Baby Essentials For The First Year

January 17, 2014

If you’re a mom-to-be like me, or a newish mom still shopping for baby gear, I hope this post is somewhat helpful to you! My blog friend, Lesley Myrick, who just had her baby boy  a few days ago (congrats, Lesley!), asked me what my baby registry essentials are and shared a link to her blog where she documented all the stuff on her wish list for feeding, sleeping, baby care and travel. Inspired by her post, I thought I’d do the same. Just as Lesley disclosed on her blog, we too haven’t yet tested these things (our son will arrive in about 10 days!), but after a ton of research and advice from friends and readers, we’ve decided to go with what’s shown and linked below. And a big BY THE WAY… If you are lucky enough to register and to have a friend throw you a shower, by all means DO IT. It’s not a German custom to have a baby shower or even a gift registry, so I had to skip both (wahhhh!), but we’ve decided to just throw a party anyway about four weeks after the baby arrives so I have an excuse to decorate, bake and let our dear family and friends meet our little guy. I’ve already ordered the paper pom-poms and bunting and cute straws – I’m getting my baby party, damn it! :)


Crib – The gorgeous (and eco!) Sparrow crib in white from Oeuf NYC is all set up in the baby’s room and makes me so happy, I’m in love! I’ve wanted this bed for years now (I LOVE the legs), so the moment I found out I was pregnant I ran to their website to see if they were available yet in Europe and they totally are – in fact, they are made in the EU. My husband and I just adore this crib and it looks fabulous in the baby’s room. I’ll show you a tour of the room early next week, I’m still finishing up but it’s nearly ready!

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Bassinet  – First of all, they can be really cheesy! I’m not sure what happened in bassinet design land, but most of them are just one big hot mess. Give me a vintage wicker French one, or a mid century bassinet, any day. Problem is, they are tough to find and even tougher in good condition. I didn’t find my dream bassinet but the BabyBjörn cradle (German link or US link), shown below, was the second runner-up so I purchased it we just put it together and love it already, it’s so lightweight so we can carry it all over the house! I really want our little guy to sleep in our bedroom with us for the first 3-6 months and then we’ll move him into his big boy crib – but I know I’ll want him around all of the time so a bedside bassinet is the perfect accessory for us.

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Bedding –  I wanted a warm and cozy blanket that looked handmade for cuddling with mommy, so I found an organic knit blanket in creamy white for a great price from Sonnenstrick. I also bought 2 organic bedding sets from Ferm Living: Robots and Clouds along with a soft Little Remix blanket and the bear quilt. I received two lovely quilts as presents too, one came from Sture & Folke (images here) – it’s lovely with the gorgeous Liberty London prints! And another came from one of my Australian students, the lady behind Alphabet Monkeywho made me the sweetest quilt ever (you can see it here and buy one just like it here). So grateful for these pretty handmade gifts. Thank you ladies!
Baby Essentials For The First Year
Baby Essentials For The First Year


Nursing chair – I was so excited to find a good looking glider over here because most of what I’ve found for rocking chairs and gliders in Germany are equivalent to what Americans had access to in the 1980s before we evolved and started making cooler stuff for baby’s rooms. I hope Germany starts designing or importing classy looking gliders, but until someone here taps into this chair-in-need, I relied on the Brits to see me through. I ordered the Mo-Ma Nursing Chair (shown below) from Olli & Ella in London in their brand new soft dove gray (not currently on the site) and I LOVE IT. I’ve been hanging out in it for the past month since it arrived and I adore it – comfortable, smooth gliding, noise-free, stylish… Everything I wanted and more and they ship quickly to Germany! My glider is dove gray with cream trim, and the pillow is cream with dove gray trim. I also asked them to not paint the base but rather to keep it in natural wood and they did – so it looks great against our wooden floors!

High Chair – Still shopping around for one that goes from infant to toddler. Seems Stokke is a big hit online. Anyone have suggestions?

Breast feeding gear – This is where I need YOUR help! Any suggestions on what I need to breast feed? Bottles? Warmers? Pumps? I’m a bit lost. I will ask my midwife when our son is born and I’ll have a consultation then too, but any advance ideas or help would be super helpful! I don’t want to be the only one doing the feedings though, I really want my husband involved, so how does that work exactly? I’m thinking you pump ‘n store it and then he heats and the baby eats? My husband really wants to be 100% involved in baby care alongside of me and I want that too – and I think feeding times will be a nice bonding experience for them both. Tips? Please!

Nursing Bras – I picked up a few from Noppies – they’re pretty and comfortable and priced very well. They have an online shop here. I’m so glad that nursing is encouraged and common in Germany. People breastfeed in cafes and whenever they need to and it’s nice because there’s no weirdness around it. Of course, I would be a discreet public feeder (!), some moms aren’t and I think that’s a bit much, but nursing is completely natural and if I can do it (we will see how that part goes!), I’m going for it.

Burp cloths – I imagine you just use whatever you want for burp clothes, but I bought this cute set by Babyglück and love them – they wash so well, too.

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Raffia “Airport” storage box from RICE – This storage box is just so lovely and came to me from my good friend Charlotte. I will love this for years to come and so will our little boy. Thank you Charlotte! It’s currently on the floor in the baby’s room filled with stuffed toys. It’s a great storage box and has a special story behind it that Charlotte doesn’t even know. But my husband and I met for the first time in an airport – so the airport motif makes my husband and I smile. Cute, right?

Ferm Living Face Boxes –  I don’t actually have these yet, but I hope to by the end of the month (they’re not available yet, I’ve been waiting for two months because I wanted to include them in the baby room tour next week). Anyway, I plan to stack them on the floor so that when our son becomes a toddler, he can learn to put things away and have fun doing it. I adore the faces, they make me smile!

Dresser with changing top by Oliver Furniture – This nursery dresser, made by hand in Denmark, is such a beauty! It’s made so well, looks and fits perfectly in the baby’s room, and the changing top can be removed so he can use this dresser for years and years to come. I’m really impressed by the quality, it’s extremely sturdy. And in the future, we can paint it any color he’d like to change things up – it’s solid wood. Everyone who comes into the baby’s room says that they LOVE the dresser, it’s a favorite amongst all of my mommy friends. :)

Two Door Closet from Car Moebel – This closet is wooden and fits perfectly into the new nursery. It’s not too big, not too small – perfect for a little one and will be a great closet for at least the first ten years… After that I can foresee needing a larger one (it’s not standard to have built-in closets in Germany like it is in America), so I’ll eventually move this cabinet to another room in our home. But for the next decade, it’s staying in our son’s room. He can paint it as time goes by, stick things on it (like decals) and do whatever his decorating eye directs him to do. My husband installed some blue and white porcelain knobs on the doors and I’m considering painting it but right now, I’m kind of tired out from our move last week so I’m putting my big ideas on pause for now and just washing and filling it with baby clothes and etc. It’s a great cabinet and if you live in Germany, I can’t suggest shopping Car Moebel enough. I have lots of things from this company, I’ve been a loyal customer for the past 5 years.

Wall Display Boxes from Ferm Living – I have a few of these display wall boxes that I plan to install this weekend to store some sweet little collections inside of from Ferm Living. I like that they have plexiglass fronts that slide in, so I don’t have to think about dusting so much. Aren’t they the cutest?

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Warm insert for the stroller – I ordered a soft insert for the baby stroller so our little guy can be extra cozy during these winter months. Though we’ve barely had a winter with weather in the 50s (!) but I heard it will snow around my due date and that the temps will finally drop, so an insert will be nice for him to sleep on. We live in the city and walk EVERYWHERE, so this warm insert by SunnyBaby will be just perfect.

Baby Carrier – My husband and I both work full-time from home, and he has assured me that he’ll offer as much parental help as possible so I don’t ever feel overwhelmed by baby care. In fact, he was super excited when we went to a baby fair at a local hospital and he found a really great ergonomic carrier called Bondolino (shown here) for our son. He picked it out and tried it on with a plastic baby inside, it was the cutest moment for me – I was beaming. We bought the carrier on the spot. I can’t wait to see him “wearing” our little boy, it will make me so happy and proud. The great thing about this carrier is that our little one can face towards his daddy or he can ride on his back. How fun!

Baby Seat For Home – For travel around the house and also to see the family, I decided to buy the Babybjörn babysitter in black/white stripe cotton (German link or US link). This will be so handy at the in-laws and it’s super lightweight. Plus, it gives us both a chance to bring him into our offices during the day and he can snooze while daddy or mommy works. I wanted the black and white pinstripe version because it will look nice in our home while also being very comfy for baby – win/win!

Car Seat – We bought one on Amazon for infants by a company called United Kids. He installed it already in our car in like two seconds, and it seems fine, so I’m sure it will be fine. We don’t plan to use the car much this year anyway, so we didn’t want to sink a lot of cash into an infant care seat – as long as it can get him home from the hospital! When he’s grown out of it, we plan to buy a Maxi Cosi since by then, we’ll be planning trips and doing more with the car. Everything is within walking distance from our house, we live in the city after all, so a super expensive car seat wasn’t a priority.

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Stroller: Stokke Crusi Stroller & Bassinet Combo – I mentioned this already, but we are constantly walking – as in every single day. We walk to the grocery store, the park, the forest, shopping, we even walk downtown (it’s a mile so not really a big deal). We have a car but only put 4,000 miles on it since we bought it brand new in October 2012 – so you can see how little we drive. Anyway, having a top of the line stroller that can deal with dirt, mud, rocks, pavement… all surfaces, all weather, was a top priority. That’s why we decided on the Stokke Crusi Stroller & Bassinet Combo in Black Melange (US Link or German link) which isn’t black at all but a gorgeously stylish charcoal grey. We love it! My husband put it together the day it arrived and he was so happy to have a stroller that wasn’t white or red or some other color – he really loves how cool it looks. Since I want him to take the baby out for walks, I thought getting a stroller that he’d WANT to push around would be a smart choice. It’s sturdy, not at all heavy to push and extremely ergonomic for parents since everything sits a little higher off of the ground (which I love!). There is also ample storage space on the bottom and, when the baby gets older, he can ride in the stroller since the bassinet can be switched out. I truly LOVE this stroller, it’s the only one out of dozens that I shopped around for that I truly had to have. When it arrived in November, I was oohing and ahhing for days. Available here on Amazon.

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Bathtub –  I purchased the Flexibath in white with gray trim because it folds and this made my little heart sing because I was wondering where I’d store a baby bath in our smallish bathroom. The Flexibath, made in Denmark, was the perfect solution – it folds neatly after use. It also won a design award in 2009 from Formland in Denmark, which didn’t hurt when I was trying to make a decision. It was designed by A Real Cool World. I picked up this cute turtle bath thermometer, too.

Caped blanket – I have no idea what this is really for, but I read that you need a caped blanket for bath time, so please parents, fill me in… But I have one now so that’s a start I guess! It’s from bébé-jou and it’s super soft and very cozy, I would totally like to be wrapped in it if I were a little boy!

Blankets – I love everything from Belly Button in Hamburg, a company owned by American Dana Schweiger, who was once married to big German film star, Til Schweiger. Her children are acting in films here in Germany and they’re just such a super talented family. Anyway, Dana is the lady behind the brand Belly Button and I’m a big fan. I bought 3 little blankets and a rattle from this collection because they’re the perfect size for wrapping baby, cuddling, burping, you name it. I put these blankets in the “care” category because I’ll use them more for when our baby isn’t sleeping…  I have to pick up some more cute things from them, I have a wish list growing and growing as they’ve been adding new products, I love this little onesie! Another great option for blankets (and adorable baby clothes – all organic and also 40% off this month), are those by Winter Water Factory. They sent me a sweet care package and though I cannot find the blankets they’ve sent on their website, I still have to mention them for baby things. I love their stuff!

Changing pad & cover – I bought the bébé-jou changing pad on Amazon but since the outside is plastic, I also picked up a terry cloth bébé-jou cover with two little mice on it. It looks very comfortable, like a little mattress, so I’m hoping it really is a soft spot for our little boy to rest during clean up time.

Diapers – In case anyone wonders, we’ve decided to go with disposable diapers vs. cloth. So I bought a massive box of Pampers and sensitive wipes so I’m prepared!

Diaper Bag – Still looking… If anyone has some suggestions, I’d love a few good links to companies that ship to Germany! I really wanted the black and white striped Harmony bag from Kate Spade but they don’t ship to Germany so I’m trying to find an alternative!

Diaper Bin – Any tips? We need a bin (non-stinky) to put in his room and I have no clue where to begin there…

Manicure set – I read somewhere that you absolutely need a little manicure set, so I picked up this one from bébé-jou, also on Amazon. Seems well made and was affordable, so I’m sure it will be just fine.

Baby Essentials For The First Year


OKAY so what am I missing??? I feel like I’m spacing on something… Any suggestions of must-haves for infants that I need? 

Disclosure: Stokke sent us the pram with their complements, Oeuf sent the gorgeous white Sparrow crib and bookcase that I picked out from their collection to contribute to the design of the nursery, Oliver Furniture donated the nursery changing table and Car Moebel donated the gorgeous wooden cabinet. I want to thank these four companies for their generosity. 

Next week on decor8: A tour of our new baby nursery! Yeah!

(images linked to their sources above)


  • Reply Helen January 17, 2014 at 10:11 am

    I am a mother of four and after reading this post I wish I was pregnant again lol :-) good luck with your baby boy and enjoy ♥

  • Reply Alexis January 17, 2014 at 10:34 am

    My first baby was four weeks early and we had nothing but the pram – not even a crib, so for the first six months she slept in her pram or in our bed, we changed her on the floor and used an old enamel bread tin that used to be my Granny’s as a nappy bin. It’s nice to buy baby ‘stuff’ but I also think you’ll be surprised by how little you really need! I wrote a little about it on my blog back in Novemeber on my little babies sixth birthday.
    Good luck Holly!

  • Reply Saskia January 17, 2014 at 10:43 am

    Thanks for the nice list. I became a mum 3 1/2 months ago and I know how good it feels to get all the stuff together. As I am breastfeeding too and my husband is also involved in the care for our daughter i can tell you a little bit what you need. A breastpump is essential, I would suggest an electric one. I rented mine from the hospital (here in Austria it´s possible), so that should work in Germany as well. We bought bottles from MAM (2-3 are enough for the beginning) and we have borrowed a sterilizer from chicco. This one works good and I don´t want to miss it as we also use it for the dummys and to clean the pump. And I bought myself a big swaddle from Aden and Anais for breastfeeding in public, to cover all up. Concerning the bedding, we swaddled our girl in the beginning. Most of the babys love it because it feels like being back in the tummy, but you can ask your midwife if and try out if you like it. What else can I tell you…for bathing we just put a little almond oil (real one from the pharmacy) in the water, that´s what my midwife told me to do and Lasepton is the cream we use to prevent a red butt ;-) Good Luck!!!!! greetings from Vienna, Saskia

  • Reply Gemma January 17, 2014 at 10:43 am

    Such an exciting time. I have 2 boys and loved this stage. Sounds like you’ve got most things covered. In terms of feeding, it’s great that your husband wants to get involved. My husband used to do the late night feed (around 10pm). This worked brilliantly as I could express in the evening and then get an early night so I could get a good few hours sleep in before the baby would wake at about 2am. If you’re going to invest, an electric pump is much easier to use than a hand pump. Hope that helps. Good luck and enjoy it.

  • Reply Tara January 17, 2014 at 11:15 am

    I want to move into your nursery! You have done a fabulous job! My two recommendations ~ ~ I reccomend the bag that snaps over shoulders and zips on the side ~ also for bottles! ~ enjoy such a magical special time!

  • Reply RiRu January 17, 2014 at 11:17 am

    Hello Holly,

    wow, what a list! Very lovely things for your coming-soon-little one!

    Well, you asked for the breast feeding gear:
    As a mom of two who have been breastfed for about 3 and the other one 2 and a half years (I never expected me to become a super duper long time breastfeeder, always suggested to feed them one year and thats it… but….life can be weird….) I would recommend:

    Many, many, many burb cloth (hope this ist the correct word in english), they got lovely ones at HEMA, frozen peas and curd (for quick help, just in case, I guess your midwife will give you full instructions), a manual breast pump (you can buy one at dm from MAM) and bottles of your choice (they´re all bpa-free now, I guess. I liked the glass bottles from NUK).
    I would start with bottle feeding for your little one, when you and your baby are a “breast-feeding pro”, maybe afte the first three month. Otherwise your baby might be irritated, when you switch to qickly from breast to bottle and back. Just ask your midwife.

    To protect the sensitive skin, I would recommend pure lanolin (you can get it in the pharmacy), and for the case that your breast might become sore: I tried so many differend things, but I loved the “Multi Mam Kompressen” (available in the pharmacy, not cheap, but totally worth it!) – they are a kind of moist patch, that helps the skin to regenerate more quickly.

    If you have the feeling, that you could need more help than your midwife is able to give you, you might contact a breast feeding organisation like the la leche league, they have breast feeding advisers that come home to you and give you help for free. Just search for “Stillberatung Hannover”.

    And there are great communitys out in the web and breast feeding you tube tutorials – great for quick infos!

    I hope this wasn´t too much at once…

    Best wishes to you!


  • Reply Trish Blair January 17, 2014 at 11:23 am

    I can sense your excitement in this post. Getting ready for a baby is so exciting! All the best!

    I think you will need more sheets for the bassinet or cot – depends on how much your baby “outputs” – to put it politely! That is a beautiful feeding chair – I wonder if you have Scotchgarded it – I would hate to see it covered in baby stains! Maybe a nice throw – or a tarpaulan!!

    I recommend nipple shields for breastfeeding because it hurts – and a sterilizing container (just a plastic one) and I used Milton tablets to soak them in (in Australia).

    I am sure you will take lots of photos – they are only little for a little while.

    Much love and strength for the birth

    Trish x

  • Reply Christina January 17, 2014 at 11:30 am

    Dear Holly, only 10 more days! How very exciting! Looking forward to the first pictures of your baby boy! One thought on the bassinet: My friend, who is a mother of two, has used one that is open to one side and can be placed right next to the parent`s bed at the same level. So you don’t have to get up during the night when you are nursing but can simply roll over.
    Love, C

  • Reply Jenny Ryan January 17, 2014 at 11:46 am

    Yay Holly!

    The Diaper Genie is what we use for diapers and it works great. Fairly inoffensive and simple design, and we’ve never smelled a dirty diaper once! We use the same Pampers Sensitive diapers, it’s so nice to have the blue line letting you know when the diaper is wet. Definitely get some diaper creams/balms. There’s a great, not widely-used one we love called Calmoseptine that contains (in addition to all the standard diaper cream ingredients like zinc oxide) calamine (which helps with redness and irritation) and menthol which helps soothe the rash. It’s also a good practice to blot the diaper area DRY after using diaper wipes and before applying barrier creams. :)

    I don’t see any swaddling blankets on this list and in my opinion they are a total MUST. Babies love being swaddled when they are young, and Vivian (at 19 months) still adores her swaddling blankets because they are super soft and light and comfy, she carries hers everywhere. I recommend the muslin type from Aden + Anais, they come in all sorts of playful but subtle patterns.

    Definitely need a breastpump!! Medela makes a great one. You can buy freezer bags for breastmilk and store it for months this way, and yes, your hubs can thaw & feed your little one. :)

  • Reply Bianca Kempenaar January 17, 2014 at 12:08 pm

    Hi Holly, the Tripp Trapp by Stokke is perfect! It’s safe and easy to adjust to the size of the child. Kate is 3,5 years old and we’re still very happy we bought it.

  • Reply Sarah January 17, 2014 at 12:10 pm

    Hi Holly, I am SO PROUD of you and your keenness to breastfeed!! Like a previous comment, I would try and get the breastfeeding well underway and your ‘flow’ going well before introducing a bottle for the baby. It is a supply and demand system, and it is best to get it fully up and running. I have 2 kids, mine are quite big now (6 and 8yrs) but I breastfed them each for over a year. It is quite tricky to start with, getting the baby to ‘latch on’ and the whole experience is very strange. It can be very uncomfortable to start with (not for everyone, of course) but I really stuck with it and the longer you do it the easier it gets. You might get sore nipples, there are creams (perfectly baby safe) that you can dab on to help. My midwives (etc) did not recommend nipple shields so I never tried them, but they might help you. I also experienced strange needle-sharp pains in my shoulder blades when starting each feed. Your body is a mysterious thing! Please see if you can get some help from a breastfeeding counsellor BEFORE the baby arrives, to advise about positioning (sitting, posture, etc) of both you and baby and specifically how and where to put baby’s mouth on your breast [sorry if this is too much information!!]. Basically for it to work properly the baby’s mouth has to be wide open with top and bottom lip almost rolled back (imagine you eating a huge apple with a wide open mouth, baby’s mouth should look like that! They don’t just suck on the nipple! Also ask about potential problems (blocked milk ducts, mastitis) so you are aware and fully armed with knowledge and tips about how to avoid problems. Depending on how your birth goes, you might be very sore and have stitches and be unable to sit properly/comfortably , so lying down (in bed) to breastfeed is a very cosy thing to do and baby will love that too! DON’t worry about Daddy feeling left out, there will be a hundred other things he can do with nappies and giving a bath and further down the line feeding from a bottle.

    I never used a breast pump that much, it just seemed such a faff to sterilise it, and sterilise bottles and keep track of what milk was pumped when . But you are probably more organised! There are manual pumps, or there are electric, its just personal preference. And you can pump milk and freeze it in special little bags (I am not joking!!) and thaw and heat it for baby later. Or you can pump and store it in the fridge. Your counsellor person will have details about the safe length of time to store milk in the fridge or the freezer. Personally I found it much easier to just stick the baby on the boob when he/she needed feeding.

    You will need to decide whether you want to “feed on demand” ie as and when the baby seems hungry, right around the clock (I did this method) or whether you want to try and stick to a bit of a routine (ie every 2 hours or so at the start). Again, there is no right and wrong, you have to do what works for you. You might want to supplement with a bottle of formula every now and again (some people do, especially at night, this is maybe where Daddy could come in) but be careful and listen to your breastfeeding counsellor is this will inevitably upset the supply and demand of breastfeeding.

    Breastfeeding is completely natural but is takes effort and time to get right. I wish you all the luck in teh world!!

    Sarah xxxx

  • Reply heidi January 17, 2014 at 12:21 pm

    I’m not even close to having a kid (maybe in a few years), but I completely fell in love with the “Tower Chair” when I saw it in the Stilleben shop in Copenhagen.

    Maybe it can fill the high chair gap in your list ^_^

  • Reply Larissa January 17, 2014 at 12:26 pm

    Hi Holly,

    I am so very excited for you and your husband ! I have 3 children aged 6 and under but my first was a little boy and it was very special .

    One thing I would highly recommend is many swaddles. You can get beautiful soft organic ones or you can try one like the ergo cocoon zip up swaddle. Try googling zip up swaddle and see what options are there for you( I am in Australia). Swaddling the little one will help you and them get a good nights sleep :). Also the best advice I ever got unfortunately only when my second little boy was born! was that newborn babies should only be awake for about 1 hour this includes feeding, burping , changing their nappy and back to bed .

    Lastly I would highly recommend the Stokke Tripp Trapp we have one for each of our children and were fortunate for our last , our daughter to use the newborn set to clip onto the tripp trapp lets the little one interact from a young age . Enjoy the amazing journey of motherhood Holly and thanks for inspiring me each day! Hope this helps!

    Larissa xx

  • Reply Conni January 17, 2014 at 1:04 pm

    Hi Holly,

    great list and big respect that you are already so prepared. For me everything was so new that I couldn’t imagine what it will be, so we decided to buy the things when we need them and when we are clear what best fits to us and our girls.
    What already was mentioned and which I would emphasis: more of the blankets you bought at bellybutton (called Mulltücher not the thick Moltontücher).
    Regarding breastfeeding: listen to your Midwife and I would suggest too, not to start to early with the use of a bottle. I did breast-feed both without bottle (they didn’t take them) and my husband was although totally envolved and has a deep connection to them through carrying around, let them sleep on his breast after they were tired from feeding, just being there and do the daily routine with them. So what I want to say: your husband has many chance of bonding to your boy without feeding.
    When it comes to sitting: we have the Stokke Trip Trap and the girls love them. They are now 2 and 4 and it is so great that you can adjust it to their needs. And even for an adult it is very comfortable. And what I can recommend to that is the Baby Set. It is so nice to have the baby beside you while you are eating at the table and when it comes to the first experience with food perhaps he is not yet able to sit and so he can be there and feeding him while he is in an acceptable height for you sitting on a chair is a wonderful thing too. :-D
    Oh and do you already have a light for the night which is not so bright but have a warm light. Especially for the night feeding routine it is nice.
    An other thing we hadnt for daughter one but loved with the second one is the bassinett from babybay. I am still sorry that we hadnt it for our big girl. There we had a bassinett not on the same height as our bed and sometimes it was just painful to put her up and bring her down instead of just stretch your arm and cuddle her a bit.
    Sorry for the length.
    All the best for you and your family!

  • Reply Kim January 17, 2014 at 1:08 pm

    I’m expecting baby #2 in April, but it practically feels like the first one since my other “baby” is 8. I don’t have a whole lot from him so I am reliving the process again. I liked this list a lot. Thank you!
    Also, thank you for saying that the bassinets of today tend to be a bit cheesy. I don’t need one, as my baby will be using a vintage one that my grandparents’ bought when they brought my dad home. It’s been used by all five of his children and this will be the fifth grandchild. It’s a beautiful wicker one. But I obviously come across them in my shopping and I am so incredibly thankful to have his because I have never really seen one that I would want to bring into my home.

  • Reply AmelieG January 17, 2014 at 1:22 pm

    Dear Holly,
    You are ready ! That’s great !
    I just want to give you some tips regarding your question. Just for info, I am French, living in Hannover. My son is born in april in the MHH. I also barely speak German and have a German-speaking Frauenartzt and a French-speaking midwife ! I live in List.
    So for breast feeding, I really appreciate all the guidances I got in the hospital. The medical team really helps you to feel confident in your breastfeeding : different positions, how to keep your nipples without infection and so… I would say that in Germany you are really helped + midwife coming at home.
    As my husband wanted to be very involved with baby, he managed all the other stuff : meals, supermarket, laundries, etc… I only had to focus on beartfeeding and that was the way he “breastfeeded” with me at the beginning. Then, after a couple of weeks, I started to try pumping. I just bought a kit in Baby Waltz – MELEDA brand. Very good. Then, as it was a success, I rented a more efficient Medela breast pump in the Delfin Apotheke in Lister Meile. As my son went to the creche as from 3 months, he got my milk to drink there. Thank to the very helpful and efficient pump. You just need a receipt from your Frauenartz and you rent it for free.

    For diaper bin, go for a normal bin (not to big) and change the plastic bag every 2/3 days. It is the best way !
    For me, diaper bin is not really necessary.

    I would also suggest you to cook in advance and prepare some meals to have them frozen. It will be helpful for the first weeks, when time is flying !

    I really enjoyed the BabyBjorn babysitter. My son is still using it.

    You are rally well prepared. That is a pleasure for me to share some tips with you. I wish you all the best to you and your man.

  • Reply Kristen January 17, 2014 at 1:31 pm

    For breastfeeding I recommend lanolin for your nipples, mommy’s milk saver to catch milk from letdowns, and a hands free pump bra

    The first month is the most crucial to breastfeeding and establishing your milk supply. Make sure you know the signs of a growth spurt so you don’t think you “don’t have enough milk.” Feeding on demand (even if has just been an hour) AND comfort without the use of a pacifier will get you tons of milk. Pumps have their place but can be very confusing to your body the first month as they don’t fully empty your breast & are not a good indicator of milk output. The more your breasts are emptied, the more milk you will make. After the first month which is the HARDEST, you and the baby will have breastfeeding down and then you can introduce pacifier if you want & bottles. I know some moms who have introduced a bottle/pacifier earlier but on the whole the moms I know end up having way more issues than not. You also want to be out of the house when your husband gives a bottles because babies know when mom’s around. Make sure to put lanolin on your nipples before a shower & don’t put any soap on your nipples! Dry cracked nipples are the worst. Oh and take your prenatal vitamins while your nurse <3

  • Reply Kylie January 17, 2014 at 1:37 pm

    I really love the nappy bags from OiOi so much so that I have 3 of them!

  • Reply decor8 January 17, 2014 at 1:42 pm


    Thank you Helen! :)

  • Reply decor8 January 17, 2014 at 1:42 pm

    Kylie, I will google that brand, thanks Kylie!

  • Reply decor8 January 17, 2014 at 1:46 pm

    Kristen, Thank you so much for the tips Kristen! I often wonder how these women in third world countries do it, or how women 100 years ago (or even 50 years ago) did all of this naturally without pumps and creams and special gadgets – it all seems to have gotten so complicated over time. The more I read about breastfeeding online, the more I understand why so many resort to formula – it all sounds so complicated. I have a midwife who will come once a day for the first 10 days after our son arrives home, and then she is on call for me anytime for the first 6 months, she is also a lactation consultant, so I’m hoping I’ll learn how all of this works eventually. Also in Germany, the midwife is free of charge and also you get a free breast pump, well it’s a rental from the pharmacy, but it saves lots of money so I may go with that option vs. buying one. So much to think about! I hope it all comes naturally to me.

  • Reply decor8 January 17, 2014 at 1:49 pm

    AmelieG, Amelie – hello! I also live in List! I go to Delfin often, my frauenarzt is nearby, so I will ask to rent the pump there. Thank you for the tip. I live in List too! Where is your creche by the way? And I’m having our baby at mhh so it’s good to know you had great care there. :) Maybe sometime we can meet for coffee at Tom Maas. ;)

  • Reply Kiana January 17, 2014 at 1:49 pm

    Hi sweetie! I am a mother of an 18 month old baby boy and we live in Barcelona. I think your list is very good (and so many pretty things!), but in the first few months of your babies life, he’s just going to eat, sleep and poop. So you need LOTS of onesies (they might need a clothing change a few times a day bc of spit up or poop). One thing I learned is that onesies labelled 0-3 months are not actually appropriate for age zero. You need to buy clothes labelled for newborns. Also buy lots of little hats, socks and burp cloths. If you do laundry every day, perhaps you don’t need so many but I’d suggest at least five burp cloths and keep them in every room of the house because even if you feed him in your glider in the nursery, ten minutes later if you bring him to the living room, he might feel the need to spit up.

    As for feedings, my son slept in bed with me and barely woke up for feedings in the middle of the night but when he did, I would just give him my breast and he’d fall back asleep and so did I. My husband never stirred. But I did pump during the day because I teach in the evenings. If you’re going to be away from your baby lots or you just want to pump a lot, invest in an electrical pump. They’re crazy expensive but manual pumps take a long time. Also make sure to buy slow flow nipples for bottles so your baby doesn’t chug the milk. Also, you might want to get a few pacifiers. My baby doesn’t go for them now but he did use them from 0-3 months to help get him to sleep.

    For bath time, I have that same tub and it’s great. We still use it now and my son loves it. You’re going to need the infant insert until your baby can sit up. The hooded towel is to keep them warm since heat escapes through their heads. Don’t be surprised if you’re bathing him all the time in the first months because baby spit up REALLY smells. Make sure the bathroom is nice and warm. Also, babies get stuffed noses a lot so even though we have a Nose Freida we don’t use it that often. Instead we get the bathroom really steamy and that helps loosen his mucus so we can just wipe his nose and goodbye boogers.

    For diaper changes, the single most useful thing we received was a Skip Hop Changing Station. It looks like a clutch that unfolds out to a mat where you can change baby. We still use it! It’s much slimmer and easier than a diaper bag and it’s great when you go out to not have to put your baby on a germy changer in a public bathroom or something. Also, you didn’t mention if you bought diaper cream but you should definitely get some just in case.

    Sorry this was such a long comment. I also wrote a post on my blog about baby essentials after my son was six months old so maybe you could read it if you have the time.

    Good luck to you! I’m sure you’ll be a great mom!

  • Reply decor8 January 17, 2014 at 1:52 pm

    Conni, Your tips are so helpful, thank you very much! Yes, I have a little nightlight so hopefully that will work. Also, I’ve been looking at the Stokke Trip Trap with the baby set – maybe I’ll just order it – I love the idea of having the baby with us when we’re having meals so he can feel like a big boy and be with us. :)

  • Reply decor8 January 17, 2014 at 1:53 pm

    Larissa, I have no clue how to swaddle a baby, I have to learn this at the hospital or from our midwife – it sounds really cozy and cute though. There are special blankets for this, huh? OK so I need to research this! Thank you for the tip!

  • Reply Kiana January 17, 2014 at 1:56 pm

    Jenny Ryan,

    My baby never used a swaddle and I was surprised to learn that they don’t swaddle babies at all in Spain where I live. My midwife didn’t even know what it was! Since day one, my boy loves to sleep with his arms and legs stretched out like a little starfish. There’s no containing him!

  • Reply Katherine January 17, 2014 at 2:14 pm

    We have the Stokke Tripp Trapp, it’s a beautiful chair but to be honest if I had my time again I would go with the cheap Ikea one, much easier to clean. We did baby-led weaning (where your baby eats proper food from 6 months, no puree) and it is a messy business! We also had the Stokke newborn bit as we also wanted our son to sit with us at mealtimes. Turned out he didn’t like just sitting there and much preferred to be held, also he went to bed really early as he didn’t nap well in the day so we ate our evening meal afterwards. He did sit in it when we ate our breakfast but I had pictured him spending a lot more time in it than he did, watching me cook etc. Didn’t turn out that way though! The Baby Bjorn chair is really good, we had that too, and in desperate times bounced our son to sleep in it when he was refusing to nap but obviously very tired (he’s napped brilliantly since 13 months though!), We stopped using it about 7/8 months though, he wasn’t interested in sitting in it after that so don’t expect it to last the full 18 months it claims. Maybe your baby will love it for that long, they are all so different!

    Your sling looks great, another thing I say if I could have my time again (we are not having any more) is that I would have got a soft stretchy sling that I think are easy to use and more comfy for younger babies, like this one: In the UK we have sling libraries, you can try out different ones and get advice, I wish I had done that instead of giving up on our Ergo (my husband used it). I actually finally started using a sling with my son at the grand old age of 20 months, we have a Tula Toddler (Polish brand) and he loves it.

    We had a Flexibath and they are great, but the Tummy Tub (you could just use a bucket though!) was fantastic for the first few months, my son totally calmed down in it every evening: We now use our Flexibath for storing toys, it would also be great for water play out in the garden in the summer.

    Good luck with everything, it is so hard to decide what is right for you but also lots of fun shopping. I am also an Aden + Anais muslin fan, they are gorgeous. My son doesn’t really need them anymore, I might use his stripy one as a scarf for me!

    • Reply decor8 January 17, 2014 at 8:07 pm

      @Katherine – My sister in law gave me a fabric “wrap” sling last weekend that she used for her baby (her daughter was born January 2013). She told me that she’ll come by after he is born to show me how to use it. Thing is, I have back problems so I may have to stick to the pram and let my husband use the baby carrier, but we’ll see…

  • Reply Thelma B January 17, 2014 at 2:17 pm

    A dustbuster, and baby swing (entices them to nap when cranky!). Also, some would argue you shouldn’t use blankets w/ very young babies…we used a “snugsack”. Good luck, and enjoy!

  • Reply Ashley January 17, 2014 at 2:58 pm

    I have 4 yo twins and an 8 month old. Breast feeding is awesome and hard at the beginning. It is worth it but the first few months are tough. I highly recommend a lactation consultant who will help you make a plan that is best for you. See them early and often!

    The biggest things for me were things to help baby sleep- swaddle blankets (miracle blanket, my new little one likes woombie because she can keep her hands up) and a noise machine (there are a million so pick whatever you want but the sound really helps), gripe water or some kind of gas drops (these work miracles)

  • Reply Carla January 17, 2014 at 3:04 pm

    Really cute!
    We have two little ones and are only half as organised in baby stuff as you are already :-)
    It works with really little and of course some basics are essential.
    Both our babies were carry babies. We hardly used our Stokke. We had and have Stokke highchairs for both of them.
    So great to see how you plan everything around your little boy.
    My husband is the main carer while I work (not from home) and he did bin with both little ones from the scond of the birth very strong!
    Lovely to read that your husband wants to be involved as well :-)
    All the best

  • Reply Irene January 17, 2014 at 3:33 pm

    I just bought a simple white bucket from Ikea (Filur) and I’m going to put in bin-liners with a strap from dm – this will be my diaper bin, and it will get it’s place on the balcony. I didn’t feel comfortable with other solutions…

  • Reply Mary January 17, 2014 at 3:35 pm

    Hi Holly,

    I’ve been following your blog for years. Congratulations on your sweet new love. I’m sending you strength and confidence. Your body is wise and capable of so much. As a mother of two, my advice is trust your body, listen to your midwife guide you and as much as you want to don’t push until she asks you to. (Also, a big secret which I’ve never understood we are not told, is that having a baby feels like you are pooping, this is completely normal and when it happens it means you are *actually* having the baby!) maybe that seems like TMI, but truly you will be surprised how many conversations you have about poop in the next few years.

    I agree with the ladies above, swaddling is a wonderful thing, Aden and Anais muslin blankets are the best, I also loved the brand SwaddleDesigns from Nordstrom. Medela breast pumps are excellent, and stock up on onesies! I didn’t like my diaper genie, and I found that a good buggy, my Moby Wrap, glider, a diaper bag that my husband wasn’t embarrassed to carry and the insert baby bunting for the car seat were the most useful things. Oh, and I was lucky to have the wicker bassinet my mom used for me and my brothers and sisters.
    Best of luck and love,

  • Reply Linda January 17, 2014 at 3:38 pm

    What a beautiful and delightful start for your lovely baby boy. My suggestion for breastfeeding: breastfeed your son exclusively until your relationship is firmly settled. It can be very confusing for a baby to go from nipple to bottle and can interfere with nursing. Since breastmilk is absolutely unique to each baby’s needs, it is important for your son to have that as much as possible.

    There are many other things your husband can do to bond with your baby and establish his relationship with him. Walking him, in stroller or carrier, singing to him, telling him stories, dancing, changing, bathing, massaging: your husband can create his own special ritual that is his and his son’s alone.

    There will be plenty of time after your milk supply is established for your husband to begin feeding the baby.

    best wishes.

    • Reply decor8 January 17, 2014 at 7:57 pm

      @Linda – Yes, all such good points. Plus, they’ll have a special relationship from the first second of birth because my husband will only speak German to him for the first several years and I’ll only speak English to him, so we’ll each communicate with him in a special language. :)

  • Reply Saskia January 17, 2014 at 3:39 pm

    Min loved the swaddling for the first two months. Either you can use a normal swaddle and they can show you in the hospital how to do it or you can use a fixed one. I used this: kiddopotamus swaddleme
    Concerning expressing. I started 2 or 3 weeks after the birth and it was never a problem. No drinking confusion. I also gave her tea fem the bottle when she had tummy ache which she had a lot. But I think that different from one baby to the other if they get confused or not. But the expressing gives you some freedom to leave the house alone for 2 hours after some weeks or to sleep longer in the mornings. To freeze in i´m using this :
    I won´t recommend bottle-feeding during the night as it takes much longer to warm up the bottles than to just breastfeed in bed and get back to sleep asap ;-) You will know what is best for you in the moment you need to! All the best!!

  • Reply Elizabeth January 17, 2014 at 5:20 pm

    Love all of your picks – your color pallet is very sophisticated and sweet. Love it! I will keep my comments short because there are so many wonderful long ones here.

    But I will say that go to a breast feeding class if you can find one in your area. Check with the hospital where you will be giving birth – they should be able to help you find one. Going to a breast feeding class is where you will get all of your information. I just attended my first one and now feel confident in how I am going to approach feeding my new born. They will most likely tell you not to bottle feed until your breast feeding habits are well established (usually 6-8 weeks), and will help you with pumping advise when the time is right. There are so many different options and options when it comes to feeding your child – you will want to get the right informtion from the right folks.

    • Reply decor8 January 17, 2014 at 7:56 pm

      @Elizabeth – I can’t go to a breast feeding class; I don’t have the time or energy honestly since we just moved. But my midwife is a lactation consultant and my hospital is also a university hospital and I’ve been before to the labor ward (I had to stay there for a few days recently when I fell) and they are amazing over there so I think I’ll be okay. But yes, great tip Elizabeth!!!

  • Reply Susanna January 17, 2014 at 5:55 pm


    Dear Holly,

    Women in other cultures or long time ago received a lot advice and help from experienced mothers. They also have / had all kinds of gadgets as well – natural substances. Breastfeeding can be very natural and simple, but it can also get complicated. It is very rewarding experience.
    I whish you all the best for you and your family.

    • Reply decor8 January 17, 2014 at 7:54 pm

      @Susanna – I think you really “nailed” it – women had their mothers and people they were close to who helped them. These days, most of us live far from parents and just don’t have the same family structure sadly. Also, babies are big business, especially in some countries, so you will be convinced early on that you need stuff and must have things most of us really don’t need.

  • Reply Lucila January 17, 2014 at 5:58 pm

    For the diaper bag I recommend you the brand Skip Hop. A must have… I would say the changing station from this brand too. You can take it anywhere you go, Good luck! (I am from Argentina and always read your blog)

  • Reply michelle January 17, 2014 at 6:10 pm

    Hi Holly,

    I’m expecting this year too (but not until July)! I wanted to add my two sense about the nursing supplies. Obviously I can give a proper review because I didn’t have the baby yet but I found this really great system that I think will make pumping and feeding easier. It’s from a brand called Kiinde and comes with bags that can go in the freezer and universal adapter that connects to all pumps. It also comes with a “warmer” so you can take the bags right out the freezer and it will defrost and warm to room temp. One thawed there’s a case that the bag slides into and a nipple to attach that turns it into a bottle. I don’t know if I’m explaining this well so the video on their website is worth a watch. I like the idea because there’s no transferring from bag to bottle and there’s less to wash.

    I’m going to go with a full electric double pump even though I probably won’t need to pump daily. They are expensive (about $250) but thanks to the new affordable care act (that everyone seems to hate) my insurance will pay for it. I’ve heard from other mothers that manual pumps are really only for the rare, occasional pump because they are so slow and don’t work well. Talk to your doctor or midwife (or a lactation consultant is that’s something you have access to) about pumping, in the US they don’t recommend you start pumping until about 4 weeks after the baby is born so that your supply/demand is well established.

  • Reply michelle January 17, 2014 at 6:22 pm


    This is a lot of great breast feeding advice, thank you.

    Holly, something else I’ve read that I am going to do is to breast feed while you are still in the delivery room. The baby is most alert about 1 hour after birth so they say there is a better chance of them latching on and starting to feed. After this time infants are usually sleepy and lazy about feeding (you know, because of that stressful birthing experience :) for a couple of days so they may not latch well and they fall asleep during feeding which is of course totally fine it’s just more stressful for mom because it doesn’t feel like they are really eating.

    • Reply decor8 January 17, 2014 at 7:53 pm

      @Michelle – I was told to begin right after birth at the hospital, so if my milk comes in, I definitely will!!!

  • Reply bora January 17, 2014 at 6:57 pm

    What works for one parent-child team, won’t work for the other, but here are my two cents. There were so many things I loved pre-baby, like the pram/stroller and my son hated it. I finally had to sell it, barely used, when he was 18 months – there was no convincing him. I learned to be flexible and not have my heart set on something including clothes.
    The baby stage is so short and I really don’t think you need as much, but I would definitely put swaddles on the list (Aiden and Anais are very nice), wearable blankets, breastpump and bottles (the latter you may have to try a few different kinds before finding something suitable for your baby). And do get some newborn clothes – not a lot but some. My baby came home to no clothes because everything 0-3 was huge on him. He mostly lived in swaddles at that point, but still you need a few onesies at least.
    Not must haves, but I would also get some feeding utensils for when they get a bit older – that stage comes so fast and it is nice to have something to start out with. And one of those activity blankets with the toys hanging from above – it was the best money I ever spent – he could entertain himself for quite some time there.
    Lastly, remember that breastfeeding takes time – so don’t be discouraged. Have your husband follow you around with a tall glass of water whenever you sit down to breastfeed – that’s a lifesaver.

  • Reply Melissa H January 17, 2014 at 7:14 pm

    Since you asked :) cloth diapers make the best burp/mess rags even if you aren’t cloth diapering. And It may not be the most stylish but for functionality this diaper bag has been awesome. Mine is eight years old and looks great. My only other tip because it was news to me with my first is buy a few boxes of the most crazy big heavy duty menstrual pads you can buy ;) you’ll need them. I had a friend visit when my daughter was two days old and she brought pads (weird but so helpful) and a thing to wash binkies and bottle parts int the dishwasher. So that’s what I recommend for folks.

    Best wishes for a smooth birth. Little boys are awesome!!

  • Reply EC January 17, 2014 at 7:19 pm

    I chose the bare minimum in order to stay home with my daughter. All you really need is a car seat, diapers (we did cloth), a baby carrier (love Baby Bjorn), and clothes. The nursing pillow was extremely handy but a regular pillow would do.

    When she was 3 months old I flew to NYC from San Francisco, alone, and only packed a carry-on for the two of us for a week.

    Rethink your essentials :)

  • Reply smoan January 17, 2014 at 7:24 pm


    I know this blog is all about decorating and style and I do enjoy looking through all the pictures of child furniture, but I agree with Helen.
    I think that all that fancy stuff is mainly interesting and fun for the parents, the child itself will not care about “style crimes”. everything a child really needs are loving parents, clean air to breathe and a pebble to play with :)
    we should not forget that. keep it simple.

    all the best for you and your baby!

  • Reply Emily January 17, 2014 at 7:26 pm

    Looks like you’re all set! Breast pumps–I had a Medela, and it was a good pump though I never got the bottle thing to work for mine. I hope you do! Hopefully your midwife will be a big help. My lactation consultant was worth her weight in gold. Ask for help/ info. Ask, ask, ask. Other experienced moms can be helpful, too. The first several weeks of breastfeeding is not easy, and almost everyone I know has had bumps along the way, but with perseverance it usually does get much better and smoother. I hope it will for you. Two final thoughts—-Weleda makes great creams for mom. And we laughed at the thought of a wipes warmer, but it was so nice when we were given one and our baby stopped screaming every time we tried to wipe her :) Above all, be kind to yourself and let the small things go.

  • Reply Emily January 17, 2014 at 7:28 pm

    p.s. Soooooo wish we’d gotten Stokke Trip Trapp chairs. They are worth it because they can use them for years and years.

  • Reply smoan January 17, 2014 at 7:28 pm

    sorry, I got lost in the forum. my comment was suppost to reply to alexis and not to helen ;)


    I know this blog is all about decorating and style and I do enjoy looking through all the pictures of child furniture, but I agree with Helen.
    I think that all that fancy stuff is mainly interesting and fun for the parents, the child itself will not care about “style crimes”. everything a child really needs are loving parents, clean air to breathe and a pebble to play with :)
    we should not forget that. keep it simple.

    all the best for you and your baby!

    • Reply decor8 January 17, 2014 at 8:05 pm

      @smoan – I agree that children don’t care about style crimes as much as they care about receiving loads of love. I care though so it’s important for me to love his room in the beginning since I’ll be in there SO MUCH. Plus, it’s important to me personally to raise him around things that will help inform his style and decorating decisions later in life. Even if it’s just a little bit, like he’ll be more conscious of it later on. That would be nice. I still have photos of my nursery as a baby with my auntie’s felted artwork on one wall, my mothers’ oil painting on the other, the crib, the stuffed animals, how much love and care my mother put into my little room and it impresses me still after so many years. I remember loving my rooms VERY early on because my mother showed such an interest in how there were decorated starting with my nursery – and she gave me plenty of love and great care, too so I grew up very happy in my little rooms over the years. I remember ALL of my bedrooms, beginning with the nursery, because she showed such an interest in making them nice for me. When I was older, maybe 4, I already had my own decorating opinions. She let me pick out my bedding and everything in my room after that point. I think as parents, we give our children what little gems we learned from our parents, then add our own gems of wisdom, I like the idea of passing down positive things.

  • Reply Rocío January 17, 2014 at 7:58 pm

    As for the pump, you totally need a medela pump. Once said that, i would think twice that idea of pumping just for enabling the father yo feed the baby. Once the baby turns six months, he will hace plenty of opportunities of feeding the baby, when he eats solids. Breastfeeding is such and easy and joyful gift from nature. There are other reasons: pumping is not as easy as it may seem initially, you will probably get frustrated ( and scared) about the quantity of milk you will pump initially, thus probably turning unecessarily yo the powder milk. Just wanted to be helpful. Six months is nothing!!

  • Reply Martine January 17, 2014 at 8:09 pm

    All bautiful things! But you really need a baby foon, even if he sleeps in your bedroom, i recommend one with an camera. So you dont have to wake him up if you want to check on him:)

    Do you already have a ‘box’ you can’t life without it,

    I have bought the stokke high Chair, beautiful Chair en solid for long.

    Good luck!

  • Reply Fiona January 17, 2014 at 8:14 pm

    Your husband can help a lot with feeding. He can feed you! I was always starving whilst feeding and in the early days babies can feed a lot. DH also always used to do bath time and that was great bonding for him. In the early days expressing can mess with your supply. In fact, it never really worked for me. Your husband may just have to accept that it bottle feeding may not work for you or your son in the early days.

    I never had breastfeeding classes either, but I read a lot on line, plus once I got her latched for the first time DD knew what she was doing!

    Two great online resources are and – the website of breastfeeding guru Dr Jack Newman.

    We lived in London when our daughter was born and our carrier was great when we were going anywhere crowded and once she was old enough she loved being able to see everything!

    I recommend some sort of covering for your chair. Breastfeed babies are known for explosive outputs!

  • Reply Lesley January 17, 2014 at 8:33 pm

    I love the Ovo high chair!

  • Reply Yaarah January 17, 2014 at 9:06 pm

    Hey, so exciting, my little girl just turned one;)
    The Stokke chair is so good!! We love it!

    We use Eco diapers- which are not only good for the environment but for the baby, they ar so soft and light, really good, they are a few brands, we you Pingo, it’s Swiss-

    Swaddle- the softest ones and so pretty are from – and there are good for so many things- cover the stroller from sun, for a picnic, actually for anything;)

    I’m from Isreal but I use the great products of Weleda, which is a German company- the baby products are the best!!

    All the best

  • Reply Maria January 17, 2014 at 9:18 pm

    I’m also 39 weeks pregnant (on Monday, like you are) and we have bought almost exactly what you listed above. For us the car seat was very important and something we didn’t want to save in so we went for the best model in the market. We bought a Bugaboo pram that has an infant bassinet and Ergobaby carrier that has much better reviews than the BabyBjorn ones. We don’t have a bassinet and in my opinion it’s not an absolute necessity as babies can sleep in a cot too. I haven’t bought much clothing or toys since newborns only need the base essentials and grow out so fast. I also think baby sleeping bags might be easier to use than swaddles, but I guess I’ll just have to wait and see how that works in practice. I bought Mandela breast pump and bottles, but they are more for “just in case”, I rather breast feed only and not use bottles.

    These things can be a bit tricky I think. Everyone has their own opinions on what you “must have”, but all babies are so different! Good luck Holly for your last week(s) of pregnancy!

  • Reply Inge January 17, 2014 at 9:24 pm

    Your list looks pretty complete Holly! :-) I’m pregnant for the second time and we don’t need that much anymore since our second baby is also a boy. We did buy a second Stokke chair for sitting with us at the table – pretty, handy and comfortable! They now have this comfortable baby-sitting-thing that you can click on the chair so the baby can enjoy being with you while you’re having dinner with the family. That is definitely something I’m going to use this time!

    Oh and about the breastfeeding… Well, not to worry you: everyone is different, but I figured it would all go well with breastfeeding with our first son, but it didn’t… I had a lot of trouble with producing milk so I had to use a pump ultimately to get the milk production going. In the end I still had to give him extra milk from a bottle, since our first son usually was still hungry after I breastfed him.
    I’m now more in a “we’ll see how it turns out this time” kind of mood. And if I only can breastfeed the first few days, I’d be happy. But if you’d love to breastfeed as well as your husband, then you can use a pump and store the milk. I have heard that you better not freeze the milk, since it kills good bacteria in your mother milk, but I’m not sure since I never had to store any of my milk (because I had too little of it). :-)

    Oh and can I add: you won’t regret the bouncer/babysitter of BabyBjörn – we loved to use it! Too bad they don’t make any slipcovers anymore to pull over the sitter, since I also used this sitter on the table to fed our son his first mashed vegetables in it. So it’s best to cover it with cloths or towels when you use the sitter when giving him food – a little accident always happens and you wouldn’t want to wash it everyday. ;-)

    Another tip I got for my first baby boy was not to buy too many bottles, since some babies prefer to drink out of other bottles. I used Tommee Tippee bottles after I stopped breastfeeding but it can very well be that our second boy refuses to drink out of these bottles… I heard it a lot from other mommies too, so maybe a tip to remember? :-)

    The most important tip is to enjoy that precious time with your baby while they’re still little: it all goes by so fast. It’s cheesy and very cliché to say this, but it really is TRUE. Before you know it, you say: “how did time pass by so quickly” when celebrating his 3rd birthday (like I did). ;-)

    Have fun in nursing and caring for your baby, you’ll do great Holly and Thorsten!!
    Big hugs, another pregnant mommy-to-be (from her second boy)! ;-)
    Inge x

  • Reply René January 17, 2014 at 9:25 pm

    Hi Holly – Good luck with your delivery and what a lucky baby! You will need a strong determination mainly for the breastfeeding. You need to stick at it yourself for 2 solid weeks before you introduce anyone else (or bottles) to the feeding schedule – It is hard going but soooooo worth it. It is a euphoric time in a bubble of overwhelming love, enjoy every minute of it (though lots of the minutes can be very painful) ‘latching on’ can be very sore for some people, toe curling is common for a few seconds, but after a the 2nd week it is so easy and handy and you will be delighted that you can just pop your baby in his beautiful pram and head out on one of your walks and everything he is going to need you have under your shirt! (maybe bring a nappy and clean set of baby clothes). Breastfeeding is fabulous once you are up and running with it but I would say it takes a good two weeks to get it established. I have 3 kids and with each one it took two weeks to get the milk full flowing, I used Lansinoh cream which really helped ease nipple pain. Sleep is the only other thing you will need and thats where I would say daddy comes in…let him do the ‘awake’ bits where there is no feeding going on! Enjoy the whole thing, delivery included – becoming a mother (and father) is a priceless gift, truly amazing x

  • Reply Silje January 17, 2014 at 9:25 pm

    Such fun to read!

    We bought the Stokke Trip Trap with a Newborn seat -a godsend so far and only 7 weeks in! We all have them here in Norway, a baby staple, basically. We all use them till the ages of 6-7 yrs old and they are passed down too. Long lasting. You should just see people here in Norway jumping over one another at flea markets to get their hands on old ones…

    For when your nipples are so sore everything touching them feels like sanding paper: Aden and Anais’ bamboo swaddles are AWESOME , the only thing that was soft enough in the first weeks of breastfeeding. Also, lanolin is probably what your midwife will recommend and it works. A manual breast pump is a WASTE of money. 10 minutes and you have had it, get a battery driven one. Medela works for me. Since you give birth in Winter like me: Breast pads made from wool to help prevent mastitis in addition to disposable breast pads to avoid leaking through your sweater. Chicco has very soft ones.

    All the best and hopefully you will not be overdue! Silje

  • Reply Katharina January 17, 2014 at 9:33 pm

    Dear Holly, I am just 9 weeks behind you with my first pregnancy. I am also on the hunt for nice things to put into the nursery. I can totally understand that it is frustratingif certain items you had envisioned are not available and you have to wait for them. Therefore … today in the afternoon I went to a shop called Engel und Bengel in Munich. The Ferm Living shape boxes are available there. Just in case you want to have them earlier :-). They also have an online shop and the staff is very friendly! All the best for your last ten days of pregnancy!

  • Reply maks January 17, 2014 at 9:34 pm

    Love the stuff you picked, your nursery will be amazing, looking forward to seeing pictures next week. With your first baby it just takes a while to find out what you really need, you’ll see what suits your personal needs and every baby is different as well. Let me tell you as a mother of 3 ;-).

    My only advice is don’t put any pressure on yourself and trust your gut feeling, you’ll do just fine and enjoy every minute ;-). And maybe sleep whenever baby does in the beginning, my firstborn slept very little from day one and still does 10 years later.

    My favorite item when cuddling and nursing my babies and for so many other things was a nursing pillow. All the best for the three of you – maks :-)

  • Reply Inge January 17, 2014 at 9:43 pm

    Oh, I forgot to mention… about the breastfeeding pump: I also used Medela – best pump out there! I also used their cream (next to the one of Weleda) for my breasts, since they felt really sore after a while. But like so many others said: you have to have loads of patience and a very caring husband to stick to the breastfeeding. :-) Drinking a lot also helps! It takes around 6 to 8 weeks until you’re starting to get the hang of it.

    I also had a lactation consultant/midwife who came to my house every week, and I had many questions (I even called her late in the evenings with all of my questions), but she always answered every single one of them. Thanks to her I stick to the breastfeeding, even with all of my problems and low production. She was the best!

    Another great tip on the breastfeeding: it really swallows your energy, so please take naps when your baby naps as well. It gives you time to recharge your batteries while sleeping.

    Oh, and another cool tip I heard about remembering which breast you used last time: you can use a pin on your clothes to remember which breast you have to offer first to your baby the next feeding round. :-)

    Wishing you all the best and I know you’ll do superb, both! :-) x Inge

  • Reply Katrin January 17, 2014 at 9:49 pm

    Such an exciting time for you, Holly.
    Here are some things I find useful for nursing:

    I totally recommend Mamas&Papas nursing tops. They are most discreet and really good quality. I got the same model in various colours, short and longsleeved and love them. They don’t seem to make it anymore, but this one is quite close:
    They’ve also got beautiful nursing dresses (and the most gorgeous baby clothes.)

    I feel very comfortable wearing a „kidneykaren“ basic tube under my normal tops. So I can just lift my top up for feeding, whilest keeping warm and snug and unexposed.

    You might use nursing pads already and it is very important to feel comfortable with them. Nothing worse than having to worry about leaking, feeling sticky, sweaty and smelly. Bad nursing pads can be a nightmare. Too visible, or even too audible (plastic backing).
    Try out some different nursing pads to see which ones are best for you. For me it’s Johnson&Johnson in the UK, identical to Penaten in Germany.

    I never needed a pricy diaper bag/changing bag. With my firstborn I had a diaper bag that wasn’t quite big enough so I just used a spacious bag and kept little module bags inside, depending on where we were going. She was sick a lot, so apart from nappies, wet wipes and a foldable changing mat, there were burp cloths, extra clothes for her, a t-shirt and leggins for myself, sometimes a bottle, nursing pads, dummy, nappies, wet wipes, sudocreme, nailclippers, toys… and snacks for the breast feeding mum.

    I’m still breastfeeding my second child and he always travels light. I’ve got two nappies and some wet wipes stuffed into my handbag. That’s all we need, really.

    Also, I love my handbag organizer, which I can move into a smaller handbag when going out without the kids.

    How to swaddle a baby:
    Please ask your midwife to help you, as it should not be done wrong or for too long.

  • Reply Katherine January 17, 2014 at 9:49 pm


    Ah, then the one you have bought should be ok as it looks similar to mine, you take most of the weight on your hips rather than your back. It definitely is a ‘we’ll see’ thing though, well, much of parenting is. Good luck!

  • Reply Lesley January 17, 2014 at 9:56 pm

    I bought this baby bag today in the grey. I love it! And it was half price!!

  • Reply Jeanne January 17, 2014 at 9:57 pm


    I couldn’t agree more about the pain of a cracked nipple! Excruciating! Watch out for them.

  • Reply Rosamond January 17, 2014 at 10:05 pm

    Looks like you have all the basics and more–I’d hold off on many more purchases before the baby comes, and you will find out what he likes once he is here. For instance, my first baby absolutely LOVED a large swing (not just a little bouncer, but a baby swing that makes big arcs back and forth) and there were many days and nights I’m not sure how we would’ve gotten through without it, but my second baby was pretty indifferent to it. Swaddling was a big help with both of them, and I especially like the swaddlers with velcro patches to hold them on, rather than ones you have to wrap artfully and tuck closed. My daughter always got out of those no matter how well we wrapped her, but if we could keep her hands and legs calm for a few minutes with the velcro swaddler, she’d usually drift right off to sleep. I am due with my third baby in less than a month now, so I am thinking about all this stuff again, too.

    As for breastfeeding, here are my thoughts. I had a really difficult time at first with both kids so far, and am hoping to avoid some of the pitfalls this time around. With my first, I had so much milk come in that I became very painfully engorged. I got lots of advice to wait it out, not to pump, and that it would eventually regulate itself, and that turned out to be terrible advice for me. My breasts were solid as rocks, they were so sore all the time, and my daughter had a hard time latching on, which caused bruised and eventually bloody nipples that took weeks and weeks to fully heal (after all, it’s not like you can make the baby wait until you are healed to nurse again). People suggested expressing some milk by hand, warm showers, cold compresses, cabbage leaves, etc., but none of that really worked for the level of engorgement I had. If I had just pumped a bit, it would’ve relieved my pain and allowed my daughter to latch on well and not do such damage to my nipples. Plus, I would’ve been so happy to have that extra milk in the freezer for when I went back to work.

    The second time around I was so concerned about keeping my breasts protected that I went a little overboard and caused different problems. If my nipples were sore (and they will be to some extent when you have a newborn, there’s no getting around it), I didn’t want anything touching them, so I wore those plastic shields inside my bra, the kind that have little pads at the bottom to collect any milk that leaks. I guess those plastic shields made it so that skin could never fully dry out, and my baby and I ended up getting thrush. He didn’t have it too bad, but it was a super painful infection for me, requiring medicine, etc. and made me cry almost every time he needed to nurse. Again, weeks and weeks of misery.

    I tell these stories not to scare, but in the hopes that you can learn from my mistakes and have an easier time of it. With good advice, breastfeeding really shouldn’t be rocket science. This time, my plan is to work on helping the baby get a good latch from the start (to minimize soreness in general), and to give my breasts as much air time as possible–fresh air promotes healing and reduces chafing. Lanolin and similar products help too, but I find nothing helps like fresh air. I was too self-conscious to do it before with relatives in the house helping out–I felt like I had to be socializing with them all the time when they were there, and that of course meant proper clothes–but this time if I need to I may minimize visitors, and/or let them occupy themselves and spend the time I need to to stay healthy.

  • Reply Greg January 17, 2014 at 10:10 pm

    We went with the Ikea ANTILOP high chair with tray. It’s simple, light and easy to clean. Our little one is now 2 and she still loves it.

  • Reply Jennie Galloway January 17, 2014 at 10:18 pm

    Congratulations on your impending arrival, so exciting ! I have 2 boys Andy baby essentials are lanolin for breastfeeding, lansinoh is the company in the Uk and weleda (a German brand I think) calendula nappy change cream is the best baby bum cream with a gorgeous smell! They also have lots of other fantastic baby skin products. I would also recommend an electric
    Medela pump, once breastfeeding is established MAM bottles are excellent and good for colic too, and a bebe au lait nursing cover or a large swaddle, aden and anais are lovely, hope this helps!

  • Reply elizabeth January 17, 2014 at 10:23 pm

    Hi. Before you have your first baby, your mind is so focussed on making everything just right for your new little love, that you just can’t fathom how hard the first few weeks are. I would reiterate what others have said about getting the right advice for breastfeeding etc. I had lots and lots of support to breastfeed; groups, advisors, experts, equipment. What I wasn’t prepared for was that my body just didn’t make enough milk for my son to thrive. I tried everything including drinking this foul concoction called tiger milk which only served to make me put on weight, but sadly not my baby. I refused to give in, and all my advisors urged me to continue, so focussed were they on breast is best. But my baby wasn’t thriving and we ended back up in hospital. Eventually, a baby whisperer/midwife introduced me to mixed feeding. My son managed to feed from me and take formula from a bottle, he began to put on weight and in this way we progressed. In the end I breastfed him until he was 18mths. However, I look back now (he is 9 and my other son is 6) and think I was given the wrong advice to continue trying to feed him for so long when he clearly wasn’t thriving. I think it was because I felt a failure and quite heartbroken that I couldn’t feed him solely myself, so much so that I soldiered on through mastitis and cracked nipples. So my advice would be, sometimes all the will in the world is not enough, and things with babies don’t always go to plan. The most important thing is that you and your son thrive, which ever way that turns out, is the right way. You have to be true to what is right for your family. I wish you a safe delivery, accept all help offered, ask for help if you need it, and just remember that after the exhaustion of the first few weeks it is just the best.

  • Reply Jessica January 17, 2014 at 10:48 pm

    You are well prepared! Others may have mentioned these, but just a few more pieces of advice from a mom of two boys (and fellow New Hampshire girl, back in the day).

    Towels – the hood is nice because when you take the baby from the bath to get clothes on, you can keep the hood bit on their head while you dry and clothe them. When they become toddlers it is good to stick the towel hood on their head before they run away from you!

    Diaper bag – skip hop all the way. You can just stick your free hand in it without unzipping or unfastening, which can be helpful if you only have one hand to spare. And they make neutral colors so daddy won’t resent using it as well.

    Diaper bin – in my humble opinion, you just need a small regular bin. You will be emptying that sucker very frequently and so smell won’t be an issue. Better yet, put the bin just outside junior’s door if you aren’t up to rubbish duties.

    Baby carriers – I had the baby bjorn, which is definitely worth having (or similar). But it hurt my shoulders and I was far fonder of my hotsling carrier. It was easy to use (the moby defeated me) and my kids loved cuddling up in a horizontal fashion and sometimes you need to go hands free and the kid won’t let you put him down.

    Other/misc – I don’t know your feelings on pacifiers, but it would be a good idea to have a few for when the Mommy Store needs to be closed. One of my kids lived for his bink, the other never took one. Don’t worry – he won’t of off to college with it!

    Breast feeding – I will give you the advice that my very direct Russian girlfriend gave me: don’t be shy! You need to stick your boob in baby’s mouth like he’s about to eat a hamburger. And unfortunately it does hurt for the first few weeks; take ibuprofen half an hour before the next feed and just wait it out. It will be so easy after that. I would also recommend getting a medela pump so daddy can do some feeds too (and baby can get used to a bottle – otherwise you will be like me, with a 6 month old who can only drink from my boob!)

    Getting your figure back – don’t worry about this and don’t look at celebrities who show up in a bikini 3 weeks post-birth. One thing I would recommend, which some would say is crazy and vain (ok, I agree on the latter) is to wear some form of Control-style undergarments after you have the baby. In Japan and France they recommend post-natal girdles but I just wore the spanx I wore at my wedding. Firstly, things will be pretty gushy, and the spanx kept that under control, and I personally think it helped my stomach muscles come back together. Just a thought!

    I’m really happy for you. Just trust yourself – Dr Spock was right: you know more than you think you do.

    Jessica x

  • Reply Mel January 17, 2014 at 11:18 pm

    All you need is you. Forget the rest!!!!!!’

  • Reply Romy January 17, 2014 at 11:23 pm


    Mechanical pump over hand pump. For SURE. Here in Argentina we have a Leche Legue like RiRu mentioned and there you can try out all of the pumps available. I went one called Medeia, but I don’t think it is available over there. The AVENT hand pump sucks, and it makes you want to cry and kill the industrial designer that did that monstrosity.
    When breast feeding, taking care of your nipples is TOP 1 important. It can hurt, and it can hurt really bad. DON’T GIVE UP, the soreness goes after 2 weeks.
    I used creams in my nipples to try and alleviate the pain, based on marigold. But sincerely it is just a matter of time until your nipples get used to the action.
    Bottles, I got the ones from AVENT. Just go for the big ones, don’t spend money on the smaller ones. Do get an extra pair of N1 nipples because the larger bottles comes with N2.
    I also got a pair of pacifiers from AVENT.
    Also you might need the breast protectors, it is like a carefree but for breasts. They leek! :)
    If you see that you don’t produce enough milk or quick enough, I used AVENT breast shells on my breast during the day (they are very comfy) and put the milk inside a bottle I had inside the fridge. At nighttime my husband would give the baby that milk so I could sleep or chill a bit.
    I use the microwave sterilizer from avent as well.
    I had a baby plastic bathtub and used it once. She is a kicker! I just bath her in the normal bathtub, I get in there with her or sit next to the bathtub and play (even when she was one week old)
    Don’t spend more money on pampers wipes. Get cotton and that oily cream to clean bottoms (we call it óleo calcáreo!). Wipes only when you leave the house!
    You are more than covered! You won’t believe how simple it is, they don’t need more stuff!
    ENJOY IT, it is the best thing EVER!

  • Reply Romy January 17, 2014 at 11:35 pm


    Again, don’t give up on breastfeeding. Ask your doctor to put the baby on your chest ASAP once he is born. He might even try to breastfeed only a couple of minutes after birth.
    These last 10 days can be very very long, cook in advance, and make sure you have plenty of food you like at home and in the freezer.
    Don’t forget your charger when you go to the hospital and you could also do with a book. The baby sleeps 90% of the time you are there and it can get a little bit boring!

  • Reply Libby January 17, 2014 at 11:41 pm

    Loved your list Holly and quietly relieved to be away from that stage. I loved them as babies but travel is so much easier at ages 11 and 9. One thing on sleeping is I had a beautiful crib that barely got used. My first baby was born in the US and we had a lot of trouble breastfeeding and saw an awesome lactation consultant (glad to hear you’ll get to see one). Because I was stubborn I persisted until baby and I got it under control. This took about 3 months and at first it only worked for both of us when I was lying down so he just ended up sleeping with us. He slept and I slept and the crib gathered dust until he was 10 months old and he moved into it. My second (born in Australia) was a completely different story. I guess I just want to say trust your instincts and do what feels right to you. I’m excited for you and being a parent is the best job ever.

  • Reply Alison Gibb January 17, 2014 at 11:57 pm

    The wonderful thing about breastfeeding is the only ‘equipment’ you need is breasts!

    Wanting to share the feeding with your husbands sounds terribly reasonable – a bit like sharing the driving on a long trip – but beware of sharing the driving with someone who does not have a driving license…maybe let him do other things around the place!

  • Reply Elizabeth Frank January 18, 2014 at 12:16 am

    Congratulations, Holly! You’ll be a wonderful mother! Lots of great advice here already, but thought I’d add a few tips based on all 15 months of my parenting experience :)

    Sleep: You may want to look into all of your options for crib mattresses; based on research about the chemicals, etc. in conventional baby mattresses, I purchased this organic one: Also, sleep advice that worked well was: dark room, white noise, and white sheets. Swaddling worked well for us, too, and lots of walking around the apartment or bouncing on an exercise ball. Every baby is different; you and your husband will soon know best how to soothe your little one!

    Breastfeeding: I have found my lactation consultant to be so valuable; it’s great you have that support. My gear recs are: (1) Soothies; (2) Motherlove; (3) Natural breast pads; (4) Anita nursing bra; and (5) Earth Mama Angel Baby warm compress
    I also liked having a water bottle and kindle next to the nursing spot. Oh, and two weeks after our baby was born, I went out alone for a massage, which was so nice for my sore back and arms!

    Laundry: Since babies can be sensitive to fragrances, etc., I switched to Charlie’s Soap ( and have had a good experience. I also like Planet Wise products for soiled clothes, e.g.,

    Finally, one of my favorite pieces of advice was: “your body is your baby’s natural habitat.” I held, carried, or wore my baby as much as possible, and looking back I absolutely cherish every moment. Follow your instincts, surround yourself with support, and get ready to be amazed how your little miracle transforms everything.

  • Reply Sweetshadel Lane January 18, 2014 at 12:28 am

    Dear Holly,

    As others have mentioned, more swaddling blankets, burp cloths, and essential lactation assistance would be key.

    But also–my greatest advice in the early weeks/months, 1) sleep when he sleeps 2) accept ALL OFFERS OF FOOD you can bear!!! Trust!

    Wishing you a lovely birth experience and great joy with your baby.

  • Reply Sweetshade Lane January 18, 2014 at 12:29 am

    Sweetshadel Lane,

    Oops, meant to write Sweetshade Lane!

  • Reply Larissa January 18, 2014 at 12:43 am


    I always admired the midwives at the hospital as they do it everyday they are just amazing at it, if you can try the zip up ones they weren’t around when my first 2 were born a huge help for my third ! They should teach you at the hospital :) they did with me:) good luck and forgot to say get as much rest as you can now, do all the things you love doing before that little man arrives :).

  • Reply Dana @ chocolate and sunshine January 18, 2014 at 12:51 am

    Holly, I’m a Mother of two and the most recent was twelve years ago so I’m not up to date on all of the latest and greatest but if I know your style, you will keep a level head and go for not only stylish but functional. Everything you’ve highlighted is! My two cents: don’t worry about a high chair for a few months – you won’t need it for awhile; and for clothing, it’s best to buy the cuter/nicer items for at least 6-9 months of age as at first, other than all of of the newborn cuteness, your baby boy will outgrow the clothing so quickly. My son was born in July & mostly wore T-shirts & diapers and so adorable; and he had a ton of clothing of which many were barely worn.

    You are lucky that he wasn’t born early. You want to have as much done as possible as all that matters then are sleep and food for all three of you. You are bringing back so many wonderful memories of waiting for my first child to arrive. I would sit in his rocking chair, wishing he would just get here. ha — I still have that white wooden rocking chair & he’s 27! Keep yours, too. You will be able to use for other kids or grandkids. Much happiness!

  • Reply debbi in Texas January 18, 2014 at 2:40 am

    Your chair is gorgeous BTW. Our grandson is now almost three years, and it’s a nice idea to wait on some things till you are ready for them. You may change your mind on your needs, or something better might be found.

    They never used a high chair that takes up valuable space; instead, it was a Chicco attachable high chair that was easily portable. Great to bring with them to our house; we didn’t need to get one either. Then as a toddler he had a booster seat that fit a grownup chair to sit in.

    Diaper Genie is perfect to dispose disposable diapers in the bag that fits inside and when full just close up and toss.

    A boppy pillow is perfect for nursing (rests on your lap under your baby and relieves arm strain on mommy); later it’s a “sit up” pillow on the floor for the baby. Very handy; get the covers too so you have extras on hand when they get dirty and in the laundry.

    A very soft light, to turn on during the night when nursing and changing diapers. Avoids the startle effect of bright light and is very soothing for mommy when nursing, too.

    A pacifier is very handy at times; there are may out there and some babies may have a favorite. Just have one handy; it won’t hurt them and can save the day.

    A soft lullaby animal to play at naptime and bedtime, or favorite lullabies CD to listen to.

    Good luck and best wishes.

  • Reply Georgia January 18, 2014 at 3:37 am

    Hey, I think You are doing great. Enjoy this moment of nesting. It was really fun for us too. Our boy is 3 now and he really appreciates his room. Children can really surprise us by enjoying our effort of creating a cosy home. And I believe they will get good taste and an eye for design growing up with parents that care about it. I wish you all the best and try not be anxious with breast feeding. See how it goes. I took me a week to get a hold of it. Don’t mind buying stuff you will end up not using. Many blessings and good luck.

  • Reply Georgia January 18, 2014 at 3:41 am

    Ahhh by the way my highchair is nano from bloom. We love it. Still use it. Got it in chocolate brown goes great with my wooden table on the dining room.

  • Reply anna January 18, 2014 at 4:29 am

    breast-fed baby poops smell divine, so until you start putting other foods in his system you shouldn’t need to worry about the smell..

    i recommend getting another massive box of diapers. newborn boys pee everywhere, at least both of mine did. so those extra blankets will come in handy when you are washing your changing pad cover and need to change a diaper.
    i also recommend a big tub of petroleum jelly or similar for his bottom. diaper rash is the worst! I also highly recommend the Calmoseptine that someone else previously mentioned.

    i hope you have a nice collection of books to read to your little one. Goodnight Moon is a classic. my two year old must have this read to him every night.

    I hate to be negative but if you think you are too tired to take a breastfeeding class, wait, just wait, until your little one makes his debut. I hope the breastfeeding goes well for you.

    • Reply decor8 January 18, 2014 at 10:00 am

      @Anna – I’m tired because, since I got pregnant, I wrote my third book, taught an e-course online for one month with a one month prep period of non-stop writing and recording, helped renovate a 2,400 square foot apartment, packed my entire house, hosted a flea market (and a second one tomorrow), moved into a new home, and am currently unpacking and decorating it! Also had a new kitchen installed. Oh, and I ordered furniture for and completely designed a baby’s room, not to mention ran my blog and company – all while having 5 months of hyperemesis gravidarum in which I lost 20 pounds during the first half of my pregnancy and threw up, on average, 4-5 times a day. So yeah, I was a bit tired to also take a nursing class!!! ha ha!!! But now that life is getting back to normal and I’m no longer sick, I can focus more on learning about nursing.

  • Reply Elena January 18, 2014 at 4:57 am

    For nursing the baby, I recommend getting yourself some of the ointment for chapping — they get pretty sore, but after a while that will heal and you won’t have any problem….but it is one of the hardest part of staying with breastfeeding when the nipples get sore.

    Also, I strongly recommend that you get the Medela electric double pump. THats what I used. I had a car charger for it and an electrical charger. Everyone I knew who used a Medella pump was happy with it so that’s what I got. I will tell you it was odd and awkward at first but then you totally get used to it…and it even becomes a relief to be able to express the milk out when baby is not with you, or when baby doesn’t consume enough to empty you. That is very important. My baby always fell asleep before she could drink much, consequently, I was left with milk still in there…so my supply started to dwindle. I learned from a lactation consultant that with milk supply it is “use or lose it” so – this is important, if baby is drinking from a bottle instead of from you, (like if you are away, asleep, at work, sick, etc) then, you must pump when baby is drinking from bottle, this way you each stay on the same schedule (more or less). So if baby drinks from you first thing in the morning, and two hours later you are gone to work, then pump at work (I pumped in my car, you can buy a big cover up smock for privacy). Keep a small cooler with ice pack for your bottles of milk, then freeze them or refrigerate them when you get home. Save that milk for the next day (if you go to work) then also pump. To retain your milk supply you must always pump when baby is not drinking directly from you. There is a natural supplement sold in Wholefoods and natural stores which really helps with supply and I used it everyday. The benefits of nursing your baby are amazing! ONce my baby caught a cold, and all I did was take extra vitamin C, and nurse her more, and within 1 day her cold was completely gone! Also, she had no digestive problems (as she did with formula which we tried while my supply was down and I was rebuilding my supply by pumping constantly). The benefit to you is pounds literally melt off of your body when breastfeeding, and your baby will develop a beautiful and normal bond with you in that experience. God bless your family :)

  • Reply Elena January 18, 2014 at 5:05 am

    Oh by the way, in the beginning, breastfeeding can be very frustrating when baby doesn’t latch well, and your supply isn’t increasing. But take heart, a consultant can really help, and educate yourself as much as possible BEFORE baby is born ( I wish I had done that, but I didn’t know it wouldn’t be automatic!). I struggled at first, especially when nurses aids in the hospital told me to just give the baby formula because she was crying out of “hunger” — the truth is, most hospital staff are not well trained on lactation. I was scared of depriving my baby of food and nutrition so I gave her formula when it seemed my milk was not coming in (I had a cesarean). I am proud to report, that after getting the hang of breastfeeding (me and baby:) ) I breastfed my baby for a year an a half. It just takes a lot of patience, determination, and practice. You won’t regret it because there are so many benefits to both you and baby.

  • Reply Kell Stoll January 18, 2014 at 6:01 am

    Hi Holly, i have just had my second baby 3 months ago and have been following your journey! It is such an exciting, beautiful time in our lives. For a baby bag i have been through a few but this time round i went for a Louis Vuitton Carry All – the biggest one. It is such a beautiful bag, one that will last me forever and it holds so much stuff. It is perfect for carrying all of ‘mum’s’ stuff and heaps of room to add babys stuff, and you won’t out grow out of it once baby hits toddler/preschool age, you still need to carry so much stuff around when they get older (drinks/change of clothes/toys etc) by the time i added up the money i spent on bags i brought for my first baby i could have just brought the LV! Yep it is expensive but such an investment piece.. (oh it is also the perfect carry on bag when travelling too – bonus!) Oh in the white and grey canvas colour (not the brown monogram) good luck with the final stages of pregnancy and your first few weeks at home xx

  • Reply Heather January 18, 2014 at 6:03 am

    First of all congratulations!! I’m about to have my second boy and they are the best! Here are some things I can’t live without!!!

    1. Baby Bjorn Travel Crib – so lean and easy to set up and folds into little briefcase sized travel case. Perfect for trips or naps:

    2. Wipes Warmer – I thought this was not necessary with the first, but I really think it must be so comforting when you are a newborn:

    3. Drying Rack – if you plan to pump and feed with bottles…you’ll definitely need a bottle brush and drying rack. I know that the grass rack is cute, but trust me you’ll definitely need two tiers! and

    Also, don’t forget soap for the bottles:

    4. Mustela soap – you’ll want to smell your baby every second!

    5. I started out with super cute burp cloths but I quickly switched and bought these in bulk: They are super absorbent and you can bleach them!

    6. The snotsucker (believe me): and in the beginning I was too scared to cut his nails so I just filed them–so much easier!

    7. Sound machine–so you can watch TV and talk in the next room:

    8. Love love love this monitor. I love being able to zoom in on his sleeping face!

    6. Everything and anything Lansinoh!
    * The magic purple bottle will be your best friend. The first couple weeks you are so sore!
    * Speaking of sore…these are amazing too: TheraPearl 3-in-1:
    * Affinity Pro Pump: (I actually used the Medela the first time around, but I’m so in love with this brand I might switch and try this pump this next time around)
    * Nursing Pads (to prevent leakage):
    * Milk Storage Bags:
    * Milk Storage Bottles:
    * Bottles: There are two bottles that advertise being the most similar to the suck babies use when breastfeeding. I used the Medela Calma; which was new to the market and my baby loved!!! But Lansinoh also has a Natural Wave nipple that I’d like to try: I think they are coming out with a new (less round) bottle in a month!

    Hope this helps!!!

  • Reply Nina January 18, 2014 at 6:35 am

    Hi Holly,
    I think the tipps for breast feeding are more or less complete. The most important is to relax. It sounds easy but it is not. Don’t accept so many visitors in the first days at home. I was very keen to show the baby to family and friends, but it was too stressful and I endend up in a Mastitis. After a couple of weeks you will be a pro and do. the breast feeding without even thinking about it.

    After swaddling you should consider to use a sleeping bag instead of blankets. I think your midwife and/or pediatrist will inform you about that. I can recommend the German brand Aro Artländer. They make cozy down feather sleeping bags and are available on Amazon.

    Weleda is the best brand for creams etc., available at DM.

    All the best for a smooth delivery. The first moments with the baby are just magic and special. I also remember that these last days before delivery are so intensely and full exicitement. Enjoy them!!

    Take care and once again all the best!

  • Reply Deepa January 18, 2014 at 7:06 am

    High chair: Hausch is a German brand that makes high chairs that are very similar to Stokke’s. We were given one as a gift and we just love it!
    Diaper bag: StorkSak bags are so stylish and practical. Huge and numerous inside pockets for keeping everything organized, plus a matching insulated bottle bag and foldable changing pad. Many of them look like (non-diaper) handbags that I already have. They have nice messenger bags for daddies too.
    Swaddles: Aden and Anais muslin blankets are so useful, even after you’ve stopped swaddling the baby.
    Nursing: Boob Design makes stylish and discreet nursing tops and dresses. I also found basic nursing tank tops from H&M easier and comfier to wear at home than a nursing top and bra combo. Get a good nursing pillow, too, and stock up on easy-to-eat snacks (granola bars, etc) within reach of your glider. Nursing always made me hungry!
    I live in the Netherlands and was able to find all these brands here, so it would be easy to find them in Germany, or find webshops that will ship to you. Best of luck! Exciting times!

  • Reply Lizette January 18, 2014 at 8:39 am

    hi Holly,

    Absolutely love this post and your style! this makes me want to have another baby so much!

    Don’t know if I understood it correctly but you defenitely need more than one cover for your changing pad. When you change the daiper, boys like to pee when the diaper is of…..

    Good luck with these last couple of days and I hope you have a great delivery and recovery!

    – Lizette

  • Reply Nina January 18, 2014 at 11:23 am

    Holly, me again.
    Don’t bother about nursing classes. You cannot learn it before giving birth anyway. Just listen to the advice of your midwife.
    Here is a good film from “Deutsche Hebammenverband”:
    You’ll do fine without nursing class, I’m sure!!

  • Reply Elke January 18, 2014 at 12:21 pm

    Someone gave me the flexibath as a present. I am so satisfied with it, when my daughter was a newborn it was just the right size (not too deep). Now that she is one year and a half it became too smal for bathing, now she uses it as a toy (throw all her little toys in and out of the bath). After she’s done we fould it and put it in her playingcorner.

  • Reply Deepa January 18, 2014 at 1:42 pm


    Sorry, the high chair is by Hauck, not Hausch!

  • Reply Beth January 18, 2014 at 2:40 pm

    Congratulations! You have awhile to shop for a high chair so I would recommend a look at the very inexpensive version from ikea. We looked at stokke but landed on the ikea. It’s good looking , and best of all it cleans up in a snap. Most parts can go in the dishwasher!
    The best times are ahead! Relax and enjoy.

  • Reply Kylee January 18, 2014 at 3:44 pm

    Hi Holly, everything looks so beautiful and lovely. It’s such an exciting time!
    I just wanted to say that I think we definitely over complicate breastfeeding these days. I have six month old twins that I have been and still am exclusively breastfeeding. I always thought it was the most natural thing in the world to do until I started reading books about it and getting myself all stressed out about potential problems. As it turned out we all learnt fast and it has worked very well for us. I had help from a lactation consultant in hospital, and it was difficult and yes, painful too, at first. But my babies were very little – your boy should be big and strong and have no trouble latching on. He knows what he needs and where to get it!! Trust yourself and your baby’s instincts -we’ve been feeding babies this way since the beginning of time. Nurse as soon as you can after birth, and and much as he needs after that. Its all supply and demand; if he wants it, and you nurse him, your body will produce it. We women are amazing creatures! And when he’s a little older and nursing and looking up at you with those ‘I love you so MUCH mama’ eyes, your heart will just melt :)
    Best of luck with it all, you’ll do wonderfully well.

  • Reply Maria January 18, 2014 at 7:24 pm


    Medela! Not Mandela ;-)

  • Reply AmelieG January 18, 2014 at 7:40 pm


    Hi Holly,
    I wrote you a private email. I hope you get it.

  • Reply Sandra zerahn January 18, 2014 at 8:17 pm

    You must be so excited for your boy to arrive! My little guy arrived in August ,so I have all oof the equipment. I have a few suggestions to what you might need. I live in Denmark, so we have similar weather. This “sleeping bag” or this (I have a third version not found online) is an essential here in Denmark. Beside keeping your baby warm in the stroller, you can carry your baby from the stroller up the stairs to your appartment, which is nice. It is not for indoor sleeping use though. But here in Denmark most babies take their naps outside. too. For the highchair – we have the Stokke in black and like it. I also considered this (Nomi chair)by the same designer: you can choose colors etc. yourself, but I don’t know if it’s your taste :-) Enjoy the last part of pregnancy. My boy arrived 13 days past his due date, so I got quite impatient.

  • Reply Rebecca Goode January 18, 2014 at 8:41 pm

    My best advice ( advice that was also passed down to me ) for a breastfeeding mama… the beginning you will be feeding at least every 3 hours, which sometimes can feel like that’s ALL you do ALL day long!! Get a good pump ( double, hospital grade ) so you can pump at least 1 serving so Dada can do a nighttime feeding, which would give you a 6 hour stretch of sleep! And I’m telling you, that will seem like HEAVEN and make a huge difference in your day! Best wishes!

  • Reply Emily January 18, 2014 at 10:59 pm

    What a wonderful collection! I think you’ve got it covered ;-)

    Highchairs – yes love the Stokke Tripp Trapp. We had a couple of others but they didn’t work anywhere near as well and now they have that cute baby set it’s even better.

    Baby slings/baby wearing – loved wearing all our babies in the first few months. We both worked from home with babies 1 & 2 and both took turns to wear the baby. And with baby 4 it was the only way to keep her safe and always ready to leave the house for the school run! Nothing cuter that seeing your husband wear your baby too. Will melt your heart.

    So excited for you both! Such a special time. xxx

  • Reply Sylvia January 18, 2014 at 11:49 pm

    Dear Holly,
    Congratulations, the nursery looks fabulous.
    I adore your blog and read it very often.
    I am a mother of two, and i see that you already had very valuable tips.
    I think your husband can help you best in the beginning by feeding you. You ll be exhausted cause breastfeeding can be around the clock.
    You baby and you are going to have to learn how to do it. The midwife will help you. The first 6 weeks are the thoughest, then baby gets able to space feedings and life becomes a bit more normal.
    You will also find out that there is an immense parenting community on the web, and it can be helfull to google questions even in the middle of the night.
    La leche league is ressourceful.
    I found out it really helped me to prepare before by reading stuff about nursing and now information is quite easy to get.
    It is quite easy to become discouraged: baby seem always hungry, nipples can hurt… But it is all in the beginning only and things become really better after roughly 6 weeks.
    Good luck.

  • Reply Katie January 19, 2014 at 5:05 am

    In LOVE with those Land of Nod-esque shadow boxes. How adorable are those?? Great post!

  • Reply liz mcgavran January 19, 2014 at 7:33 am

    Trish Blair,

    Do not Scotchguard anything as it is very toxic, especially for babies!!
    A throw or sheet is a good idea.

  • Reply Laura January 19, 2014 at 12:11 pm

    Wow what a lucky little boy.
    I thought same as you re hubby and breast feeding, but int the end found I just need to get the feeding established for the first month, there is plenty of time for your husband to feed later if you express etc.
    Good luck, looking forward to reading your journey
    Laura uk

  • Reply Koidu January 19, 2014 at 5:08 pm

    Hello! Recommending this supercool and stylish high-chair from Estonia. Red Dot Design Award winner. Simple and absolutely gorgeous :)

  • Reply Bettyjoy January 19, 2014 at 5:10 pm

    Jenny Ryan,

    Yes, we lasted about 2 weeks after my daughter was born before I went out and bought some swaddling blankets. I never realised how much newborns thrash about at night, my daughter woke herself up so many times whenever her arms hit the side of the bassinet or she hit herself in the face! The swaddling blankets were a BIG help and she loved them for the first 3 months or so. Definitely recommend!

  • Reply Hana January 19, 2014 at 9:34 pm

    Don’t worry about the milk coming in the delivery room! In the beginning you’ll only have a sort of “premilk” (in German it’s “Vormlich’, I don’t know the correcr english expression). The ‘real’ milk comes only after a few days. That’s when the breasts will get ginormous;)
    But you should definitely start nursing in the delivery room as all the others have recommended…

    Hana (Germany)

  • Reply Hana January 19, 2014 at 10:01 pm

    Oh, I wanted to reply to you directly above, where you mentioned the milk coming…sorry!

    Anyway, I also wanted to say: I really, really enjoy your blog(s)! I find them very inspiring and I love your choices for your baby-list! I have been reading your blogs on and off for a few years, but have been to shy to comment. I started reading them before I knew that you would move to Hanover, my birth- and hometown. Now I live in Fulda (Hessen).

    I have a son who is 18 month old and a second baby is on the way. While it’s true, that babys don’t need a lot of stuff (and I was so glad when my midwife told me that I really didn’t need anything, because I was panicking a few weeks before the birth of my son, early contractions and so on..), it’s fun to pick out all the nice things for your baby and to imagine how it will be. It’ll probably be very different;) …but that’s just how life is.

    I also wanted to add a few things (I hope it hasn’t already been said a dozen times already, I didn’t have time to read all the comments:)

    Breastfeeding can be hard, but I loved it very, very much. You should follow your instincts. Although that might be difficult, because most of us don’t have much experience with breastfeeding mothers. I didn’t have a lactation consultant, but I think it’s a good idea. A book, that helped me a lot was “Das Stillbuch”. I think you can get it in any good bookstore, for example “Konetrz” or “Schmorl und von Seefeldt”It’s written by an American, but I don’t know if it exists in English, because she lived in Germany. I used it once my boy was there like a encyclopedia. It clearly was originally written in the 80ies (but has been updated), so some things might sound a bit weird..

    I hhink in the first six weeks or so, one should’t use bottels or “Schnuller” as to not confuse the baby. Some might not be easily confused, but you never know.

    Breastfeeding hurts (a bit) in the beginning, but that stops. You don’t necessarily need “Stillhütchen”. I can recommend the Weleda “Stillöl” and against sore nipples (that you’ll probably have in the beginning) Lansinoh salve. You can get both at DM or the pharmacy.

    And I hope you don’t mind this, I don’t want to critisize: Please ask your midwife about the baby chair (Babybjörn) for daytime. As I recall babys should – when there not able to sit up by themselves – not be positioned in
    a sitting or half-sitting (like in the baby chair) position, because this is bad for their backs. Because of this they also shouldn’t travel in a ‘Maxicosi’ for more than two ours uniterrupted.

    I loved my Babymel (a Storksak brand) diaper and changing bag and can recommend them!

    I wish you and your hausband all the best!

    Hana (Fulda, Germany)

  • Reply Amy - Pride of Place January 19, 2014 at 10:11 pm

    Hi Holly,

    How exciting, you are definitely more organised than I was. I waited until my little boy was born before I bought anything for feeding. I thought I would wait and see how the breastfeeding went in hospital. I ended up getting the Medela Swing breast pump about a month after he was born and we had established feeding well, all my friend’s had recommended it to me. It is great and it comes with a bottle that has a teat designed to best imitate how babies breast feed. Good luck, can’t wait to hear more on the blog. :-)

  • Reply Hana January 19, 2014 at 10:11 pm

    Oh and with an electric breast pump I would wait and see, if you need one. If you need one your doctor can suscribe you one and your insurance will pay! You can rent it at the pharmacy!

  • Reply Nicole L January 19, 2014 at 11:51 pm

    Oh what fun decorating a nursery! I love so much of what you’ve chosen and can’t wait for the tour!

    My two little cents on a diaper pail – get something without a lid! You don’t want to close the smell in the can so it wafts out every time you open it. We ended up using a simple wire garbage pail. Poop diapers went straight to the bathroom, contents emptied as much as possible into the toilet (it’s what you’re supposed to do, though most people don’t realise this) and then the diaper into the bathroom garbage. We never had an issue with smells or messes.

    And don’t forget a really good stain remover! Breast milk spit up makes the worst stains that seem to magically reappear even after being laundered!

    Best wishes for bringing baby into the world and all the joys of being a new mom!

  • Reply jja January 20, 2014 at 12:30 am

    Hi Holly,
    if you can go to the breast feeding class, it is for free and it will prepare you well for that task. Germany is strong pro-breast feeding country and you can get a lot of support. Your Hebamme and hospital stuff will also teach you the most you need!
    La leche league has plenty good advices and for sure some free consultants in your area.
    …and your husband will have more then enough opportunities to bond with a baby, but if you insist that he is right now involved into feeding, your breast feeding may not last long.
    Babies learn fast that it is easier to drink from the bottle and get frustrated with classical breast feeding. You have to decide what is more important and what is best for the baby.
    About breast feeding chair, none of my friends had one. It is just not a custom here that’s why you can find almost any, they all breast feed everywhere in their homes or outside using Stillkissen/Nusing pillow. I guess you will need one too.

    Most german apartments don’t have space for a special breast feeding chair and rather use that space for baby to play around. Your apartment is huge, but most of the families live in 80 m2 or so.
    Practical thing is also maya wrap for caring baby all day at your body, at least for first weeks.

    It looks to me like you bought some products which double the functions the first product already had, but this is the first child syndrome, so enjoy :-)
    Car seat would be one of the absolute priorities on my list, safety first!
    I would follow the ADAC recommendations.
    As far as I know a newborn can not use a regular car seat for babies, first it comes to Babyschale anyway.

    This would also be in use as Baby Carrier, like 2in1.
    Your stroller is such a beauty, one of the nicest one I saw!
    It is also important that it fits in your car without much work and disassembling.
    Most of the winter babies have some kind of additional heating above their changing place, it can be cold at night. I found this a great help.

    For cleaning a baby even pampers sensitive wipes are full of harsh chemistry, I used just warm water and cotton wipe. I would also take care to use eco-certified mattress for a baby.
    I know Germany is all about BIO, but for some stuff it makes a lot of sense.

    Also a cute product for above the crib is baby mobile

    Diper bin/Windeleimer

    Any smart phone can produce white noise, so no need for sound machine.
    Also you may need a sleeping bag for baby.

    Germans don’t have a baby shower but most of the moms have a baby wish list at baby walz, amazon or similar shop and your friends will buy you a bunch of stuff, also when they visit your baby for the first time you will also get a lots of presents.

    The brand for the baby chair is not Hausch but Hauck. Affordable and good quality for 70 €

    All the furniture you bought is really beautiful!
    Oh yes, get some interesting and light literature since for the next weeks weeks you might feel like you are breast feeding around the clock.

    Alles wird gut! :-)
    Is house mouse blog still existing and I can not find it or?

    • Reply decor8 January 20, 2014 at 2:49 pm

      @jja – You said, “german apartments don’t have space for a special breast feeding chair”. These chairs aren’t big – they are normal size, same as those IKEA rocking chairs everyone has here ( – I think many just don’t know that stylish options exist for the baby’s room and the best thing about a nursing chair is that you can use it in the room for years to read to your child and later, you can either remove the rocker part on the bottom and screw in some normal legs or just use the chair as it is in another room. Also, I don’t think everyone in Germany has a small apartment. At least 50% of my friends have 100 qm and more – that’s over 1,000 square feet – that’s a lot for city living! Thank you for all of your great links – I will look at them. Also, is still around!

  • Reply Sarah January 20, 2014 at 3:40 pm

    For the first few days you will produce colostrum (someone said in Germany it is called ‘pre-milk’. It is very very important for the baby, it contains all sorts of antibodies and important things for the baby’s development and immune system. The volume does not feel much when it is being taken by the baby, but it is intensely concentrated. Then on about day 3 the proper milk will arrive. It is obvious that it is coming, and you will feel like you are about to burst!

  • Reply Mel January 20, 2014 at 6:17 pm


    Here is a good wiki for swaddling. There is a video as well. Best wishes for a healthy and safe delivery!

  • Reply jja January 20, 2014 at 7:41 pm

    Hi again Holly,

    I was thinking about the apartment size in Germany and I agree that 100 qm ist a lot for a city.
    Really big apartments you can mostly find in the Altbau Style (Jugendstil). Or some brand new apartments like like this too. More of a penthouse style.
    Most of my friends have bedroom, room for kids and living room. They would love more, but this is not affordable in some cities.
    Singles will live in less then 50 m3 most of the time.
    Maybe it depends where do you live?
    Like in München for 200 m2 in the city and Altbau you need more then 2500 €. In Frankfurt also. Hambrug ist also expensive.
    None of my friends can pay a rent like that, there all have regular jobs like teacher, medical stuff. Then again apartment of that size in Berlin is twice as low. Your city is also not one one the most expensive in the country, at least for rental costs, what is good for people living there.
    I agree with you, the breast feeding chair can be used for a long time. I would like to see good design of it, kinda scandinavian meets modern style. I like Eames rocking chair and most of my friends with kids have that chair, but I am not sure if it is really comfortable for two.

    • Reply decor8 January 20, 2014 at 8:43 pm

      @jja – Yes, could be where you live (which city) and also your income level and of course, whether or not you live in an altbau or not. We have an altbau, it’s 220 qm, and many of our friends around here with families live in an altbau too and they have at least 100 qm, some have 180 or more but not many because most of the albau that size are owned or split up into two apartments. Hannover is not very cheap to live as it once was, but still more affordable than Hamburg and Munich, but more expensive than Berlin.

  • Reply Lia January 20, 2014 at 9:03 pm

    Good for you for breastfeeding that baby! I’m happy to hear it’s so natural and normal where you live. Unfortunately, people don’t always see it that way here in the States. It’s the best thing you can do for your baby though! I noticed you mentioned having your husband involved. Believe me, as a nursing mother, my husband played a huge role in helping us be successful (11 months exclusive breastfeeding here!). He can help make sure you are fed and drinking plenty of water. He can help with cleaning and meals, and of course holding and caring for the baby as much as possible too. There are so many ways a dad can bond with his baby and it doesn’t have to be feeding them. Lactation consultants encourage you to wait until breastfeeding is well established before offering a bottle. This will help prevent nipple confusion. Also, if you do want dad to give a bottle, make sure you pump for that feeding. It’s important that you pump for every feeding missed. It’s all about supply and demand. If you miss feedings, this will tell your body you don’t need to produce as much milk. There can also be issues with engorgement, etc. I HIGHLY recommend the book “The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding” by La Leche League. It’s such a helpful, answers all questions you never even knew you had, book. I highly recommend looking for a local La Leche League group in your area too. On facebook too! There are many great resources- Breast is Best, Attachment Parenting International, etc. In the early months of nursing, baby will nurse constantly and for long periods of time. It is so common for women to question their supply. Don’t. As long as baby is gaining weight and has enough wet diapers, they are getting plenty. Trust your body and your instincts. Let baby lead. You’ll be fine!

  • Reply Tish January 20, 2014 at 10:52 pm

    A MUST. Lansinoh lanolin nipple cream is a life saver when starting to feed. It heels your skin within minutes ready for the next imminent feed. A tad boring but absolutely essential.

    An iPad is the most useful feeding tool in the night as it stops you from falling asleep during a feed and offers just enough light. And you can Pootle around on the web and find loads more goodies.

    Aden and anais do lovely muslin burb cloths and sleep suits.

    And mum becomes that amazing indispensable and irreplaceable rock again.

  • Reply Tish January 20, 2014 at 11:02 pm

    Oh yes. Re high chair, if you get a stokke Tripp trapp, you will not need it for six months but get the newborn set with it, it allows the baby to be level with you at the dinner table whilst safely attached. I only got it for my second but it was absolutely brilliant. We have two white stokke chairs and they just blend into the kitchen really well. You can get hand made seat covers for them on uk eBay and zara do the prettiest liberty print car seat covers as the car seat tends to hang around the house a lot if baby is asleep in it!

  • Reply Birgit January 21, 2014 at 12:01 am

    Hi Holly,
    wow, you seem to have asked just the right question, so many great answers and additions to your list. Here’s what I would like to add even though I think it’s been said before. First, when I had my babies (the last seven years ago) blankets and duvets weren’t recommended for newborns for safety reasons and I’m sure that hasn’t changed. We had one of these sleeping bags for our babies to sleep in and I thought it was great. It has an outside bag and an inside, the inside is soft and thin and simple, and most adorably it makes your baby look like a little Jedi knight. The outside is thick and warm and it’s a perfect combination.

    As for breastfeeding: If you ask what you need, like really, really need, I’d say time, peace and quiet, trust, confidence – and commitment. It’s not as complicated as we make it to be once we let our head run wild. It’s easy to overthink it. The most important thing is to listen to yourself and your baby, because how you make it work is between you two. There’s no way of telling you what your schedule might be, so don’t stress with looking at your watch or timing you feeding sessions. There will be times when you just want to give up, but if you don’t it’ll be so worth it. It’s beautiful und you will again be amazed of what your body is capable of.

    I so admire you for that glider chair. When I was an au-pair in the US my host mum had one in the nursery and I loved it. I sure had seen a rocking chair before but not one like that. It’s great and I can understand that you wanted to have one in your home.

    Oh, and one more thing: If you have a normal labour and your baby is healthy and you’re too, just go home. There’s no better place to be, your midwife will take care of you and your questions, probably better than the nurses in the hospital. Enjoy the first weeks as a family, there’s nothing more precious. It still gives me goosebumps just to think about it :-)

    Alle the best, Birgit

  • Reply Lotti Rosenthal January 21, 2014 at 12:42 am

    Hi Holly!

    First and most important! Congratulaions for your baby boy. I have two little daughters, they are three years and three months old. I´m writing you because i want to recommend a car seat to you and your husband. the video i´m sending is in german, i hope you understand enough:

    please watch the whole video, the beginning is a little bit daunting. but it is really informative and interesting.

    these seats are a little expensive but you can use them from birth till four years AND the most important, they are safe.

    i hope this tip is a little help for you. there is soooo much baby stuff out there.

    Greetings from Oldenburg to Hannover!

  • Reply Maddy January 21, 2014 at 1:41 am

    Glass bottles (less chemicals to worry about, remember they used to say BPA was harmless)

    I was set on breastfeeding. Had a lactation nurse, read all about it, and did not consider that he might not latch. Well he didn’t, and I ended up pumping for 6 months. Problem was, I did not buy bottles, because I did not think I needed them So, fast forward, I had a hungry baby and I am rushing to the store (after the lactation nurse told me to pump and feed) trying to buy bottles with a screaming new born. Gave him the bottle and he was the sweetest thing on Earth, he was starving :(

    Also, because you eventually have to put babies down, even if you don’t want to, we got a portable cradle swing. You cannot use them until he is 6 weeks old, but the one we got could swing, or it could vibrate when stationary, and had a mobile that he loved to look at. My son loved it.

  • Reply Nikki January 21, 2014 at 4:58 am

    I ended up nursing exclusively because both of our boys never like a bottle! But their very involved father bonded with them absolutely and one of their favorite times of the day was evening bathtime. He would get in the tub with them as babies and hold them on his knees and talk and sing to them and then as they sat up on their own, lots and lots of playing with cars in the tub, and then as they were even bigger, he sat on the floor and talked and played with the boys and washed their hair pretty much until grade school and they were taking showers and washing their own hair. Such lovely times! And I have so many snapshots of catching them with soap bubble beards and drawing with crayon soap on the porcelain tub and tile! Congratulations on everything you and your husband have to look forward to!

  • Reply christine e-e January 21, 2014 at 6:02 am

    I’m so excited for you & your husband – you’ll be fabulous parents! Since everyone else is sharing their thoughts, I thought I’d “chime in” also. Your list is quite extensive… actually, you may not need all that equipment. But, you will need multiple sheet sets & one piece outfits… the simpler the better. Save the cute stuff for trips out! Didn’t see a baby hat on the list…
    I breastfed my daughters for 20 & 22 months… on demand (as mentioned by several others)… since both of you work from home, it should be pretty natural for you to feed entirely by breast (especially for the first 4-6 months). Often babies get cranky in the late afternoon or evening when your milk supply has decreased… I would often sit down, put my feet up & have a beer (more yeast) while I put the girls to my breast. It relaxed me, so my body could gradually increase my milk supply! and often by the late night feeding, my supply would be bursting. Many times babies want the breast for the comfort of being close. My husband get the baby (they slept in a crib after the first 6 weeks – because the bassinet was too short) at the 2am feeding, I’d nurse on one side, then he would change their diaper, and I’d nurse on the other side. We’d all fall asleep in bed until the next feeding. I found that starting the girls in the crib (after the 10pm feeding) gave me some uninterrupted sleep, which made me feel not so groggy for the other feedings. Neither of my girls would take a bottle… so, my husband would do the burping, the cuddling and rocking after I fed them. As they got older, he bathed them & carried them in a backpack (we didn’t have those fancy front packs). Unless you have a lot of upper body strength, you may find your son will get too heavy for the front pack. Your husband will enjoy packing him around.
    Use lanolin on your nipples! if they crack & bleed (sounds terrible, but is perfectly normal), grit your teeth & keep nursing. The stimulation of the babies mouth on your nipples will increase your milk production. Drink LOTS of water. When I sat down to breast feed, I’d drink a huge glass of water… there is probably no scientific evidence to support this, but I noticed my milk would take longer to “let down” if I hadn’t started each feeding by drinking some water.
    I tried pumping, but it was a hassle for me. Breast feeding allows you to become more mobile… really! no bottles, pumps or equipment needed. Just grab the baby, some diapers, some burp pads & an extra outfit & go.
    FYI… your breast milk will not come in for a few days. Don’t worry… putting them to the breast for the colostrum is your bodies way of protecting your newborn from future diseases. When it finally comes in you will know… your breasts will be rock hard & it may be hard for your baby to get his lips around the engorged nipple. Help him by squeezing your nipple area smaller. Oh, I could give you loads more tips, just email me.
    Hugs… get some sleep in the next week.

  • Reply Lianne January 21, 2014 at 6:24 am


    Trust yourself, Holly. The same intuition that got you where you are today is your strongest ally – don’t let the overcomplication interfere with your natural knowledge. If you ended up alone on a desert island with the baby – you’d figure it all out just fine. Not to say the help isn’t great, but trust yourself, too.

    • Reply decor8 January 21, 2014 at 9:22 am

      @Lianne – I agree 100%!!!!

  • Reply aritza January 21, 2014 at 11:05 am

    Hello Holly!!
    I am sure you will love this spanish made: Fun*das BCN. They sell footmuffs for strollers and Maxicosi etc.. with very nice patterns. Have a look!!!

  • Reply WInter January 22, 2014 at 7:49 pm

    You are in good shape!

  • Reply Susie January 22, 2014 at 9:20 pm

    Hi there- new reader here.
    I’ve just had my second- I write a post on new mum essentials just before Christmas- feel free to take a look. And with regards to a highchair IKEA wins hands down for me- the cheapest one they do. Has a detachable tray and is super easy to clean. Can’t recommend it enough really! Xxx

  • Reply Nonô January 23, 2014 at 1:39 pm

    Hello Holly , i’m also having a baby soon. I’ve found this fabolous website where you can find the diaper bag

    Chech out the collection, it is pretty amasing


  • Reply Claire January 24, 2014 at 7:29 pm

    I have four sons and your list seems pretty complete. For breastfeeding: if you think that pumping and bottle feeding will be a regular part of your routine, do yourself a favor and get a mechanical pump. If you’ll just be pumping occasionally, a manual pump will do the job fine and you only need a few bottles. My husband hardly ever fed our boys (two of them wouldn’t ever take a bottle, no matter what we tried) but did do almost all diaper changes and other essential parts of the day, like baths. If he’s not feeding it doesn’t mean that he won’t be bonding with the baby just as much. Especially if he’s wearing the baby and comforting him, getting him to sleep, etc.
    Some lanolin should help with discomfort in the first couple of weeks of nursing. And nursing pads! Either disposable or washable ones. Every woman is different but most will leak, especially in the beginning. Don’t want your shirt soaked every time you think of the baby!
    Good luck!

  • Reply Trina January 24, 2014 at 9:35 pm

    so exciting, holly. all of this makes me want to have a baby – and i ‘ve had four -yikes! i’ve nursed 4 times and my suggestions are

    a good pump

    a good cover up – i liked hooter hiders because it was roomy for baby

    and to get really personal – – but these are lifesavers!

    nipple shield{keyword}

    natural nipple butter

    hope this helps! nursing can be such hard work and also the easiest way to feed. hang in there and enjoy your sweet baby!

    xo . t

  • Reply Anne January 25, 2014 at 11:08 pm

    Dear Holly,

    you will find that you do not need very much. For breastfeeding you need even less than for giving artificial food.
    With my first child, I found La Leche League meetings very helpful and supportive. There are English speaking leaders who can be contacted by E-mail or phone.
    In my experience, somebody preparing meals and doing the housework is a great gift for mother, newborn and father. Even though your husband might not be involved in breastfeeding itself, his support is important. He can bond with baby in so many other ways than giving food. So you do not need a pump in the first place.
    Stokke chairs are great but you will have about six months after birth before needing it.

  • Reply Nicki of Cute & Co. January 26, 2014 at 3:55 am

    It looks like you’ve thought of almost everything! I just had my 2nd, she’s 4 months now. I would recommend a few different items you can put your baby in throughout the day to get things done here and there — like fold a load of laundry, make yourself a cup of coffee, run to the bathroom, etc. Items like a bouncy seat, Bumbo, play mat with hanging toys, Exersaucer, etc. They don’t last long in these things, but 10 minutes here and there can give you a breather! : )

  • Reply Krissy Sterling January 26, 2014 at 5:29 pm

    Hi Holly,
    I have a sweet little 6 month old boy. I suggest the Medela breast pump and bottles set. The Diaper Genie works well for keeping the room fresh. Skip Hop has nice diaper bags and so does Dwell Studio. Good luck!
    Also- Sandra Boynton has great board books. The book Leave Your Sleep is awesome! I recommend buying a book about infant care such as The Baby Whisperer.

  • Reply Jessica January 28, 2014 at 3:22 am

    My best advice is to find a health professional – pediatrician, dentist, midwife, lactation consultant, or orofacial myofunctional therapist (this last one can definitely help you – many of the others are unfamiliar with this) who is experienced at identifying a baby with a heavy tongue tie (heavy frenulum). If your baby has this and can have it released as an infant, it will save you so much headache & help with nursing as well as helping his jaw & teeth to grow and be spaced properly. Hardly anyone knows about this! My first 3 kids all had it, and the one we’re expecting now will be checked his first week. I know it’s not equipment, but it’s one thing I wish I knew with my first.

  • Reply Erin January 28, 2014 at 4:14 am

    for our most recent baby we had a vintage(ish) peg perego with bassinet- we had it in and out of the house constantly and that is where the baby always slept. If he fell asleep in the living room we’d just push him into our room when we were ready for bed. It was so handy.
    Otherwise all you need is boobs. Don’t be worried about it possibly not working at first- just bring the baby to the boob not the boob to the baby, tilt his head back and shove him on- he’ll get it. Your husband can wear him when he’s not eating. You are soft, baby knows your voice and you smell like milk- you are comfort incorporated! Best best best of luck- this is the most special thing you will ever do and when you look back on all your preparation you’ll see that all you, your husband and the baby Really needed was each other.

  • Reply leigh January 29, 2014 at 10:12 pm

    aloha holly!

    tending to my now 8mo kept me away during your entire pregnancy so sending happy, if tardy, congratulations to you & your hubby on soon-to-arrive baby decor8.

    as another reader mentioned upthread, bookmark which has all the answers you seek regarding breastfeeding.

    the la leche league forums are also quite helpful:

    askmoxie & alphamom were life savers after my first encounter with cluster feedings, growth spurts & sleep regressions.

    a few favorite mama & baby goods . . .

    motherlove nipple cream

    bamboobies nursing pads

    comotomo bottles – cute, easy to clean & no nipple confusion

    twelvelittle diaper bags – gorgeous & oodles of pockets

    oh, & virgin coconut oil is a simple alternative to diaper creams (very healing, naturally anti-bacterial & the scent is lovely).

    p.s. it will be a few months before your little one starts to teeth, but you may want to keep a box of boiron camilia on hand.

  • Reply Sonja April 5, 2015 at 10:15 pm

    oh goodness, how I needed this post! great and thoughtful list, I wish I had this when I had my first!

  • Reply Sandra December 25, 2015 at 4:24 pm

    Obsessed with this! So cool!

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