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September 4, 2013

Hello everyone! How are you? I’m doing great! Today I’m off to the farmers’ market to buy some lovely “props” for my home – tomorrow and Friday we are doing shoots here for my next book which releases on my birthday next year, March 21, so I have to get the photos in asap so they make the book. I’ve been too ill up until now to style and shoot anything, so I’m glad my head is above water enough so I can work. This is such an important book to me – it’s going to be really unique and full of color, I just know that you will love it.

Hello Friends!

Leslie Shewring and I have been working non-stop since May – so we’re about ready to wrap it up now and move on to other projects – so we’re in the twilight stages. We just can’t wait to see it in the upcoming months printed and ready to go out into the world. Next year will be an exciting time for me with a new baby arriving in January, a book in March and then a book launch party in London in May with some book tours and stuff to follow. I really want to bring the baby to the launch party in London – though it will be so tiny, I think it would be wonderful to share something so special with someone so special – and to have the baby meet everyone and be in one of my favorite cities – bliss! I have so many dear friends in London, I’d love to share the joy and also to meet my uncle who lives nearby. So we’ll see. It’s only a 50 minute flight and depending on the baby’s sleep schedule, we’ll know by May whether or not a plane ride is feasible and good for the health of the little one. If not, no problem – I’ll leave little cutie with daddy and escape for a day or two on my own. We’ll just have to see how I feel and where I’m at in May. Still a long way off…

Oh and by the way… My ultrasound yesterday went wonderfully and we found out that though I’m still not gaining any weight, the baby is growing and is the right size, kicking around and doing so beautifully. My doctor said the growth is perfect according to the charts. Yay! I’m not nearly as nauseous (though I still have nausea) either, which is such a relief. I laugh because I thought by now I’d be a beached whale but I lost 20 lbs and look great – though it’s obvious when you look at my stomach that I’m pregnant. The doctor thinks she knows the gender but wasn’t sure because of the position the baby was in during the u/s – so we will know when I have the 3D u/s in two weeks during my 21st week. I have to say, Germans have no problem giving regular ultrasounds – I think I’ve had 5 already and I’m only 19 weeks! Here you have to see your doctor every 4 weeks and then towards the end of December, I’ll have to go weekly. They monitor pregnancy closely here and watch for every possible sign of problems. What she predicts though, gender-wise, made me smile because I’ve had this funny intuition from the start that came naturally but I’m happy either way so I don’t care what the gender is. My mother didn’t know when I was born if I’d be a boy or girl, but she knew instinctively that she was having a girl so when I was born and the nurse told my mother, “It’s a girl!”, she said she replied, “I know, and her name is Holly Elizabeth”. She said the nurse was surprised and my mother told her she knew from the first day she found out she was pregnant. Funny! When it comes to gender, maybe I would care if I already had children and for instance, had 3 boys – I may want a girl. Or vice versa. But when it’s your first, how can you really have a strong preference either way? I just want a healthy child who is happy and who thrives in our home. I know that even u/s can be inaccurate with determining the gender, so I’ve decided to go neutral in the nursery so that if there are any surprises at birth, I can swap out accent colors and not be bothered with it. And that works for me because that’s my design style in the rest of the house anyway.

I’m also planning to buy clothing that can go either way, boy or girl, so I have the necessities at the hospital to wrap my little bundle in so if there is a surprise, we are prepared and not putting a girl in a boy’s outfit or a boy in a little Liberty dress. Though, hey, anything goes these days right?! It will be the dead of winter so I’ll need to bring a few things to the hospital though so the baby has proper attire. I’m not a big planner and tend to be really spontaneous, so I have to admit that thinking ahead about any of this is a trip for me – I’m just not a planner type, but I guess this will come with parenting and also with parenting in Germany where everything is timed with precision and planned so expertly. Up until now though, I’m pretty relaxed about the whole thing. Plus, I have a wonderful midwife so I have an expert to go to for all of my questions because though internet opinions are well-intended, I am keeping my circle pretty tight when it comes to who I’m listening to when it comes to advice. And thank god because the internet is full of wannabe medical experts!

I want to wish you a lovely day – I’ll be back with some more posts later on. I have a new recipe for a delicious Fig and Raspberry Frangipane Tart to share from Jillian Leiboff, a second recipe and video to share from Liz & Jewels, a new contributor to tell you about whom I’ve signed on for a year to do home tours on decor8, and lots more to talk about. See you later! xo

(image: holly becker)


  • Reply Lucy Chen September 4, 2013 at 11:16 am

    I’ve been looking forward to your post and hoping to find out the gender of your first baby, Holly!
    You’re so right. Having a healthy baby is the most important! And you’ll put on weight in the 2nd and 3rd trimester.
    Do you know that in China, it is illegal to tell the gender of the baby? But of course, people who have connections in the hospital can break the rules.
    Good luck with your new book, too. I enjoyed your first book so much that I’m thinking about buying the 2nd one soon.

    • Reply decor8 September 4, 2013 at 1:32 pm

      @Lucy – Hello! I’m already in my second trimester – my third begins in October. :)
      Yes I heard that in China, because of gender preference and many people aborting their babies if they find out it’s a girl, that it is no longer legal. :(

  • Reply Tanya September 4, 2013 at 1:30 pm

    Hi Holly,
    Im delighted for you, next year is gonna be a big year for you! and yet again I probably won’t make it to London in May for your book launch…Im planning our summer vacay then! pity!!! I am due my second baby 5 weeks today, and finishing up in work today, so all excited. I have Finn at home who is 2 in November, so I can’t wait to spend all the quality time with him now till new arrival! I don’t know what I’m having myself, I love the surprise element, but each to their own:-) and you are right, there is so much wannabe doctors out there – but let me tell you this, your own instinct will be what to follow, it will be very strong, and natural. and just know the more relaxed you are about things, the more relaxed baby will be! its a truly beautiful experience, nothing comes close, so I wish you all joy and the best of health xxx Tanya
    PS: cant wait for your 3rd book xxx love you and Leslie

    • Reply decor8 September 4, 2013 at 1:45 pm

      @Tanya – BIG congrats on your pregnancy – so nice! :)

  • Reply Adrienn September 5, 2013 at 12:32 am

    I wouldn’t worry about flying with your baby either. We took our son to Hong Kong when he was 11 months old and flew with him and our daughter recently to the States when she was only 6 months old. If mama is relaxed baby is too! :)

  • Reply Melissa Condotta September 5, 2013 at 8:33 pm

    wonderful news that you and baby are doing a-ok!

  • Reply Lucy Chen September 6, 2013 at 5:26 am

    @decor8: Hope you’ll put on weight soon. I was only 85 pounds or 39 kg by the end of 4 months. But then my appetite came back and I could eat!

  • Reply Jen L. September 8, 2013 at 4:13 am

    You’ll have to see how you’re doing of course, but if it helps to hear — I flew from Michigan to Paris just before my son was 4 months old. It was totally fine. He slept better than we did! It was brilliant and perfect. We took a redeye so he could sleep most of the flight. When we flew back, we had a short hop from Munich to Amsterdam, then a long flight to Detroit.

    Now he’s two, I think traveling was easiest in the 4-8 month time. There’s no cranky mobile toddler to keep happy, they can and do sleep anywhere. They eat simply (especially easy if you’re nursing). There aren’t tantrums. I had gotten the hang of things by then too, and healed from a complicated delivery. I wish I had been able to travel more in that age range.

    • Reply decor8 September 9, 2013 at 2:44 pm

      @Jen L. Thank you for stopping by and for leaving such an encouragement comment!

  • Reply Nicole September 9, 2013 at 12:43 am

    Congratulations on your pregnancy! I just recently took notice of your blog, and love it because I can totally relate to what you are going through. My husband and I lived as expats in The Netherlands for four years. We had our first daughter there, and loved our Dutch doctors.

    I bought this beautiful infant pram (stroller) that was fantastic for trips to the cheese shop and Albert Heijn, but was really difficult for taking on the tram. My parents experienced the struggle with me one day, and immediately went to the store and bought me a Maclaren stroller. That was one of the best purchases ever. It lasts for two children and seven years.

    If you do take the baby to London in May, it will be too young for a stroller, but you could carry him/her in a Baby Bjorn. My husband carried our oldest daughter in a Bjorn almost every day.

    I miss our time in The Netherlands so much. I think it is just great that you making the most of your time there.

    • Reply decor8 September 9, 2013 at 2:45 pm

      @Nicole – Hello! My husband wants to wear a Baby Bjorn so that sounds like a great option for London as I DO NOT want to bring a stroller around. Thank you!!!

  • Reply dervla September 10, 2013 at 6:10 pm

    Holly – so lovely to hear your pregnancy update. Can’t wait to hear the gender (although i didn’t find out with my girls – it helped get me through labor) of your babe! I think a little boy in a Liberty dress would be pretty amazing :) On top of the baby bjorn suggestion, i’d also add that the ergo carrier was much more useful for me. The baby bjorn is fine when they are tiny infants but it hurts to wear it once they get over 10lbs. The ergo worked best for me because my second baby (Niamh) was born in the winter and it has a really cozy infant insert that kept her warm and dry during cold NYC walks. It’s so comfortable I’d wear it to cook dinner and clean the apartment while the baby slept inside :)

  • Reply Kate @ Songs Kate Sang September 11, 2013 at 7:36 am

    I’m so happy for you! I’m thrilled that you are feeling better!

  • Reply Dianna September 11, 2013 at 10:10 pm

    I’m sure everyone is giving you their two cents but….my guess is you’re having a girl. ;-)

  • Reply winter September 16, 2013 at 7:22 pm

    Congrats on the new bambino news. It is such good news.

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