we don’t recognize ourselves anymore and we get freaked out. At least that is how I feel right now. I am learning to accept that I am changing and even embracing a “rebirth” because that is what’s happening whether I like it or not. It is a scary day when we realize that as much as we think we are in control, what we really have control of is very limited. That is the point at which I say, ok, God, I’m tired of fighting you for control. What do you want from me? Guide me. I surrender.

  • Reply tinajo September 17, 2012 at 3:12 pm

    I´m glad – the internet world is pretty fab! :-)

  • Reply Sandra September 17, 2012 at 3:16 pm

    I look forward to reading your “part II”. I don’t know what it is exactly, but even when you are doing a design-y post, you always sound distinctive and unique and down-to-earth. Like you took the time to REALLY think about what you wanted to say. And it comes through.

    And as a reader I appeciate that you, a “big” blogger, took the risk of being more vulnerable in the “part I” post. I know for me, that I want not to just see the pretty pictures but also to know a little about the person behind the blog.

    So thank you for that.

  • Reply Desha September 17, 2012 at 3:58 pm

    Hi Holly and Happy Monday to you!

    Thanks for returning to “that” post, b/c your readers do care about you- I care about you! You are such an inspiration in my life, I turn to your story and think of how you listened to your inner heart when you quit your job and how you just persisted.

    But what’s troubling is, now you seem to have everything- where is your dissatisfaction coming from? Is it that you are driven by your goals and once you’ve accomplish them, you don’t have something big to look forward to? I have a good friend who told me she became depressed after her 1st big novel, even though it was very succesfful. I’ve felt like that before- kind of like the depressed feeling on Christmas day? That is was more fun buying and wrapping the presents than actually opening them? :)

    I’m sure you have tons to look forward to, as your plate seems more than full, so what is it? I think we all want to know, b/c we aspire to be more like you :)

    I recently wrote a bit on the feeling of dissappointment (not due to success unfortunately, but b/c I didn’t get something I wanted) plus five things that made me feel better. Hope it helps a teeny bit. Much love to you.


    xo Desha

  • Reply charlotte hedeman gueniau September 17, 2012 at 5:14 pm

    right here waiting for your post… you should write a novel – when you are personal you are really excellent… am sure your style would be loved and bought by many… I would by it for all my friends and myself even before you write it..

    • Reply decor8 September 17, 2012 at 6:26 pm

      @charlotte – you’re wonderful – thank you. Maybe I will do just that. xo

  • Reply Esther September 17, 2012 at 5:16 pm

    I totally GOT that post, so am looking forward to the follow up. For me, this Momday was my first day back in the office after sailing Greek Islands for 2 weeks. Gah, was I burried in work and unread e-mails. So now, some down time and reading your blog. Woohoo! And… I handed in a freelance article for a magazine… and they loved it and want more of my work. **jumps with joy** (If you read my commend in the other post, which I doubt with 250 comments, you see why this is important to me).
    Take care!!

  • Reply Decofairy September 17, 2012 at 5:20 pm

    Great posts…You are in my mind! I have no words :)

  • Reply Louisa Blackmore September 17, 2012 at 9:53 pm

    Holly you have such a gift for writing from your heart, it’s really quite extraordinary. It’s very true that you get what you give, and I think all of us readers who are reading and commenting are responding to your honesty in these wonderful blog posts. I love decor8 blog as much for your personal posts as I do for the design tips and inspiration. Looking forward to hearing about the “aha” moments, they always come at a funny time I find! :) x

  • Reply fenny setiawan September 18, 2012 at 4:00 am

    This post makes me smiles… You are such a wonderful person that I ever know in blog land. Thanks for the little update and wish you always all the best for whatever you plan.

    Blessed day!

  • Reply a September 18, 2012 at 8:17 pm

    i left a long-ish comment on the last post (i dare say it was a list). i was so happy you got me thinking about the topic in a different way.

    one HUGE one i forgot, is positive self talk. for me when this is combined with prayer and remembering the meaning of truly inspiring affirming verses (we are all truly worthy of love) i can’t help but feel at peace.

    another thing is becoming more aware of your subconscious beliefs about yourself. like for myself if i procrastinate too long i end up telling myself i am “lazy” and end up feeling guilty for quite a while.

    really for me it comes down to living in *the now* and being truly aware of thoughts and how they impact emotions – finding a happy place in the day before “letting go” a bit.

    i’m no guru though, no matter how i portray myself in this post ;) for right now i need to develop a bit more discipline in practicing the things i’ve learned. i have probably gone more in depth on these types of topics as i come from one of the rougher family situations you can imagine, and struggle with ptsd as a result. but the leaps and bounds i’ve made so far – i’m very proud of. and if the things i’ve gone through can help *anyone* else, well that’s awesome.

  • Reply Barny September 26, 2012 at 11:35 pm

    Hey Holly…

    did I miss something essential or have you not posted that follow-up yet? I’ve been jumping on the blog back and forth hoping to find it because yes, I guess we are all with you in that same boat and want to know how you feel…

    I really hope you are doing better now…

    xx Barny

    • Reply decor8 September 27, 2012 at 1:06 am

      @Barny – I will post tomorrow, I’m sorry I got really busy with work but I’ve been meaning to write a follow up – I just need to be in the right ‘head space’ and I’m feeling that tomorrow will be the day!

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