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Thoughts On Redecorating & Home Ownership

I’ve been thinking a lot about redecorating lately. Pinterest doesn’t help and neither do my bloggy friends (Ahem ladies Steffi, Bri, Victoria). With so much inspiration around me, the dominos are leaning in my direction and I’m about to fall into the whole redecorating trend too. In fact, it started this morning when I ordered this minty green desk lamp. Now I’m thinking to host a big yard sale in early May so if I do, I’ll let you know so you can come help remove things so I can add things again. Ya know, a decorating support buddy system.

My sitting room

My home (sitting area shown above, shot by my husband for Decorate Workshop) is in my own book now, and has appeared in magazines and around the web, which gives me that added boost to redecorate again so I can show some new ideas. I love to inspire people and I LOVE to decorate so why not. Plus, I want to paint and wallpaper and buy a new rug and experiment with a new palette and and and AND. Always and.

Mood Board

When I think about changing up everything, I can’t help but think back to my childhood and teen years as I ran from home store to garden shop to flea market with my mom picking out things for our home, yard, garden and patio. I remember being in my twenties decorating my apartments in Boston. I constantly moved around trying out new apartments, new roommates, new arrangements of things… I loved the thrill of moving and setting up all over again. It was somehow a kooky hobby of mine. I think I lived in 10 different apartments in 10 years. Each new place held promise of a new decor. A clean slate. And now, several years later, here I am with my husband in northern Germany with a full schedule and very little time to decorate and “play” in my home. I guess when you get older you kinda realize you’re a little nuts to move so frequently because it’s expensive and a little draining after awhile… though since I got married, I’ve lived in 5 different addresses so I guess I’m still unsettled. I live in this super gorgeous rental apartment and  I still dream of moving to another one and starting all over again.

But today something happened that scared me a little. I wonder what you will think.

This morning my husband woke me up with a one year plan. He always does this to me… ‘heavy talk’ first thing in the morning. By this time next year he wants to buy a home or a big city apartment with space for work studios. I sat in my bed thinking, “Honey, can I first shower and get a cup of coffee?”. Seriously. A one year plan with my eyes half shut. Yippee.

Then I thought in the shower, OMG. Now that I have saved up and thought about this moment for years I’m anxious. “Do I WANT to buy a home?”.

What if I move and find that I just can’t stay in the same house for the rest of my life? I worry about this. I moved around a lot as a child and as a young woman – and the pattern seems to work for me. It’s not like the real estate market is the same in Germany as it is in America – house flipping and people moving in and out just doesn’t work the same here. Plus, my husband would never buy a home only to move out – he’d want that home to be ours for life.

OK so the decorating queen here needs you to help me out this time. Do you guys understand when I talk about settling into a home and the feelings of OMG that accompany that? How many of you are homeowners? Or do you rent? I wonder if you think about moving as much as I do? Does anyone have the redecorating bug right now?

Loads of love to you today – hope to hear from you in my comments section, I’d love to connect.

(image: top Thorsten Becker, bottom Holly Becker)

Posted by decor8 in real talk on March 19, 2013

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  1. ishtar commented
    March 19th, 2013 at 5:24pm

    I´ve also moved from house to house, city to city and country to country all my life so I can relate to you! The problem with me is not buying a house, but feeling really happy where I live to do so. Havent found that place I want to spend the rest of my life .Perhaps I never will, and its all up to me to feel at home wherever I am.
    Or maybe I do and if that happens I ´d be happy to finally settle in.Although with life its interesting..how you make plans but sometimes it has other iplans for you.What I´ve learned is that nothing is definitive. Do what you feel is right for you at the present moment.
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  2. Kathryn commented
    March 19th, 2013 at 5:29pm

    I think there is a sense that a “house” is somehow more static, that is the moving that causes change. I think, rather, it is the change that evolves within ourselves that causes this. Our house continuously evolves (I wrote about it here: http://wp.me/p2uWNl-FD), static is non-responsive. It doesn’t matter if it’s an apartment or a forever home, the place you live will never look the same in five years time. With a home, however, the changes can be even more dramatic because you have more control.

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  3. Tanya commented
    March 19th, 2013 at 5:31pm

    Hi Holly,
    I know what your talking about, myself and my husband are currently ‘trying’ to get a mortgage, and its hard as im not working. But we have a 16month and another on the way (im 10 weeks) and I am so scared! Firstly I didn’t imagine we would be still living in Ireland, since our dream is to live in France, but we have to get serious now and stop “dreaming” and make a home…and secondly it scares the shit out of me, getting all heavy with a mortgage, and life insurance and house insurance! I keep thinking my fairy god mother is going to appear and whisk us off to sunnier climates! I ask you…whats wrong with me?? x

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  4. Tania Welch commented
    March 19th, 2013 at 5:36pm

    I am a homeowner and I have to say I do enjoy knowing my family and I will be here for a while. Even though we intend to stay within these “four walls” for some time, my home is always an evolving space. Maybe that’s why I don’t ever feel “stuck”. The beauty about decorating is that it doesn’t have to be permanent. As you change, evolve and grow, so often your home changes, as least the interior. Home is more than the location but more about the people in it, the feeling that is created within the confines of the walls. With your passion for creating beautiful spaces, your new home would most certainly be a place you that you would find solace in and comfort.

    My husband and I use to toy with the idea of buying a second home in a city that we loved. However, somewhat like you, we didn’t like the feeling of somewhat being obligated only to go to that city because we owned a home there. Instead, we have decided to rent a place for an extended period of time so that we can enjoy different places for a while then be able to return home when our visit is over.

    Maybe instead of being afraid of commiting to a home, you think about the fact that you can always visit different places, maybe even rent elsewhere for a bit, but know that you always have the place you and Thornsten build together as your sanctuary that is truly “home”.

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  5. decor8 commented
    March 19th, 2013 at 5:46pm

    I am really enjoying your thoughts ladies. It is an interesting topic. I often think that because I feel at home inside that I don’t need a physical space to be at home. I have lived in a lot of homes in my life but could always sleep the first night in a new place like I’d lived there for 20 years. Even hotels, I fall asleep the first night with no problem. On my book tour I was away for 3 weeks and never missed “home” once, I enjoyed each hotel and each new experience. I often wonder if it’s okay to be a nomad, you know, emotionally. I think we’re often told we’re a little looney or odd if we love change and challenge. If you love to move it means you have unresolved childhood issues. Thing is, I know tons of people with childhood issues and they hate to move so I think there is really no judgement or psycho-analysis needed. But still, I do wonder if there is deeper meaning…

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  6. Megan commented
    March 19th, 2013 at 5:47pm

    I have the redecorating bug something fierce, but I think it has to do with spring coming so soon – I’m trying to keep it under control by just putting a fresh coat of paint on the walls, giving everything a good clean and doing some rearranging. I’m trying to tell myself that less is more right now.

    We own our home and it was extremely frightening to buy a home but that was 8 years ago in our early 20′s and you wouldn’t believe how the time flies. I look back now and I am so thankful that we made the decision because it is ours to do what we want with. It has also taught me great patience – I may hate previous owner’s design decisions, but do I really want to go into debt to install new flooring? I can live with what is functional until I save enough to replace it with something I will love forever. At times it can be frustrating, but it is so much different making a home out of something that belongs to you. And having my own garden is wonderful.

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  7. Juliette commented
    March 19th, 2013 at 5:52pm

    I totally hear you! My husband always drops bombs when I’m half-asleep, but at night, and then I can’t sleep b/c my brain is hopping down 500 rabbit trails for hours. I hate that!

    And yes, housing here is not like in the US. We started thinking more seriously about permanent stuff as well, and it’s a little freaky b/c the commitment level is higher here in Germany; this means the stakes are higher financially, too. The fact that I’d already moved 18x by the time I was 18yrs (and have come close to doubling that # since then), is also factoring into my German-property angst, lol.

    Is it also funny that last night I told my husband I wished the rest of the house was the same/similar color as our bedroom and half bath? And I’ve been hating on our LR rugs for ages now, too. So yes, I’m with you Holly!
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  8. Tamsyn Gregory commented
    March 19th, 2013 at 5:57pm

    I completely understand the redorating it can feel like a new start but you don’t have to move and there is so much gorgeous inspiration around, so many fab wallpapers and colours ;) I have moved around masses in my life, some houses I’ve owned some rented. It is hard to settle in one place. I think its in the blood you are either a person who stays put or not. I have moved 4 times and moved shops 3 times in the 8 years that I have been with my OH. We are trying really hard to stay where we are, we have an amazing house and love the area but we have itchy feet… I know we won’t be here forever. Good luck with your decisions.
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  9. Tania Welch commented
    March 19th, 2013 at 6:01pm

    @decor8: interesting! Actually, to me it sounds like you are so comfortable with yourself and with change that you don’t need the “security” of a place to call home. As much as I love going to different places and experiencing different cultures, etc. I am someone who enjoys coming “home” at the end of the day. So what does that say about me? Maybe it’s not the folks, like yourself, that enjoy moving that have the unresolved issues…any psychologists out there? ;)
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  10. Kristina commented
    March 19th, 2013 at 6:15pm

    A couple of the comments have already suggested this — there’s so much more you can do to change a home that you own than one that you’re renting. You can move walls. You can add rooms. The range of possibilities becomes that much greater in a single space.

    That said, all those changes are pricey, and if you sink all your money into your house there’s less for travel and other adventures. You don’t want your home to own you.

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  11. Jen commented
    March 19th, 2013 at 6:24pm

    I have moved 4 times in the past 5 years – not by choice. Now that I am settled in my own home, I feel free to dream and decorate and fuss. For me home ownership – knowing that I’ll be here in 5 years – offers me the stability I need to really unleash my creativity. I think home means something different to each of us. For me it’s putting down roots.
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  12. Melissa commented
    March 19th, 2013 at 6:32pm

    This is a great post Holly. I live in Toronto, and I own a condo. Hubby and I are planning a HUGE life changing move to the country, to a beautiful home on several acres. In this case, homeownership all the way!!!
    After living in the city, and in terms of owning here…. not sure I’d do it again. It’s expensive enough to live in Toronto, and condo life may seem like a good idea in the beginning (a lot cheaper than a home), but in long run it’s a pain in the butt. Sooo many rules to follow, and its actually expensive. I’ve had to sacrifice my lifestyle to be here. Not worth it!
    On the other hand, rentin, although cheaper, is not ideal for us decorating buffs– people are barely allow to paint a colour other than white… and definitely no holes in the walls. I could never follow rules like that :)
    But not all markets and housing options work the same throughout the world. You’re right, in Europe (I have family in Stuttgart), the market is different. People buy, and seem to stay put… prices don’t fluctuate much either. I actually resonate with that… I am actually opposite of you. I grew up in the same house my entire life (besides when we knocked it down and built custom on the same lot). I hate moving. This home that were are about to purchase in the country, is one where I want to stay put. Start having kiddos and build a life…. make the place my own and recdecorate it however and as often as I wish.
    So that’s my take on it… boy was that ever long winded.
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  13. Andrea Guariglia commented
    March 19th, 2013 at 6:40pm

    Well, I guess I always had this spirit of redecorating all this and more now touched with anta inspiration we have in the world for beautiful things that God has given us. At the moment I’m doing this with my room and maybe extend to some parts of the house that is alias of my parents. But soon I will have all the freedom to do this in my own house, my boyfriend lives today in Rio de Janeiro and soon I will be moving there ie a new home view. qo think being a fixed residence or not our inspiration to make us change every moment. I sooo want to have my corner but for some people maybe the constant change is a reflection of his own free spirit. With love Andrea

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  14. Christine / beingoncloud9 commented
    March 19th, 2013 at 6:48pm

    Oh yes, I am having that redecorating bug right now, thanks to Steffi as well! *smile* Re-thinking what is it that I’ve been wanting in my home for a long time but never bought for several reasons (like a sofa long enough that you can actually lie on it – not the small student version anymore) and all the small details like industrial style overhead lighting, a blackboard-painted wall, a brick wallpaper, a Bertoia diamond chair…

    And yes, I also do know these thoughts, ‘can I actually be happy in one and the same place of the world forever’ ? Dear Holly, I think the only way to find out is to try it…and to stay true to ourselves and remain flexible along the way…even if the property market is this weird way in Germany (saving for this one and only property forever, then one day paying a whole lot to an estate agent and therefore, never ever daring to move anywhere else again)…. I think on the other hand it’s so cool to finally be able to be your own creative director in your four walls, in your garden, and the anticipation of this already makes me very happy. And in the end, as you say, you carry your home with you.

    Looking forward to see what you will be coming up with. :)

    All the best, Christine

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  15. Bethe @ TexasLovely commented
    March 19th, 2013 at 6:56pm

    I’m one of those who loves owning a home, but the market is much different in Texas than the rest if the world, or the U.S. for that matter–housing is really affordable here). I always felt like I could invest in nicer pieces once I bought my home because I knew they’d “fit” as long as I wanted to hang on to them. Like the others I feel the freedom to let my home evolve but I’m not wasting money on things that have a place in one apartment and not the next. I lived in my house 4 years before I got married and after my husband moved in we changed most of the decor and the house has a completely new personality. Good luck with your decision, I realize each family (and country) is different.

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  16. Thelma commented
    March 19th, 2013 at 7:08pm

    Well…you seem to be doing really well, so once you’re a home owner, you can always start looking at vacation properties and decorating those as well!
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  17. Katie commented
    March 19th, 2013 at 7:13pm

    Hi Holly!

    My husband and I purchased our first home a few months ago and couldn’t be happier. While it is a big commitment, it is really nice knowing something is yours. I moved five times in seven years, so it nice to have a place to really put down roots and develop a sense of permanence.

    In the end, you should do what feels right. Good luck with your big decision!
    Katie

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  18. Kathryn commented
    March 19th, 2013 at 8:28pm

    I am not trying to ignore what you have written – I just can’t get past how much I love your pink rug. If you really do decide to redecorate and sell it, I want it! It is exactly what I “need” … okay, want… in my living room.

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  19. JAN commented
    March 19th, 2013 at 8:33pm

    I think you may be more concerned with staying in one particular city rather than one home. The positives of home-owning are many, you can redecorate and completely change the feel of a space, so it feels new and different if thats what you enjoy, c’mon Holly, you dont need others to tell you that,. You can do whatever you want without tenancy restrictions. All the money is invested in your own property not someone elses. If you start with a place that speaks to you, has good bones, just plain feels right, all will be wonderful. I have been a home-owner for years and years, have owned 3 different homes and each went through several changes, and as much as I love the one we”re in now, I dont rule out another move. When you enjoy ‘making house, as I call it, change is always a fabulous challenge. The scary bit is finding the property, after that its a fantastic adventure. Go for it!

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  20. Shobha commented
    March 19th, 2013 at 8:34pm

    Yes, I’ve bounced around a lot in my homes (and countries) too. The promise of a clean new start is too good to pass up – sort of like a blank piece of paper. I have, however, owned our last few homes. Sometimes I think this will be my “forever” home but after about 3 years I get bored with what I’ve got. The 3 year time frame may be related to the need as an American subject to worldwide taxation to be in a primary residence for a minimum of 2 years to avoid capital gains tax. Now that I own, I can’t go back to renting. You can do so much more with your own house – tear down walls, put up walls etc etc. It’s quite addictive. You might really like owning!!!
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  21. heidi commented
    March 19th, 2013 at 8:36pm

    Hi dear Holly,
    I think you and Thorsten can buy a home now and enjoy it for how ever long you both feel comfortable in the home – and in Hannover.

    And if in 5,7 or 10 years time you feel like a change, then you can always sell and move on. To another home or to another city or country. It is true, that here in Germany the concept of flippin a house is not common. But there is something between settling in ONE home for life and constant moving.

    The good thing is, that you have a beautiful place with ample space and there is no pressure to find a house asap. You can take your time finding a place that i right for you. Usually a house finds its owners, not the othre way round…

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  22. Angelique Hoffman commented
    March 19th, 2013 at 8:38pm

    Hi there,
    I’ve never left a comment but love reading your blog each day that it arrives in my inbox. Your post today resonated on a personal level, so I felt compelled to reply. A hippie kid from San Francisco with divorced parents, we moved a ton growing up, then in my 20′s living in rentals at the beach, my husband and I moved 10 times in 12 years. After child number 1 came along, we relocated to Denver, bought and sold 2 houses and then relocated again to Maryland to buy house number 3, where we’ve been living the past 6 years—oddly happy being here for so long, which I believe is our record. We didn’t buy the 1st 2 houses to flip, just weren’t the perfect fit but good starters and the 2nd we moved out of to get closer to his family. I don’t worry too much about selling any house we’ve owned because I always believe in the beauty of that home and my ability to make it shine and that it will appeal to most buyers if the need to sell should come up. I’m currently redecorating now, to add more of my current decorating personality to our aesthetic + incorporating Feng Shui. The gypsy in me battles the desire to move several times a year but also know that should an opportunity arise that will take us to a new place, that will be the right reason for a new home. For now, I love our home as if it were another family member that provides us creative spaces, shelter, warmth, togetherness and know that visuals are fluid and my personality will always crave change whether small or big, I try to temper that at times but also embrace that. I love the floorplan & vibe of our home now and feel it is packed with possibilities for change in the coming years—so much to do, that this house will never bore me. If you find a place and fall in love with the location, good bones, energy of it, you can mix it up numerous times when you get that gypsy itch to move again!!
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  23. Tazim @ BeingTazim.com commented
    March 19th, 2013 at 8:38pm

    Hi Holly,
    I’m definitely of the restless kind. I’ve lived in 10 apartments/rental houses in the past 11 years. I always feel like I want to live in different cities, though there aren’t many that don’t have winter, here in Canada – which is why I’ve been in Vancouver for so long.

    I have been living with my best friend for 12 years, but I’ll be on my own for the first time, next month. I’m looking forward to fixing up my apartment so that it reflects my own style, and to be able to organize it to suit my needs.

    I thought for a bit about saving up to buy an apartment or condo here in Vancouver, but instead, I’d rather save up money to re-locate and start again somewhere else. This is really not a city for buyers, unless you live way out in the suburbs. I’m just not interested in that. I don’t think I’d be happy to stay in one home or place for very long. I used to travel for at least one month of each year, because I got so restless.

    Looking forward to seeing what you come up with for your sitting room
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  24. Corinne commented
    March 19th, 2013 at 8:44pm

    Interesting post and reflexion Holly. And funny how hubbies have a way of initiating the heavy talk at weird times of the day (mine always drops bombs after 11pm when my eyes are already half closed from being tired). We are homeowners and bought our place in Paris even before getting married but we knew that it was more a long time investment than a place to live in for the rest of our lives. We actually only stayed 3 years before relocating to Germany. It is now rented and the rent pays for the mortgage.
    Since relocating to Brussels after living in Berlin we regret that we did not have the opportunity to get a place there. I see buying a place more like an investment to secure our future once we retire. Even though we live in (evil) “socialists” countries in Europe I seriously doubt that when we will have the age to retire we’ll get much of a pension at all.
    However I know from being German and having lived in Germany that Germans view buying a place more like a one thing in a lifetime, rather than an investments like the Brits do. I would find this a little scary as well. You shouldn’t feel tied by buying a place. We do live in a time of global mobility. I guess that to make you feel less tied you should think about the possibilities and options of renting or reselling if for a reason or another you have to move. Knowing your options will make you more at ease with the entire idea of ownership.
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  25. Sarah Seung commented
    March 19th, 2013 at 8:47pm

    Hi Holly,

    Your rental is just beautiful. I know what you mean about the overwhelming feeling that can accompany settling into a home. My husband and I own our apartment and we are looking to move too, to a larger home. Part of me thinks “wow, I spent all this time and energy decorating this place, and now I’m gonna move.” But I also love that I will be able to redecorate, and I know I’ll take my same skills with me. In fact, I’m hoping that the person who moves into my home can appreciate what I’ve done. (Because the previous home owner didn’t even pick up a paint brush). I would love to move into a home where the person really cared about how they decorated- and maybe I can inherit some decorating treats while of course adding my own touches. If you do decide to move, can’t wait to see what you come up with.

    Sarah

    Sarah

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  26. Ana commented
    March 19th, 2013 at 8:49pm

    Hi Holly

    I’ve remembered a lot of my own situation. Since I left my parents’ house I lived in 9 houses for rent. For two years I live with my boyfriend in home ownership. Ok, I’m happy. But I miss the excitement of having an empty space to decorate!

    The house is nice and well located. So I’m looking forward to save some money to reform and change a little the decoration.

    I love your blog!

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  27. ClassiclyAmber commented
    March 19th, 2013 at 8:50pm

    Sounds like a possibility to your situation is maybe BECAUSE you’ve never really settled home-wise, it is creating fear? A fear of the unknown? But I have to say that I really agree with Kathryn above, in stating that there truly can be MORE freedoms in owning your own place because then you get to customize it more to your liking as time, finances and creativity allows. And you will still get to travel around and experience new places hopefully.

    We have owned our home for nearly 6 years now and totally love it. I can see myself living here until the day I die, and watching all my kids grow up here, maybe get married here and all these potential life experiences pass through my mind. It all happens right here. 4 of our children were born here. [They say that a home is not truly lived in until it has had at least one birth, one marriage and one death] I see our home remaining the same in some ways, but also changing in other ways as we change and time changes. It is growing with us.

    I might be old fashioned and sentimental, though. Also this land our home was built on was land that was farmed by my great grandparents and their family. I have family all around this area, too. So the roots run deep here and definitely play into my feeling uber established in this spot. :)
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  28. Michelle commented
    March 19th, 2013 at 8:52pm

    Hi Holly,
    I can definitely relate to how you’re feeling. Ever since leaving my parents’ house at 18, I’ve never felt like I’ve had a permanent home. Since I rented (and still rent), I’ve always been reluctant to invest in decorating and leave my landlords’ apartments peppered with holes. We moved to Montreal two years ago and are gearing up for another big move, so I don’t think this feeling of ephemeralness is going away any time soon! I do long for the day when we’ll finally own property and know that we’re staying there for a while.

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  29. Kelly commented
    March 19th, 2013 at 8:58pm

    Hi, Holly.
    I read your blog often, but don’t usually comment. Well, today I’m diggin’ in!

    I think this is a great topic of conversation and one that I’ve thought of quite a bit. I moved a ton in my twenties. Pretty much every year. And after my husband and I got married we continued to move. Over and over again. Last August we bought a house. After so much renting it really was a dream to finally have a place to call our own. But, like many things, there are two sides to this coin. With your own home you have such freedom to do pretty much whatever you want! But it almost can be paralyzing because of that very same reason. And, you also have the responsibility. The commitment. Something that you really need to take care of. It’s yours, the good and the bad. I think that idea of commitment can be scary. But, if you really think about it, it’s just something we carry around in our heads. Of course we can always move again. People do it all the time. Buying a home is not a life sentence. But it can be if you let it.
    Like some of the comments above mention, it is a beautiful thing to be able to grow and change over time with your home. To develop a more meaningful connection to a space. To slow down and take your time with projects. To realize that you can become inextricably bound to something, yet, at the same time, still have the freedom to move on if that’s where life takes you.

    Oh – and yes!! I totally have the re-decorating bug right now! But it’s not really re-decorating given that most of the decorating part has yet to be addressed. For me, Spring is the ultimate inspiration.

    Thanks for bringing up such great questions!

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  30. Julie commented
    March 19th, 2013 at 9:11pm

    Hi there!
    This is my first post to any blog, ever. I am probably at the other end of life’s perspective. Newly retired (early for us, so blessed to say), we recently bought a new house in Myrtle Beach SC. Coming from a lovely home (which we haven’t given up yet) in CT this is an exciting new adventure for myself and my husband.
    It was a new build, so a totally blank slate to decorate. Not bringing much of our ‘stuff’ with us, we bought basic stuff in which to build our little nest from. In my earlier years, with no kids, then kids, then grown kids I have moved a lot. More so early on, not so much in the past 15 or so years.

    The idea of decorating has always jazzed me up. Now that I have a new chance to start from scratch again, I find myself excited and unable to move at the same time. I have so many ideas swirling around in my head, I can’t decide what to do. That’s when I started surfing around and looking at DIY blogs.
    I’m finding them interesting and informative, and am noticing how much more together you younger Mom’s and women seem to be then we were at your stage! You seem to have your priorities, agendas, schedules and time to shop, decorate refinish and enjoy it all at the same time!
    I don’t remember ever being so together at that point. I envy you in our times
    with so much at your finger tips to explore and incorporate into your lives.

    Now, I realize that although I am 59, and not 39, I have been given this wonderful opportunity to tap in and take advantage of those very same exciting things! I don’t have to be so organized, or have a schedule, because I
    have the time! All the time I need to learn and create new!
    So I admire, you bloggers, and am learning new things from you guys daily. And I thank you for having the tools and time to share your fun and interesting adventures with us all.

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  31. Silvia commented
    March 19th, 2013 at 9:17pm

    Hello Holly. I’m a compulsive mover – i too love the thrill of starting new, decorataing, all of the fun stuff. I moved from South Africa to London (9 moves in 10 years) and now i’m in New York where (horrors of horrors) we have been renting the same house for over 6 years. Unbelievable. We are in the process of buying our first home here in the States and i am scared too. Scared i’ll have wanderlust or get bored. But i like the idea of my kids having some kind of stability growing up (they are almost 4, and 8) and of making a home my own. With renting there’s always a temporary sense in decorating, we can’t even paint the walls or put up shelves and i am desperate to do my own thing in my own space. I think it’s important to remember that we don’t know what the future holds and if you do go ahead and buy a place but want to move, you can sell, if you want to, or you can rent your place out and rent somewhere else for a while … i am trying to remind myself of the same thing because altho i want my own place (and my money not to be going into someone else’s pocket), i am also scared and not sure i want to settle down into the same home for the next 20 years – yikes. Good luck with the big life decisions Holly but in the meantime, have fun redecorating. Because buying is at least a year away and you can take all the gorgeous new things with you if you go. x

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  32. maks commented
    March 19th, 2013 at 9:24pm

    Homeowner and decorating maniac living in Germany ;-). We had our house built with kids and our financial situation in mind (we picked a clever/interesting house “off the rack” for a good price). After 8 years and 3 kids later I still love it though I would do some things differently with everything I know now in mind ;-). I repaint frequently. Our hallway’s had 3 different coats of paint so far, same as the living/family room. Most rooms get a major makeover every 3 to 5 years ;-) and I constantly swap textiles and accessories. Some may say I have not found my style yet, I say I just get bored easily. Our taste is very different so we try to stick to neutral, affordable furniture. Our house is no showroom and the kids get to jump on the couch and build spaceships and castles with the furniture and cushions. Don’t worry, I’m sure you’ll find the perfect place. Just leave yourself the space/freedom to reinvent your home over and over ;-). Have a great day and P.S. I love your pink rug, would you mind sharing where you got it?

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  33. l o v e l y t h i n g s commented
    March 19th, 2013 at 9:33pm

    Totally get this….we have lived in quite a few houses and I do love the idea of a new project. The idea of settling into one house forever is a bit daunting. But then having said that…it might confuse you to know that we are living in a house we purchased about a year and a half ago and I only saw it in photos until last July 4th weekend. I trusted my husband that much…yikes! We relocated from Southern California back to Connecticut.

    What a yard sale that would be! Your home is absolutely gorgeous and I can spot it on Pinterest in an instant. I adore that pink rug!
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  34. Suzanne commented
    March 19th, 2013 at 9:36pm

    Holly,
    What a hard question! But I will give you my two cents-whatever that’s worth! I happen to live in the hardest hit American states for real estate: Nevada. It was and continues to be a burden for all of us living here. I used to think that owning a home was the most financially sound decision and you are right about Germany and America being totally different. I have changed my mind and the idea of renting seems so freeing to me. I envy you all who rent!! :)
    On the flip side, use your gut always and if it feels right and you both see the promise-go for it! Good luck and a great topic to ponder.

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  35. Frau Sued commented
    March 19th, 2013 at 9:44pm

    Oh I know exactly what you mean! It is absolutely horrible but as soon as I am “ready” making / decorating my home, I want to start all over again because I am no longer satisfied with what I liked first. It is like a river and I have to say that I think this is pretty normal. By the way we are house owners for a long time and this didn’t solve my “problem”: first we owned a flat, after being pregnant for the first time we bought a house, got another child and after a few years we wanted to build our own dream-house, which was a great thing, great time, great fun, really! Then my former husband got pretty mad and we got divorced and he sold our house really fast. And now I am living again in a very big, very nice house but I am – again – looking for a new one. My (now 4) kids got older and even if here’s more than enough space for all of us, this house is not making me really lucky and doesn’t seem to be the perfect home for us, do you know what I mean? So we hopefully will move within the next one to two years, buy a new house and I am looking forward to getting new rooms to fill with live and nice stuff. So I think this is a never ending story, some people are made to live in one house for their whole life and others are wandering their whole life.

    I am sure you will have a great time searching for a perfect house and making it a home!

    All the best,
    Kristin
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  36. Katie commented
    March 19th, 2013 at 9:52pm

    This is a really interesting conversation, Holly! Thank you for starting it. I would be interested to hear the views of home ownership from a German perspective. I’m sure they might be different from the American perspective.

    My husband and I have been renting the same apartment in Chicago for 11 years. At one point we looked at buying a condo, but we decided to walk away from an offer after our inspection discovered a lot of problems. That happened right before the housing bubble burst and we thank our lucky stars we did not buy then because our place would have been worth so much less than what the mortgage was for. This has made us a bit wary of buying. We have lost in faith in banks and the idea of the “American Dream” of home ownership. I also learned about myself, that I do not like the idea of owning a condo. If I am ever going to eventually buy, I would like to be a house.

    I do love the idea of being able to decorate and build however I want (wallpaper, super dark paint, new bathroom, etc.), but these options also mean a lot of money, which I don’t have too much of. Currently I’d rather use the money that I do have to travel more than being able to retile the bathroom floor (perhaps that is a poor example). But that’s me. It’s different for every individual. You’re the one that needs to figure out what’s most important to you and your family. Right now for me and my husband we like the flexibility of renting and being able to use our money towards travel.

    We rent and love it, but we’re also incredibly lucky to have a great landlord who takes care of us and wants us to stay for a long time. Home to me can be anywhere you want it to be. It’s a state of mind, not a state of place.
    I’m sure wherever you and Thurston end up, it will be filled with a lot of love and creativity. It’s a fun “problem” to think and talk about.

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  37. Jeni Sandberg commented
    March 19th, 2013 at 9:55pm

    I lived in New York forever, in a string of tiny, not-so-great apartments. I never decorated much but it was fine. I always worked and traveled a lot and home was wherever I laid my hat. Still, my lack of enthusiasm for decorating is a little weird, because my parents were antique dealers, I worked in museums and auction houses and now I sell vintage on Etsy. You would think I would be a decorating maniac!

    I always told myself if only I had a house, I would become Martha Stewart and cook and decorate and be a domestic goddess in every way. One day, I decided I would do it. I quit my job and bought a beautiful 1928 house in a small town in Maryland where, unlike New York, I could afford to get all the square footage a girl could want.

    Now I have room after room, floor after floor, high ceilings, sunny windows, architectural detail–and I still have the same general disinterest in decorating (I know–pearls before swine!). Half the rooms are empty. I’ve been here nearly two years and I am still paralyzed at the thought of the cost and commitment of buying furniture, rugs, lighting, etc.

    Here is my point–yes, I bought a house, and yes, I’m a little slow to warm to it, but despite the fact that home ownership is a big commitment, it still doesn’t have to be forever. I can sell the house if I want to and resume my peripatetic life. It won’t be as easy moving at the end of a lease, but I can still do it. So unlike the people who feel especially rooted by home ownership, I’m looking at it as a domestic experiment, one I can try for as long as suits me.

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  38. nic [luzia pimpinella] commented
    March 19th, 2013 at 9:57pm

    holly, i have been a houseowner for 9 years now, and honestly it still scares me. for me it feels like a millstone around my neck… i’m more a nomad inside, i think. actually i like moving. i’m missing moving.

    i know that we won’t stay here forever, even if it’s our house. our generation doesn’t buy a house to die in it… things can sill change every time. but owning property makes changes more difficult for sure.

    all this is only my personal thinking about this topic.

    listen to your heart.

    XO!
    nic
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  39. All things nice... commented
    March 19th, 2013 at 10:07pm

    Holly,

    Really interesting topic. I have my own home with my husband, we planned everything about it from the exterior look to the interiors. We built it on my husband’s land before we got married last year. We picked a lovely site near to the lakes. We are still decorating inside and have our good sitting room to complete. Also outside we need to paint and build our entrance piers. We planned everything about it from the windows, doors, finishes to the electric sockets… I have rented in the city and never liked it as I felt I didn’t have my own space, a space that I could really put my stamp on and particular open space outside. In rural Ireland most people buy or build their own homes, as it is a tradition and always has been. In ways people say that renting is ‘dead money’ in that if you pay €1,000 a month for rent in 10 years you will have paid €120,000 which would go along way to buying your own home and at the end you have a home for life and for your family in years to come. We were lucky in that my husband owns land and we applied for planning on the land. I know the rest of Europe is slightly different. The problem in Ireland though was that there was a property boom, developers were building lots of houses and people thought that prices were going to keep rising, the banks were giving people 100% mortgages (foolish people took them) and they purchased houses for the buy to let market and as investments, which lead to a false economy and now we have unfinished housing estates and a lot of people in negative equity. For instance homes just up the road from us in a housing estate were on sale for €650,000, some people even bought them and now some of them are for sale for €170,000. This is in a rural village which has no public transport and is over an hour and a half from the nearest city, we have no bank and only two shops. Everyone is different and at the end of the day once you put your stamp on a house, take pride in it and enjoy spending time in it, it can become your home for life :) Sorry for ranting on for so long here…

    All things nice…
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  40. Rona commented
    March 19th, 2013 at 10:14pm

    I have the same fear. But I tell myself, what the hell! I’ve always wanted to own my own home so lets do this. If it sucks, I’ll live and learn. I’ll sell it and move on. It’s not like it will be the end of my life or anything.
    Also don’t worry about spending the money, you have the power to make more money. Don’t give the money the power! You have a creative talent that no one can take from you, that is where the money comes from. So you’ll be okay. Love, Rona

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  41. Kathi commented
    March 19th, 2013 at 11:00pm

    So interesting to read everyone’s views on this. I spent my entire childhood in one home and lived in dorms and one apartment for a few years. Less than a year after we were married we bought a home and have been in this same spot for 33 years! I feel so old writing that. Our home has been a constantly evolving place as we had children, they grew, they moved out and I loved the changes that brought to our home. With a few exceptions we have had a mostly white interior forever, which allows me to easily play with color. Our styles and taste have evolved but we have always loved vintage- the house is 103 years old- and good traditional bones that give us lots of easy redecorating possibilities. I still love our home.
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  42. Tania commented
    March 19th, 2013 at 11:17pm

    I’ve been itching to redecorate too. I often switch up art and accessories (I keep my “inventory” in my long walk-in and pull things in and out when I get in the mood for change. Often wish I hadn’t rushed the process when I first moved in because it is a let down when you’re done.

    I bought my first home when I was very young. My ex-hubby and I bought a condo in Honolulu in Hawaii Kai when we were 23. Looking back now it was crazy. We had a balloon loan, the monthly was more than 1/2 our take home and we weren’t married. Thankfully everything worked out and we sold a decade later at a profit and enjoyed careers that included advancement and steadily increasing pay.

    To this day, even at 44, I lack the desire to commit to another home purchase. Right now, I live on my parent’s property next door to their home in my own 800 square foot space. I won’t buy a home on Maui because I may not stay here after my parents are gone so I don’t want to be locked down with a mortgaged home. I do know this, if I ever buy again, I want a small home. I’ll never go back to a big home (although a studio space does sound really nice!).

    It is stressful buying a home so it’s normal what you’re feeling. Buying a home is way up there on the list of stressful events. Just wait until you have to sign all the papers! Its’ exciting but also very “omg what have I done” inducing.
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  43. Vero Palazzo commented
    March 19th, 2013 at 11:19pm

    I am a home owner (almost, as we have a little loan to pay yet!) but our house is ours! And it doesn’t scare myself thinking “it has to be THE house for the rest of my life”, probably it will be for 10 years, or more, or less…
    but the redecorate thing (now talking from passion, not an expert at all!) can be done in the same house, the times you want (or can, depending on money, of course!). For me it is just a great one year plan… but of course, not to be talked about first thing in the morning :)
    Love, Vero

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  44. Di Nash commented
    March 19th, 2013 at 11:26pm

    Hi Holly
    I have lived in my home since 1978!! I still wake up every morning and love it. I love how it has evolved over all those years as we’ve saved more money and bought the kind of furniture I really wanted, as opposed to what we could afford. I love how the garden has grown and the landscaping is a never ending palette and challenge!! I love how visitors come by and exclaim over all my little touches, and how I can change them if I wish. But most of all I love the neighbourhood (I live at the beach in Newport, Sydney, Australia). I love how we all know who each other is, but certainly dont pry into our each others lives. I love being able to walk down to the beach and say hello to or wave to 10 people in 5 minutes. I love how my children are proud to have been brought up in such a lovely home/neighbourhood and how now that they are grown up they have bought their own homes in the area and continue the tradition. If you are lucky enough to have your own children you will make your own memories in your cherished home. The trick is to buy the one you LOVE!!
    Di xx

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  45. tara commented
    March 19th, 2013 at 11:34pm

    @decor8:

    Hi Holly!

    I also live in germany and bought a beautiful flat two years back. I wouldn’t recommend buying a flat if you can buy a house. If I was to choose again I would definetly go for the house, as you are more independent and can restore it in the way you want.

    Owning a flat means you always have to vote and discuss over everything with the people you own the house with. In my case we own a big garden, but I see no chance to improve it. It could be beautiful but never will be, as there´is no common passion to realize it.

    All the best to you!

    Tara

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  46. Tracy commented
    March 19th, 2013 at 11:43pm

    Holly,
    I, too, had 10 apartments in 10 years, in Chicago! I am definitely an amateur decorator and am getting ready to redecorate (tax return time!) but I wanted to say that owning a house is more fun and also more of a challenge than decorating a rental. I think you’ll love it! It’s you’re own! You’ll most likely become attached to it if it’s yours, and a savvy decorator like yourself will always find ways to make it new again. Go for it! :)

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  47. Making Happy commented
    March 20th, 2013 at 1:04am

    I think you’d be really happy owning. I love knowing that our home is just that – “ours.” I love planting lots of carefully-selected perennials to put my personal touch on the outside as well as decorating the inside. Our home is over 30 years old, but has changed so much since we moved in 14 years ago. We’re always updating and redecorating something. It’s an evolving haven. With all your talents, I think you would find your creativity overflowing in a home that’s really your own! Owning is when I developed a love of gardening and creating outdoor “rooms” and experimenting with color combinations in plants, growing some of our food and enjoying the wildlife that come on our property.
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  48. Allyson commented
    March 20th, 2013 at 1:59am

    Hi Holly,
    I know how you feel. The anxious, nervous, excited feeling about jumping in and just taking the plunge. I do own my home and, for me, it’s what keeps me settled. The certainty of having a place that I know I will love for a long time keeps me sane. I can understand the feeling though that you feel at home, wherever you are. It’s a huge challenge to determine what it is you want and what will make you happy. Home ownership is probably your biggest financial commitment and you want to make sure it’s the right thing, and the right time to do it. Keeping an open mind, being free to whatever happens will help the decision to become clearer for you. And no, there is no deeper meaning to wanting to move around a lot. It’s your need and desire to experience new things and be inspired by change. In fact, that’s probably why you have had success with your businesses; continually evolving and driving change through different and unique experiences, homes included.

    As to your other question, I love to decorate and I definitely have the “bug” right now. In fact, I did a post awhile back about how your home office inspired me to totally re-do my home office to reflect the calm, creative and inspiring vibe that you have created. I’ll be posting the reveal soon so thanks so much for continuing to always inspire me.

    Allyson

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  49. Julie commented
    March 20th, 2013 at 2:02am

    Interesting…I think because you are a bit nervous…or afraid you should
    Do it! The most happiness comes from changes you were nervous or afraid to make. You will love your new home. Evolve girl!

    Julie

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  50. Serena | Pretty Fluffy commented
    March 20th, 2013 at 2:11am

    I ask myself this question all the time.

    For me (and lots of Australians) home ownership is fairly expected once you’re in your 30s/40s – although with Sydney being one of the most expensive cities in the world, it’s becoming out of reach for more and more people.

    I rent, but would love to own my own home so I could do all the decorative things I want to – like others said, knocking out walls, painting etc

    But you should always own your home, it shouldn’t own you. A few cutbacks to afford your mortgage is fine, but if you have to compromise your life too much you’ll end up resenting your home.

    I’m not sure of the market there, but could it be an option to buy and later rent it out if you want to move? Or could you stay renting and buy a investment property and let someone else’s rent pay off your mortgage on it?

    Regardless, looking forward to seeing how you redecorate. On that thought – I would love to hear more of your tips on rental decorating. From getting around rules to the wasteful feeling of putting money into someone else’s property. I can never have too many hints on how you decorate as a renter!
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  51. gesikah commented
    March 20th, 2013 at 2:29am

    Oh, I totally understand what you mean, we moved around quite a lot (usually within about a 10 mile radius lol) when I was a kid. Actually come to think of it, the house my husband and I bought (omg, has it been 8 years ago?) is the longest I have lived in one spot my entire life. I did inherit my mom’s itchy feet though and I have to rearrange my house every few months to keep the urge at bay (and I check out the real estate websites every couple of months to remind myself how awful the market is here).

    That being said, it has been a great investment.

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  52. Katie Truelove commented
    March 20th, 2013 at 3:01am

    I’ve been moving around in NYC for seven years now and my husband and I are moving to a new city and considering buying in the next year– I’ve definitely had similar thoughts. In some ways it’ll be nice to take on more permanent projects but I think I will miss the forced opportunity to de-clutter and re-arrange every year or two;)
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  53. Elizabeth commented
    March 20th, 2013 at 3:02am

    We have to rent because move every 2-3 years (Military) and I long for the day when we are able to own a home that I can take full advantage off.

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  54. dru commented
    March 20th, 2013 at 3:30am

    Holly, I am an Army brat so staying somewhere two years was the longest I’ve every lived anywhere til I retired from my time in the Army. I’ve lived in Germany for five years and I fully understand what you mean about the buying there being very different. One of the big differences is the fact that when you own it, you fix it, anything that goes wrong or wears out, (and if you live there more than two years, things wear out,) you are responsible for paying to fix it. I’ve been in this house for 8 years, that is scary–Roof, windows, driveways, furnaces. So inspect carefully before you buy. In Germany the turnover is so much less, so make sure you love your neighborhood and your neighbors, you’ll live with them for a long time. That was a hard concept for me to understand, even renters stay for 20 years. Find somewhere with a garden, the last house we rented there had a large yard, and that was lovely, we could sit outside and watch the trees. Gave us some breathing space, a luxury in many German towns. Also parking, try to find a place with parking otherwise, you’re searching for on street parking, and schlepping groceries, kids, etc. Although, you’ll walk more. good luck and make sure you feel good before you jump. Your gut knows.

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  55. Aileen commented
    March 20th, 2013 at 5:25am

    I’ve always rented so far but I’m looking forward to one day owning a home. Of course, that doesn’t mean I won’t want to redecorate all the time or at least rearrange and update things…but I like the idea of being able to do whatever I want to a place, if that means tearing out cabinets or changing the flooring, or whatever. You don’t have that luxury when you’re renting…you just have to make do with what you have and what your landlord is willing to let you change. Also, as a renter I feel I’m reluctant to put a lot of money or time into updates that I can’t move with me. That being said, my brother & sister-in-law have been house hunting and I totally understand that feeling of “OMG…this feels so final.” When you’re dreaming of your someday house, of course it’s the most wonderful place in the world because it’s in your head and you can pretend it has every feature you’ve ever wanted….but when you’re actually looking for a real house in your real budget–well, there are definitely going to be some compromises. That’s hard too! It’s an interesting topic for sure. I know a couple who plan to rent their entire life because they don’t want to deal with doing house repairs, etc. themselves. Everyone is different!

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  56. Sheila commented
    March 20th, 2013 at 5:31am

    Omg! I can totally relate. We live in a
    three stores terrace and its beautiful but I’m always ‘restless’ ! I want to move to a condo across the street with a view of the ocean everyday. Or. A small little house that I can maintain. Ha! Where will the stuff go? I’ve moved so many times (13 before I left home) and then lost count. I love the thrill of a new space, decorating, making it all work and in a few years, that restless feeling … Oh Holly! Whatever will you do? I know you could think positive, redecorate every 3, maybe five years…. Could work. I’m thinking of redecorating , too, and maybe living in that condo while I’m doing so.

    Hugs, hope it works out.

    Sheila

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  57. Annie commented
    March 20th, 2013 at 8:27am

    I understand what you are saying completely. My husband is in the military. We’ve been married 10 years and are now living in 5th home (hello from Stuttgart). As his retirement grows closer we talk about where we want to settle and have found it’s the “settle” part of the conversation that’s makes us uneasy. He and I both have the same fears. What if we don’t like the new city/town? How will be adjust to staying in one place for more than a couple of years? If we buy a house will that tie us down? What if we hate our neighbors? I feel your pain. Sadly, I have no suggestions or insight. But I can comiserate with you.

    Side note: I found it funny your husband is a “morning thinker”. I am a “night thinker” and like to have serious discussions when we turn out the lights for bed. My husband finds it as annoying as you do.

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  58. Ann commented
    March 20th, 2013 at 8:37am

    I get your dilemma. What helps me stay contented with my house is that the light is right (facing north in the southern hemisphere), the walls are pure white, there are different rooms so I can have change, and I have a casual look so that peices of furniture can be moved around easily, satsfying my need to play with different arrangements. You can always sell your house anyway if you crave change!

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  59. Rita commented
    March 20th, 2013 at 9:11am

    I know the feeling. We moved from England to New Zealand a year ago and had been renting until 2 months ago. It all feels huge! We weren’t thinking of buying. The market here in Auckland is crazy. But then we had a great op and took it. We have been very fortunate and are really enjoying our space, decorating, planting our edible garden…but it all still feels strange. I’m from Portugal and before England I had also lived in Vienna and Brussels , always in temporary ways. I’m used to moving around and like it! I’m hoping this place will keep it busy for me for many years to come and I don’t get my moving bug. We’re lucky that there are many projects for this home and it is quite spacious (NZ style, too much space around here!). I guess it can be different in an apartment. Unless your surroundings keep it interesting!

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  60. Michelle commented
    March 20th, 2013 at 9:14am

    I am a real homebody and dont enjoy moving at all .. I lived in 3 rentals over about 5 years and then bought my first home at 23. Im now in my second home with my partner. In my rental I didnt paint only decorate I was restricted to what I could do and didnt want to spend money on furniture and decor that might not go in my next home. I shopped mainly at op shops and garage sales for that reason! Now that Im in my own home I feel like my purchases are forever so I can spend a bit more and get quality that will last :) dont be scared take the plunge you will absolutely love having your own home x
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  61. Traveling Mama commented
    March 20th, 2013 at 9:26am

    I would think buying a house in Germany might be a pretty big step for you as an American as well? That is a whole new level of commitment! I think it would be wonderful to own and the market is definitely in your favor right now! I am in a constant state of redecorating… I wonder if my children will have a vision of their childhood home or if I am robbing them of the time they need to get a clear picture because I am constantly changing it!
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  62. Emily commented
    March 20th, 2013 at 9:33am

    It’s so funny you’re currently worried about buying a place, meanwhile I feel like I can’t really start decorating until we stop renting! In Ireland, most rental houses come with basic furniture (couches,beds,tables) and it’s annoyingly limiting. You can’t get rid of the stuff and it tends to be hideous! One day, we’ll buy a house and I’ll finally feel like it’s worth investing!

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  63. Margarida commented
    March 20th, 2013 at 9:49am

    Buying a home sounds very much a Portuguese thing. Most people I know got to their twenties, got married and bought a home – for life!!!!

    The fact of buying a home and then the thought of “oh my god, and if I get fed up with it in a couple of years” also scares me.

    Today I’m living in the centre of London, tomorrow I can be living by the seashore – without any attached mortgages!
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  64. Azzurra commented
    March 20th, 2013 at 11:46am

    Absolutely Love your Blog!! It’s amazing :)
    Check mine out Most Amazing Interiors !

    Azzurra

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  65. Jacqui commented
    March 20th, 2013 at 11:51am

    I live in Sydney where property is expensive, but I am in my second apartment. I feel I have somewhere I can call my own, although realistically I will be paying a mortgage for a lifetime so for most of the part it will be the banks.
    However, I have a roof over my head, where I can make small changes to make it work better for me, and I am putting my mortgage towards my future (not to my landlord), and that gives me a purpose and something to be thankful for.
    I feel like I could be a flipper, but it wouldn’t work for me currently now as I can’t afford the time. I would love to do more improvements, but financially it doesn’t work and I don’t want to overcapitalize.
    It is all about choices, and what matters to you then and now.
    I think if you are looking at long-term or short-term, you need to consider all options and possibilities of what you think works best for you. I mean everything.
    Nothing is perfect and nothing stays the same. But, ultimately, if it covers most of your requirements and you are happy then make the step and accept that you will make changes along the way and it will work out no matter what.
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  66. Afke commented
    March 20th, 2013 at 2:09pm

    Hi, i’ve moved a lot too and because of this very restless. i like to move and start all over again. now that we’ve bought a house and made it our own, this makes me feel so good and peaceful. I can just stay here and settle. But i do know that i dont always want to live here forever.
    greetings

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  67. Marilyn commented
    March 20th, 2013 at 2:12pm

    You are such an amazingly creative person! I love the way you pull things together for harmonious and pleasing outcomes. I just wonder … what will emerge from your deep well of creativity if you decide to swap frequent redecorating for something else … your own paintings, your own fabric designs, your own furniture or clothing designs … could something else fill that desire?
    Love your work! Marilyn Oria

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  68. Lauren commented
    March 20th, 2013 at 2:24pm

    I moved so often while I was growing up that it is a treat now as an adult to get to make those decisions for myself and stay put! That being said, I love to redecorate and reimagine rooms, but now that we own a home, I fulfill those urges by moving the furniture around, switching entire rooms around, or changing color schemes. I find that I have enough freedom within my home to work that I don’t feel panicked by the fact that I’m “stuck” here for now :)
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  69. Rasheda khan commented
    March 20th, 2013 at 2:48pm

    hello Holly
    Go Girl! just go for it, follow your heart.
    who knows, could be what you’ve always been looking for.
    a dream come true xx
    love always Rasheda x
    p.s. i love the pink rug in your living room…so pretty!

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  70. Ashley @ Happy Penguin Press commented
    March 20th, 2013 at 3:25pm

    Hi Holly, I moved a lot as a child too. Seventeen times before college! So I can relate to your fears. As a child, I dreamed of owning a home and staying in one place—it was my goal.

    But now that I’m a homeowner, I DO find that I daydream about moving sometimes. I dream about moving to a new place, learning all about it, and then doing it again and again. I think this is because of my childhood wanderings, but it’s not necessarily a bad thing. I adapt well to new places and love traveling. I can make friends easily and navigate my way through new situations. But it makes homeownership hard in that, though I love my home, I think about moving on at times, which is not as easy to do when you own.

    I don’t have any answers for you, but you aren’t alone! And maybe that helps a bit. :) Best of luck!
    Ashley @ Happy Penguin Press´s last blog post ..The Stars art print

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  71. Miss Drawingdream commented
    March 20th, 2013 at 3:40pm

    i love the photos :)
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  72. Lisbeth commented
    March 20th, 2013 at 5:06pm

    I’m a homeowner, or rather houseowner – a house in the silent countryside, some 15 minutes from downtown. The house is my studio, where I paint, fix up furniture and give my weekendcourses on art and design. One (separated) part is my home, read bedroom + separate bath and walk in closet. When I bought the house I had no intention of leaving my downtown flat, just have the house as a studio/gallery/classroom. But now, when I’ve move out here, I cannot understand why I didn’t do that earlier. Especially since the city is only 30 kilometers away. Like you I’ve moved a lot, but now I’ve found the “perfect” spot and arrangement, and hope to stay for a long time.
    Good luck with your plans.
    Lisbeth´s last blog post ..Trendy Exoticism

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  73. Melanie commented
    March 20th, 2013 at 5:22pm

    Holly! I totally understand this! My husband and I rent our apartment. Frankly, we’re not in a place financially to buy our own place, and if we were, we’d probably have to buy in a place that was further outside the city than we’d like. But even if we could do it, I don’t know that we would. It freaks me out to think about owning a home. I MOVE. I’ve lived in Seattle four times! It feels like a huge commitment to me and I don’t think I could do it.

    And seriously Thorsten…a talk like that BEFORE coffee? Or really, ANY TALK before coffee? Brutal! :)
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  74. Wallpap'ress commented
    March 20th, 2013 at 5:32pm

    Hi, Holly

    I was so excited to read that you are hoping to re-decorate and that you are considering using wallpaper!

    Wallpaper is the perfect solution for creatives looking to express themselves and really make a statement. The style possibilities are endless, as is the selection. I hope you decide to move forward with wallpaper, and even consider tackling the project yourself. It’s much easier than one may think think.

    All the best,
    Wallpap’ress

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  75. Wallpap'ress commented
    March 20th, 2013 at 5:32pm

    Hi, Holly

    I was so excited to read that you are hoping to re-decorate and that you are considering using wallpaper!

    Wallpaper is the perfect solution for creatives looking to express themselves and really make a statement. The style possibilities are endless, as is the selection. I hope you decide to move forward with wallpaper, and even consider tackling the project yourself. It’s much easier than one may think think.

    All the best,
    Wallpap’ress

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  76. Mary Beth commented
    March 20th, 2013 at 6:09pm

    Yes, buy a house. It is different than living in apt., you will have more rooms to decorate probably (family room in addition to living room, extra bath, extra bedrooms, etc). You will have a yard or garden probably that is always changing and needs (fun) upkeep. You can plant flowers or not! My husband and I and children are in America and I love my own space (but can still see neighbors and wave when I need new company)

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  77. Janine H. commented
    March 20th, 2013 at 7:33pm

    Before moving back to Germany ( Berlin ) one and a half years ago, i was a happy owner of an apartment in Switzerland. Back when i bought it, i thought it would be “forever”. But life changes and you change, so when i decided to move to Berlin i sold it. Actually everything you can buy you can also resell.
    Once in Berlin i bought again an apartment, because after being a homeowner before, it’s hard for me to rent. I love that i can decorate and change things inside my apartment without having to ask a landlord and kind of wasting my money. All i do in my apartment i do it for my own pleasure. So that’s what i did with my Berlin flat, everything is now exactly how i wanted it to be.
    For the moment i think this is place where i’ll live forever, but it doesn’t frighten me, as i know if Life decides otherwise, i can sell it. And eventually buy another one somewhere else.
    So, don’t be afraid of the “forever” and think of the possibilities you’ll have to really make it your own.
    Janine H.´s last blog post ..DIY: Stoffmarkt Holland in Potsdam

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  78. Megan commented
    March 20th, 2013 at 8:44pm

    I, too, have moved a lot, although not to a different country. While I do enjoy the thrill of a clean slate and the challenge and excitement of decorating a new space, lately, I’ve been craving a place to put down some more permanent roots. Here’s why: I want control and the ability to change fixed elements (change kitchen counters, take down walls, hang wallpaper, etc), which is something that as a renter I can’t do. I also want to have a garden and gardens take time to develop and fill in (my mom is a certified Master Gardner, so I know this).

    That being said, I would be very picky in the home that I choose to buy, especially if I knew my hubby wouldn’t be willing to move again. To help myself out, I’d make a list of “must-haves” and “wants” and make sure what I bought would fulfill those.

    I hope that helps give you some perspective and food for thought!

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  79. dawn commented
    March 21st, 2013 at 1:05am

    hi holly,

    as like many of the others i moved 19 times in 19 years inc. 3 countries and would say that i thrived on change. time passes and sometimes children make you see things differently. i have now been in the same house (that i own) for 7 years, at times i cannot believe it, but most of the time i love it. there is a calm that comes from being in one place that i never had before. yes, it is a commitment, but if you absolutely HAD to, you can move…you may loose money, time and possessions…but you are not tied forever to your decision. i think with the way you seem to really think things through and prepare i should think you would love to have a space to call your own…
    dawn´s last blog post ..first day of spring…

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  80. yvonne commented
    March 21st, 2013 at 3:22am

    OMG, you are a lot like me! =)

    I am also a very restless person and I rarely live longer than two years in one place before trying out something new. Unlike you, I am looking forward to designing and building my own dream home one day – I am hoping this will give me more peace and quiet. My philosophy is that if the architecture is fulfilling in itself I do not have to think about redecorating all the time. I like lots of different interior styles and sometimes I get crazy ideas like moving into an apartment with lots of rooms, so I can try out a different style in each room, but my big dream is to just strip down. Basically, finding out what I like the most and what is most important to me and just focus on this. I also think I will value the things I own more if I had fewer things. Anyhow, physical belongings are not the most important things in life…

    I just learned about the Enneagram – it is basically a theory that there are 9 different personality types. All the types are linked to a deadly sin. I have not gotten to read so much about it, but I know I am a 7 since I am, among other things, restless and I constantly want to try out different/new things. The deadly sin a 7 has to deal with is greed (makes sense, does it not?). Our personality type is a box we are born into in this life and what we want is to get out of that box. Guess this means a 7 should work on that greed-quality and maybe become more humble? I do not know too much about this yet, and I have also learned that we cannot determine what type another person is, but maybe you can find some answers here? “The wisdom of the Enneagram” is the book I am reading – there is just soooo much “foreplay” before I can read about my type… I hate foreplay! =)

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  81. Natacha commented
    March 21st, 2013 at 5:07am

    Hi!
    I read your post and all I could think of was “If you could marry a man for the rest of your life, why not a house?” hahaha… It’s easier to change with some paint or wallpaper, you can tear down a wall or build up new ones, you can still play with your furniture changing the lay out… I bought a very small apartment after living my whole with my parents in a really big house. Sometimes I hate its size, sometimes I hate the lack of light in some rooms, but everyday I’m so proud that its mine!
    Don’t panic! This is really good news :)
    Enjoy!!!

    PS: you can always sell it and go back to rental houses ;-)

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  82. fenny setiawan commented
    March 21st, 2013 at 6:38am

    I live in Malaysia, Generally people in here feel insecure if they don’t own property or if they are still renting when they got married or settle down. It is kinda interesting for me to read about your post and other comment about what people think to buy own home. I feel that the society, custom, up-bring really influence about this perspective.

    It is kinda ironic at here that most of the time our insecurity related with not owning a house. I feel there are many factors that more important for being happy or secure than just owning a house. I am happy to write this post and the comment, to learn about others perspective.

    Me and my hubby own an condominium in the city, so far I have not get bored to live there, but we have a plan to move to other city.. we’ll see.

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  83. Margarita Lorenzo commented
    March 21st, 2013 at 11:28am

    One of the best decisions I have made in my life was to buy this house in London. Not only it has become my home, but my work place too, where I relax, feel at peace and entertaining my family and friends. I see it as my home but as an investment too, try to rent somewhere nice in London and you will see what I mean, you are better off owning and paying a mortgage than a stupid high rent each month. The day I leave to Spain for good, if that ever happen, I will sell the house, and with the money buy something back home. I love redecorating and almost each time I clean the house I move things around, but I don’t like moving places very much, I like the stability that comes with being in the same place.
    Buying this property doesn’t mean it will be for ever, nothing is for ever, you never know what is coming round the corner, it is my present life and near future. I feel attached to it, but if my personal life cirscunstances change so it will be my location. Follow your gut’s feeling and your heart, of course buy with your mind. All the best, buying a property is super stressful but super rewarding too.
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  84. Nicole Nicol commented
    March 21st, 2013 at 11:31am

    Oh I so relate my husband and I have moved so many times and owned a few houses. People buy and sell all the time in Australia but there is a strong expectation of ownership here..it’s the Australian dream. And renting is often looked down upon..silly I know but so different from Europe .

    We have never imagined that any of our houses would be something we would live in forever..even now we are close to family in a place that we are renovating and financially I can do my own thing…but I still don’t see myself living here forever. I often wonder if one day I will feel differently..like people I know that took a million years to buy a home bc they were going to be in it for the next 40 yrs! Can’t imagine that at all.
    I guess it’s nice to have your own place but not at the expense of lifestyle and I’d hate to be locked in forever..I’m glad I’m not the only one that seems to be constantly restless .
    Nicolex

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  85. the chronic utilitarian commented
    March 21st, 2013 at 12:24pm

    holly, there is nothing quite like owning your own home. of course, you own the responsibility that comes with it, but having your own is the best.

    i bought this house just under five years ago. coming out of a painful divorce, i have to say that it healed me. it was a clean slate with dirt.

    *i hope that you find a gardenhome. you will go bananas over that.*
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  86. Jane commented
    March 21st, 2013 at 1:59pm

    Oh Holly! What exciting news. Go for it! There’s nothing like the satisfaction of owning your own place. It would add a completely new, and fabulous, dimension to your life. It’s so empowering. I can’t wait to see what you choose to do.

    It’s also a treat to see my little ‘wish’ and letter up on your board. Thankyou! J x
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  87. Trina commented
    March 21st, 2013 at 4:48pm

    Hi Holly!
    I too have also moved around alot, 7 times in the last 13 years! I loved the chase of looking for a new place, a new space, a new home. But once I moved in, I could never bear to even pick up a paint brush. Since those spaces weren’t MINE per se, I never felt attached to any space I lived in – so why bother decorating too much? It was just a temporary space right?

    We bought a townhouse about a year ago, and now that we’ve been in our house, i’m finally getting that HOME feeling, and the urge to decorate it starting to itch away at me. Especially since the weather is getting nicer here in Canada!

    The fact that the house is OURS, makes a HUGE difference in the decorating decisions I plan to make. I can make more perminent decisions. Like light fixtures, changing baseboards, upgrading flooring, etc.

    I’m so excited to see what it will look like a year from now, and quite honestly I hope i’m never finished decorating our home!

    Toodles and good luck if you decide to buy!
    Trina :-)

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  88. Alisa commented
    March 21st, 2013 at 9:08pm

    I know I am a bit late and your 80th comment – but I wanted to add another perspective. As a fellow American living in Germany, married to a German – and here for 20 years (married 13) – I totally know what the buying vs renting issue is about. I think, however, that there is another side. When I was freshly married and had no kids, I did the “live in a cool old Altbau apartment in Berlin” thing and loved it. That was a good place for us. My son was born there and I became a Berlin “Latte Mommy” pushing a stroller around and enjoying the city. But then due to job offers we moved to Southern Germany and a few years later my daughter was born.

    Again we were in a cool old Altbau apartment in the city. But I “grew out of it” in the sense that it no longer fit our family: with the two kids, groceries up the stairs, neighbors who had noise issues with kids’ feet, parking issues, and schedule issues – one kid wanted to sleep, the other play outside, always having to “take the kids for a walk” like you do a dog and never having the chance to have them play outside while I did x,y,z… The breaking point came when we visited my parents living in a normal American neighborhood and my kids played outside and I realized that as a child one of my favorite things to do was to run around with neighbor friends without a specific plan, just letting life happen.

    So I got this itch that made us find a house to rent – a bit further out of town – in a new neighborhood – a “Neubaugebiet”. I had never considered new neighborhoods, but when we went to visit and saw the the WHOLE NEIGHBORHOOD was young outgoing families and the kids had automatic playdates everyday – we realized this is how our kids should grow up. Best decision ever. 6 years later the owners sold it and we then bought it , threw out the ugly grey carpets, knocked down a wall, and added wooden floors. We made it ours after “trying it out for size” as renters so that was good.

    Yet still – had we never had kids, I would want to be in the city, walking distance to cafes and life. But out here, I can pursue my career (I am a university teacher and private communication trainer -but would rather do what you do) and my kids can open the front or back door and go discover their world. That relaxes me. My city friends, on the other hand, spend each afternoon taking their isolated city children to houses of other isolated city kids for a play date.

    I think you should just think about what kind of a neighborhood fits your needs and then decide what to do. I just know so many people (especially expats) who buy beautiful houses or apartments in places they regret when they have kids. I never knew the secret that the more relaxed neighborhoods with a really community feeling in Germany are the new ones – because all the families are young and have not lived there for generations. It changes the way your daily life is and how they treat your kids. But to my single friends, my neighborhood is really boring.

    Sorry this got long. I love your work and think you are so creative. I just wanted you to know that in retrospect for me the issue of house or apartment – buy or rent – has more to do with whether we are talking about 2 adults or adults plus kids. Hope this helps!
    Alisa

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  89. Kinga commented
    March 21st, 2013 at 9:31pm

    This HAS been on my mind lately. Re-decorate or move? We have been in our home, which is a tiny little 600sq foot loft, for almost 5 years and I love it. We bought it as an investment intending to rent it out when we’ve outgrown the space but I can’t imagine someone else living in it. So now, I am thinking about re-decorating with multi-function furniture (such as the murphy beds/couch combos that I have been drooling over from Resource Furniture)…but we’ll likely end up moving because my husband wants a yard.

    Good luck with whichever you end up with…either way you should document the process, if you re-decorate, write a book about it ;)…and if you buy a home…write a book about it lol. Only good things can come from both!
    Kinga´s last blog post ..The Ongoing Chalkboard Project {4}

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  90. Melissa de la Fuente commented
    March 22nd, 2013 at 1:00am

    Oh, I ALWAYS have the redecorating bug. Always. Always moving things around, trying to improve upon things, etc. I understand the “omg” feelings, not because I feel that way ( we own our house & I love the nesting, staying in a spot we love, thing.) But, because sometimes I think WHENEVER I get what I think I have always wanted, I start to get nervous. “Oh, no what if I’m trapped? What if I can’t handle it? etc” I think you will know if it’s right when the time comes. You may fall hard, for a house, and then change your mind about moving around. Or when you have children, you may feel differently….I always feel things can change on a dime and then, what I thought I wanted, changes too. You know what I mean? I totally understand.
    xoxo
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  91. mel commented
    March 22nd, 2013 at 2:31am

    I was the same as you when I was young and a student in the UK. I loved the thrill of it all, and then in my mid twenties I moved house from a city to the country then rented twice more then bought, all this time I loved decorating. Now i’m in Australia in rented accommodation and somehow the appeal isn’t there. Tired of it all I think, chucking stuff out buying more stuff, its rather exhausting and wasteful. Now I would like a forever home but then again it does come with a heck of a lot of maintenance which you don’t get with renting.
    I think you would love buying once you get your head around it and anyway who says it WILL be forever, things happen things change, we never thought in a million years we would be living in Australia 5 years after buying our house, madness.

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  92. Christine commented
    March 22nd, 2013 at 2:40pm

    As a German girl living in the UK I can completely relate to you! We bought our very first house almost 3 years ago and are loving it. Our German friends probably still think we’re completely mad buying a house with the full intention of moving again in the not too distant future.
    Just because people in Germany buy homes they plan to stay in forever, doesn’t mean you have to! No one knows what’s going to happen in the future.
    Christine´s last blog post ..Terrific Tenerife

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  93. Stefanie commented
    March 22nd, 2013 at 3:02pm

    I am owning my home and have been living in here for almost 2 years now. Before that i moved over 20 times in just a couple of years due to my job then. Now it feels great to be settled. Presently I am so happy here that I don’t feel even the faintest desire to move, but nothing is carved in stone ;o)

    Of course I do redecorate every now and then, changing colours, accessories, moving the smaller furniture around, creating vignettes and so forth.

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  94. Kylie @ All Things Lovely commented
    March 22nd, 2013 at 9:08pm

    Your feelings make total sense, I’ve moved around a lot too. I own my home though & could never imagine living in a rented home. In Australia it seems we don’t have the freedom to redecorate like it seems our northern hemisphere friends do. I can’t imagine living somewhere and not be able to repaint, or knock holes in walls, or rip up floors etc

    The romantic in me sees what your husband wants though. If I ever have children I want to bring them home to MY house, a place they can grow & make memories. I never had a settled childhood home, so I guess as an adult it’s something I crave.

    All the best with your decision! There’s nothing saying you can’t rent your home out for a year or two & go somewhere else if you need a break :)
    Kylie @ All Things Lovely´s last blog post ..Freedom’s New Style

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  95. Mary commented
    March 22nd, 2013 at 11:33pm

    Hi Holly,
    As an aussie architect living in Munich I understand your dilema.
    I love to move, redecorate and get to know new neighbourhoods. Before we bought our apartment in Schwabing, I checked the rental market and was sure that if we wanted to move we could rent out our place to cover The mortgage. That knowledge helped me feel more relaxed about purchasing. Although buying a home is an emotional decision, I think picking a location that appeals to others makes the decision “future Proof”. Once you’ve decoated a place Holly its sure to appeal to others if its in a good Spot!
    Have a good Weekend!

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  96. Geninne commented
    March 23rd, 2013 at 4:07am

    I totally get you Holly :) Manolo, the boy and I are getting ready to move into our sixth home (built from scratch). As a couple M & I have lived in 16 different houses. I’ve lived in over 70 different homes in 8 countries since I was a kid (gypsy parents) and believe me, I really hope this home will be the “good one” for us. I’m so tired of schlepping our things around but on the other hand I’m SO exiced to decorate this new place. Hugs from sunny Mexico, xoxo.

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  97. Michele commented
    March 23rd, 2013 at 7:46pm

    I’m pretty sure I won’t be in my current rental for the rest of my life but I always go all out when I decorate. I paint, change hardware and I’ll likely be redoing my kitchen floor soon. It’s what I need to do to make it home. So when it comes to decor I have no problem ignoring the “what if..” moments. In other situations, that’s not as easy. ;) (btw LOVE your pink rug!)
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  98. Hollie @ I'm Busy Procrastinating commented
    March 24th, 2013 at 9:54pm

    I totally understand the “and, and, and” with decorating. We built our custom Craftsman bungalow and moved in five years ago. We’re only planning to be here three more years at most, if all goes well. I’m ready to start redecorating or repainting rooms, but my husband doesn’t understand why. I try to explain that it’s been five years for some rooms, and I’m always up for change. And other rooms constantly require (okay, “require” might be a bit strong) tweaks as my design preferences change. I could do “and, and, and” up until the day I start packing to move out!
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  99. Kelly commented
    March 25th, 2013 at 2:19am

    I have moved many times, from house to house, country to country and I still want to move again. I know the feeling, there is kind of a resistance to settling, especially if you come from somewhere else. It is scary to put roots down when something is not settled inside. I left the States long time ago and I have lived in Australia, France, Britain, never really feeling at home. I’d like to go home, but now feel I don’t know where home is….I know the next move will be to a sunny place with no winters.

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  100. lei commented
    March 25th, 2013 at 11:58pm

    i’m a young one, so i don’t have too much life experience to offer up. i lived in one house for a long time but then moved on average every two years ever since. then of course there was the whole going to college bit and moving out nine months, three months, nine months, three months, etc. the pattern of the last 10 years of my life has totally put me in a pattern of temporary living. i finally live in my first grown up apartment, but i’m totally getting that redecorating/moving vibe. i think it has to do with being so busy and shut in during the winter months and wanting to kind of regroup. my boyfriend and i are hoping to move out of this apartment once our year lease is up (june 1!) because we’ve already outgrown this tiny space (348 sq feet, and we both work from home, although not consistently). we have no room for furniture (even a COUCH- oh oh oh, something i never really cared about but now something i covet).

    i can understand the feeling of redecorating/moving even in a bigger space- you might just outgrow it. but i think that’s why house hunting is no easy game- you have to envision the place as a long term commitment and see you and your family growing into it for a long time.

    i do hope to buy property one day, but that’s a while away. i wish you luck with your one-year plan! here’s an upside to owning a home- you can do WHATEVER YOU WANT to it! decorate and renovate any way you dream. that’s pretty exciting, huh? :)

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  101. Aviva commented
    March 26th, 2013 at 11:57pm

    Hi Holly!

    I lived in just 2 homes growing up, but I can assure you: the decorating and redecorating never ceased. My mother is a retired art teacher and current interior designer (for residential clients).

    She would design slowly, it was mostly about “the hunt”. She’d draft an idea, dig and search for things to implement it with (including her own mural-painting-skills) and do it, then tweak it until it was just right.

    Even when a room was “done”, it was never stagnant…she’d change it up for the season, or she’d find some fabulous piece and incorporate it, or she’d repaint the walls. Having a handyman we trusted was great – he made all sorts of custom things for us.

    It’s a different mindset, but I like it: instead of having a new canvas to work with, you get to tweak and perfect the one you have. And, there’s less guilt when buying or building something that fits just right, because it’s a long term investment. In my tiny apartment I hate buying tiny-apartment specific things because it feels so wasteful! For example, although I’d love it – I can’t bear to build a cool shelf into the nook in my bedroom because I know eventually I’ll have to leave it behind!

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  102. Sophie commented
    March 27th, 2013 at 6:28pm

    Hi Holly,

    I have lived in the same house with my parents since I was born and I am in the process of buying my first house with my boyfriend (long term, I think we’re stuck with each other :-)) and the idea of buying can be scary as its a massive financial commitment but the advice my mum gave me is what can be done can be undone, same as with interior decor. It may sound like a flippant thing to say but it’s true! We found out today that our contracts have been exchanged so we’re really doing it, but it’s an adventure! I get bored really easily so naturally I’m worried about committing to living in one space for so long that actually belongs to me and not my family buti’ll never know if I don’t try. With your passions and flair you can make any house your own!

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  103. Mirjam commented
    March 28th, 2013 at 5:07am

    Hi there… I’ve been reading your blog for so long that I feel like I’m talking to long-time friend. :)
    I want to redecorate so badly…EVERYTHING in our house. I lived in Hannover before we moved to SC. So I understand the difference in buying a home in Germany versus the US. One thought I had, was that (if you plan on having children) you may want to buy a house with a larger lot so that you can expand. I found that needs and wants change quickly with little ones. (and with me, too!!)
    I would love to build….that’s definitely a possibility for us. While I love historical homes, I am thinking of using reclaimed materials but have new materials for the framework, plumbing, etc…. I’m sure that will save money and headaches in the long run.
    You should just have one of each, an apartment/studio with those lovely stucco ceilings and other details, a home built to your liking, and a beach house somewhere. Ha!
    As always, you are fabulous! And an inspiration…!

    On a different note: do you ever find yourself stuck, because you want to do things perfectly? Or stuck because of too much inspiration? Those are challenges for me….

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  104. Inge commented
    April 12th, 2013 at 3:46pm

    Hi Holly,
    Just read this very interesting post and I can imagine how it must feel to you when you are used to moving. I’m not.
    I’m a home owner with my husband for almost 8 years now. I was 24 when I met my husband, 25 when I married an bought a house with him. Sounds like a scary thing to do, right?
    What’s even more scarier for me was to move to a completely new province.

    Totally different from what you are experiencing: I still feel homesick. I sometimes wonder how you feel, living so far away from your family?

    Even after 8 years of living here I’m still not used living here. I mean, my home feels great (I feel completely at ease when I come home) but it’s the friends & family-part that I’m missing a lot! They live so far away and people here aren’t so easy to make friends with.
    So sometimes I wish I could plant the same home in my hometown, where I grew up…

    I only moved twice in my life and it won’t be the last time. It doesn’t mean when you buy a home that it has to be yours forever. Things change. There’s only one constant thing in our lives: change. Everything changes eventually. Your taste, your needs, your wants, etc.
    Look at me and my husband: we’re still looking to go back someday to my hometown (or somewhere near)… And when we will go back, we’ll definitely need another home than we’re living in now.

    But I can totally relate to what you’re saying: I feel the same redecorating bug as so many others out there. Since I’ve been blogging my style has seriously evolved – my taste in furniture too. So I’ve been thinking to throw out some things too and buy new ones. Maybe I could do a yard sale as well. ;-)
    Have a great weekend Holly and try to relax, I’m sure you’ll work your miracles everytime again!!
    Love, Inge x
    Inge´s last blog post ..Your Spot is Hot: Alaina Kaczmarski’s Chicago Apartment

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  105. decor8 commented
    April 12th, 2013 at 4:16pm

    @Inge – you are soooo sweet, thank you xoxoox

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