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Resolve To Be Happy

Hello friends and Happy New Year! I hope that you had a beautiful holiday season and that you’ve kicked off 2014 feeling completely open and ready to take in whatever the next twelve months has to offer. I’ve been thinking a lot about resolutions (Will I bother? What will they be? Will I ditch “the list” altogether?) and for the first time in years, I’ve decided to abandon the list. While I respect those who take time to carve out their master plan, I thought I’d remove the pressure and just go with the flow this year. Ambition is nice and drives me on one side, but it’s becoming a bit uninspiring and mundane on the other. The real drive, for me, is to simply be more mindful, present, and passionate and to both invigorate and be invigorated. There’s so much ambition and hustle out there (often at a huge cost), I see this so much now online, so I want to step out of the ring and drive a return to passion, happiness and sharing: What drove me eight years ago when I launched decor8. The days when possessing merely a love of sharing and a passion for creative living and decorating were at the core.

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THE EARLY YEARS OF BLOGGING

Do you remember the early days of blogging? I remember them so clearly; long before companies noticed us and monetization and social media sites became the norm. In those days, we bloggers only hoped to get our voices, our opinions, out there and to show that we had worthy ideas in addition to what mainstream media was showing us. I started blogging because I was bored with popular opinion in print publications and longed to share an alternative approach to decorating and style. I trusted my gut and followed my creative passions – and today I still do though I feel like I hold back a lot more than I once did and I’m working to change this.

We were all driven by very pure things both raw and genuine, not by money, the number of “likes”, growing a massive audience (we didn’t know our potential back then), or some rather disappointing popularity contest. I personally was driven by a need to connect and share and spread joy for something that I truly loved with all of my heart. What drove you? What drives you today?

GETTING BACK TO MY ROOTS

For 2014, I’m returning to my roots, which you’ll start to slowly see on decor8 and in other parts of my business. I’m not sure how I’ll do it, but ideas have been swarming for months now and it feels good that I came to this decision with the help of my husband. He reminded me to think about what drives me, what REALLY drives me. It isn’t my “brand” or sponsors or ads or popularity or numbers or increasing readership… None of that has ever felt inspiring or motivating to me but only caused me to feel alienated from my core values and from my readers. What drives me is my passion for beauty, a love of creative pursuits, sharing and spreading positivity, being encouraging, nurturing community and connecting others. Maybe this is something you can think about for your blog, too. That is, if you feel overwhelmed by the business side more than the creative passion that originally drove you to start blogging in the first place… What really drives you?

INSTINCT TAKE THE WHEEL

This year, I’m letting instinct take the wheel and drive my blog more than ever before. And you know what, I mostly just want to have FUN doing it. Raise your hand if you feel like blogging, as a whole, is becoming a bit stagnant, boring, underwhelming? Yes, my hand is high in the air too! But the good thing is that we all have the power to change this. We are each our own blog boss; we are the managing editors of our blogs. We drive how we are perceived, negatively or positively. WE are our content, WE are the voice, WE can easily switch things up and create more interesting content that is based on what we are truly excited about vs. what we think will drive our numbers or build a brand or what equals to simply showing off. In the end, your love for your topic will shine through and you’ll end up building readership and a brand anyway, so there’s no business risk.

WHY SO SERIOUS?

Let’s talk about something I’ve not heard discussed at blog conferences or even in books on blogging or blog workshops. HAVING FUN! Yeah, you know, how to really have fun as a blogger. Why is SEO and traffic more important than FUN? I want to blog and have FUN with it. I want that FUN to be contagious and for other bloggers to start having FUN again too. That was how blogging was when we got started, right? FUN. Then, it all got so serious online all of sudden – money driven, over-produced (pressure is on for every post to be magazine perfect), competitive, flat. Yawn. It’s time to have fun again and return to the days when blogging was exciting and when we talked about whatever we wanted on our blogs because that kept us real, approachable and more interesting to read. When we read our blog comments, and replied to them. Real people, real conversations. Going beyond what magazine content provides to lift the veil and get to the heart of whatever topic in which we were writing about.

RESOLVE TO BE HAPPY

Back in the Fall, I was asked by Mollie Makes (UK craft mag) to write an article about my new year’s resolutions. I knew back then that I wasn’t going to make them for 2014, so I replied explaining that I would write the article but instead, I would encourage an alternative approach – to simply open up your heart, drop the self-criticism and task-mastering, focus on family and friendships, bask in the art of taking some time off, seeing behind the veil of perfection that most of us only show on our blogs, and simply to Resolve To Be Happy for 2014. In other words, no race to tick off boxes on our resolutions lists. My article was titled, “Resolve To Be Happy”, and it appeared in the 34th issue of Mollie Makes (you can buy it and download here). I’ve received an overwhelmingly positive response to my words from their readers, which further encouraged me to stick to my resolve; simply to NOT resolve – no resolutions for 2014. Reader response also became a huge source of validation – that how I felt, others felt too. That lots of us just want to be happy, have fun with our blogs and business, and cut the crap.

HAS PREGNANCY CHANGED ME?

I often wonder if getting pregnant is at the core of my list dropping. I know pregnancy has definitely affected my need to listen more to my body and less to what the rest of the world says. You learn to really tap into your instincts when pregnant, don’t you? Especially if you’re like me and you intentionally stay away from all of the baby books and websites (and pregnancy forums! omg, lots of nutty advice!) out there. I’ve only relied on a single app, flipped through What To Expect (although I found most of the advice instinctual which made me realize even more the need to tap in to myself), and I read that book on French parenting (thanks for the gift, Leigh!) which proved more humorous than insightful and ended up being a great read while I was so ill during the first 5 months… But yeah, I’ve had to tap into my instincts like never before. My doctor speaks only German to me so I’m constantly googling or referring to my husband to explain medical German terms to their English equivalent. So even from a medical standpoint, I’ve had to ultimately trust my gut because so much of what my doctor says gets lost in translation. I’m learning to trust my gut like crazy right now and I imagine, after our son arrives, this will only increase.

WHEN THE TEACHER GETS SCHOOLED

Then there is this thing that happens when you are are a teacher. You think you know it all but then, through the eyes of your bright and talented students, you see how much you have to really LEARN. Teaching online and in my in-person workshops for the past five years has brought about a massive shift inside that sort of “hit” me this year as I was teaching Blogging Your Way online just a month ago… Maybe it was because it was the first time I taught while simultaneously being pregnant. My students ask me a lot of questions, some I don’t know the answer to so I do loads of research to assist them along their path. Through teaching, I’ve learned that ultimately, the answers are inside of us – we just need guides at times – but we have to be more open to what the questions are and to have the courage to ask them – even the tough ones. I like to motivate my students to ask the right questions, to dig inside and to really examine their intentions. Oftentimes, we aren’t open and aren’t asking because we’re too driven to succeed, too scared to know the answer, too focused on being better versions of ourselves, scared of failing, etc… Tuning out and tuning into our gut instinct is all we’ve got to rely on sometimes but ultimately, it’s a pretty damn good guiding light. So again, for the New Year, I’m going to tune in more to what Holly wants. Maybe you can tune in more to what YOU want, too?

INSPIRING IS NICE; BUT INVIGORATING IS A CALL TO ACTION

My ultimate desire sounds simple but it really isn’t. It’s to be HAPPY and to INVIGORATE others. We all know what happy means, but what about invigorate? It means to give vitality and vigor to; animate; brace; refresh: fill with life and energy; energize. It goes beyond simply to inspire. Pinterest is inspiring. But does it call you to action? Are you making the cakes or the crafts that you pin? I had a long discussion on inspiration vs. invigoration before the holidays with my husband and he is the reason the topic of INVIGORATION came up in the first place. He encouraged me to make the New Year a year that I focus on this word: invigorate. To not just show pretty pictures and inspire, but to go beyond that and really use my talents to fill others with life and energy. With our first child to arrive any week now (he’s due 25 January!), this will be a very literal translation of “filling others with life”, a baby! But what about my students, all of you, my family, my friends and my husband and our new baby? What about me?

While I’m not going to make a resolve to take any particular step towards my master objective: to invigorate, I will be listening daily to my heart and soul to see where this leads me, and my blog and business, my friendships and family, for 2014. I may make some mistakes. I may not. But I’m going to trust my instinct and open my heart to what I think matters and where I want to put my energy into for this year. I’m going to look at my blog very critically and make some changes. I’m going to get back to my roots, take time to play with my baby and bond with him, decorate my new apartment, share projects here with all of you, and I’m going to take it one day, on step, at a time. None of these are resolutions. I’m not pressuring myself to fulfill any particular task. I just want 2014 to be a year when I grow up and let my instinct drive me, when happiness and having fun become part of my daily life again, and when I get back to what drives me and in turn, invigorates all of you. Let’s see where I end up this time next year.

WHAT ABOUT YOU?

And what about you? Do you have resolutions? Have you chosen one word that will define your new year? Have you given much thought to tapping in to your raw desire and passion vs. letting others lead you? Have you ditched new years resolutions list for this year too? Do you have a different approach to this year that you’re taking? No way is the “right” way, so feel free to share.

Happy 2014 everyone! xo, Holly

(image: illustration by the lovely Emma Block for my article, Resolve To Happy, which appeared in issue 34 of Mollie Makes)

Posted in inspiration on January 03, 2014
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Inspiration Monday

Good morning readers, I hope that you are all doing great and are ready to begin a new week with me here on decor8! I came across this thought-provoking quote earlier so I’m allowing it to guide me throughout the week, “Stop being who you were and become who you are.” – Paulo Coelho. I think this is an especially lovely thought if you are climbing out of a rut or a period of darkness or stress in your life. It’s a nice reminder that things do not always need to be hard or that your life cannot be turned around for the better. Today I want to share a few inspiring things I came across recently, one being the Anthropologie blog and some of the inspiring stories and imagery there. Since flowers always make me happy, I’ll begin with these images from prop stylist and wedding designer Rebecca Gallop of the blog A Daily Something in collaboration with Sweet Root Village.

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I’m since always applying fashion ideas to interiors, I also find loads of inspiration by simply the tulle of this skirt and in the second photo, seeing it paired with those stunning wine booties. I love the combo of salty and sweet, soft and rocker chic, it’s how I imagine a perfect room to be and the look I’m trying to capture as I decorate my new apartment. I also see this combo as a winning color palette for a living room… The wine leather purse would be the perfect sofa.

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And of course, I’m all about gift wrap! I love these ideas from Anthropologie shown below.

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Do you remember when I taught a gift wrapping class two years ago for Anthropologie when they had their pop-up shop in Berlin around the holidays? It was so much fun (I posted about it here), I will definitely host another in 2014 but from my own studio here in Hannover or perhaps locally at a small shop. I love teaching and just being creative and working with others. Such a thrill! Here are a few examples of the boxes I taught students how to wrap and decorate using torn papers, napkins, washi tape and torn pieces of fabric.

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Now it’s time for me to get a little lost on the Anthro site and do some shopping for my friends in the UK, US and Germany. :)

(images linked to their sources above. Bottom two images: holly becker)

Posted in inspiration on December 09, 2013

Rugs I Met And Liked

Hey gang! How are ya? I’m doing well – just insanely busy with our renovations on the new apartment and now, of all things, I’m shopping for rugs when I should be packing my entire house. So let’s talk about rugs. I’m all into the fuzzy plush throws at the moment because it’s freaking freezing over here. With hardwood beneath my toes, I decided to buy three rugs to cozy things up so that I could enjoy being at home this winter just a wee bit more. The first of three is a Flokati rug in cream for our baby’s nursery. Allow me to introduce you…

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I’ve been wanting one of these since I started blogging in 2006 (yes, really!) because I saw it way back then in Domino magazine and thought it was the best looking rug in the world. I really have no clue what took me so long… Here is the rug above (shown in someone else’s home that I swiped from the seller’s store). It will look super cozy against the new hardwood flooring that will be installed first week of December. I bought it from a seller on eBay Germany called easy carpet, 140 x 200, for $235 with shipping and tax included. Cha-ching. Affordable and the right size. The seller may or may not be a total jerk and the rug may or may not show up looking great or awful, so this is by no means a review of the product or seller. But with a 100% rating and a swanky rug photo (above), I’m thinking it will be just what I was looking for. Plus, if I were a baby, I’d vomit on this in a hot second so it will be perfect for my wee one to laze around on while mama blogs. The beauty of this beast is that it’s neutral so If I don’t end up liking it in the baby’s room, because I’m like that a lot lately (ask my husband), it may end up in my bedroom or someplace else. But for now, it’s destination baby room.

Okay, moving on to my second rug. This one may make you a little jealous. My apologizes in advance.

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In 2010 I was introduced to vintage Beni Ouarain carpets while in Marrakesh on a retreat where I was teaching students about how to find their style and inspiration which ended up being a big 10 day slumber party with lots of booze and food with a bunch of amazing women. We ate, shopped and gossiped our way to insta-friendship and we’re all still friends today… We stayed at the fab Peacock Pavilions owned by the author of Marrakesh by Design and blog goddess, Maryam Montague (who was one of my first blog readers from wayyyy back in 2006!). It was Maryam who turned me onto these Beni O’s. Before that, I’d seen them around but never knew what they were called.

A few years prior, in 2007, I bought a gorgeous Moroccan wedding blanket off of Maryam and cherished it so much that when the trip of a lifetime came for me to lead a class in Marrakesh for Ace Camps, I raced for the nearest airport because I wanted more of where that blanket came from. And wow, when I arrived, I was in Moroccan bliss. Souk after souk, rug after rug, pouf after pouf and spice after spice, I was seduced by Marrakesh and it’s loot and three years later, I still wished I had listened to my gut when I was drooling over Beni Ouarain rugs with Maryam one afternoon. I nearly settled on one in particular but I walked. And I’ve been wanting it ever since.

I remembered what it looked like thanks to my photographic memory and my amazing skill of never forgetting when I do stupid things… But I’d not found anything even remotely like it since, until a few days ago when I spotted it on Etsy (of all places). I instantly realized that this was my big chance to reclaim my lost purchase in time. I could, after three long years, own the rug that got away. So I contacted the seller, Pink Rug Co., frantically  measured my space, and clicked PURCHASE.

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Ah yeah. I am the proud owner of this rug shown above. This sexy lady will lay perfectly beneath my dining table but she may end up getting laid elsewhere as the mood hits. I always buy rugs and most everything else that can be used in any room to suit my decorating ADD.

Another carpet I bought recently, for the baby’s room (I know, baby, baby, baby! martha! martha! martha!), is this Olli Ella round felted gum ball rug. With one catch… I had it custom made because neither one shown below fit my scheme 100% and they were nice enough to create one for me (aka put up with my crap)- which, honestly, was the nicest thing in the world because I didn’t expect it at all. Most companies tell me to bite it. But listen up (this next bit requires a cup of coffee to understand), the color palette is a combo of both rugs so imagine balls (!) in gray, mint, yellow, pale beige and I think a darker yellow (I can’t recall what I ordered anymore). Can you envision this? It’s a bit of both of these rugs below minus the pink? I don’t know. It’s just going to be pretty and that’s all I care about.

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Yeah, so there are some of my new rugs. When I get ‘em in place in the brand new space, I’ll show you the pics and give ya some tips. Word. Stay tuned.

Any rug crushes you’ve had lately? Any rug purchases made that you’d like to share? With cooler temps, rugs are all the rage in my world at the moment. I have all of my sheepskins out and on chairs and floors and I’m doing the whole rustic thing at the moment. You too?

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Posted in inspiration on November 26, 2013

Currently Crushing On…

Good morning everyone and welcome to another week of inspiration and joy! I thought I’d round up a few interiors and notes from my style files lately so you can see what I’m inspired by at the moment. Some things are rather random and have more to do with non-decor stuff, which may seem funny but so many of these ideas generally cross over to interiors eventually for me. Perhaps a few of my notes will inspire your next decorating project! While looking through my notes below, you simply must listen to this mega sweet song, “Subtle (feat. Mikky Ekko)” from Active Child.

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A yellow framed window – love! By stylist Tina Hellberg who is represented by Söderberg Agentur.

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Okay, another one from Mokkasin but I can’t help myself, this over-scale floral wallpaper by Mr Perswall that she installed on a single wall in her home BLEW MY MIND.

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Push Pop confetti from Umba. Just because. And for New Year’s from my new balcony! Also, the colors make me happy. Imagine filling a present with confetti mixed in with tissue paper. What a treat for the recipient!

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Always will be inspired by big, gorgeous shelves filled with kitchen things. This is from a favorite blogger of mine, Mokkasin.

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I also LOVE the color palette in this moody floral shot taken by Mokkasin. Such a great palette for a room, don’t you think?

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Pale green walls above staircase, floral wallpaper below. Yum. (Lovely Life)

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Black countertops, mint tiles. (Lovely Life)

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Multiple strips of wallpaper – fab! (Lovely Life)

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This home (4 images above) in Sweden from Lovely Life. Oh my, a bevy of decor ideas. Love the green doors and this gorgeous geometric tilework.

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I really like the home of my friend, Berit, from Snug Studio, who is a new mom and has the sweetest apartment nearby to me. I like this pendant that she created and hung above her dining room table.

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I love this gray/brown script in this Home Beautiful Australia article snapped by the Sweet Style blog. Not only does it look so warm and inviting this time of year for a magazine spread, but it’s also a paint color I imagine to be quite gorgeous on my living room wall!

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Wooden walls, a running shelf around a room (love) and copper pendants as seen in Elle Dekoration DK, shot by Line Klein. Stylist : Mille Collin Flaherty. Home of Tanja Vibe.

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Working by a window (what my goal is for my next apartment – I’ll show you once I move in). Seen in Elle Dekoration DK, shot by Line Klein. Stylist : Mille Collin Flaherty. Home of Tanja Vibe.

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I know every blogger has one, but I still want a Moroccan Beni Ouarain rug like this. I wish I had taken a vintage one home with me when I was in Marrakesh visiting Maryam back a few years ago – I came THISCLOSE too. Ugh. Photo: House & Hold.

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Fresh flowers. I can’t get enough. Beautiful mix shown above by Willow & Jade.

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Half painted walls by VTWonen.

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And more partially painted walls from Farrow & Ball. Only this time, from the top down. Love the green door, too.

What’s inspiring you at the moment?

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Posted in inspiration on November 11, 2013

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