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Unconditional Love + Have a Happy Weekend!

I’m back home and wanted to pop in to wish you a very happy and long Labor Day weekend — at least to those living in the US! I’ll be taking off Monday to catch up but I’ll be back on Tuesday for a new week of posts and inspiration for you to enjoy. But first, I want to tell you a little tale about true love.

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I’ve been away from my husband for thirteen days and so naturally, a girl doesn’t know what exactly to expect upon arriving home. Will there be groceries? Are things in order? Do I have to immediately pick up the pace and return to my regularly scheduled program of cooking and cleaning and being a, well, wife? It may sound rather old-fashioned/corny of me to even think this way, but I was raised in a very traditional family and I don’t mind being a wife at all. I feel sad when I can’t be around to take care of him as funny as that may sound — it’s true. I enjoy caring for him, it gives me a sense of accomplishment and well-being. I feel better when I know I’m doing my part. I’ve never been away for so long, I think 4 days has been the absolute max, so this trip was a pretty big deal for both of us and so I guess I was curious as to how I’d be received upon my arrival.

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My husband gave me a very sweet homecoming. First, he arrived at the airport in a vest and tie. Daper. That’s pretty sweet, right? He also had a little gift bag with goodies and a cute card inside with owls on it – he knows how much I love owls. I thought that was totally thoughtful. Once home, I walked in to be greeted by a flower arrangement in my office, another near my bed, another in the living room and still another on the dining table. I’ve photographed them and put them in this post. Aren’t they varied and pretty? He went out and had 4 made for me, not 1, not 2… and placed them into various vases from our cabinet. He put such thought into selecting the vases, I noticed that right away, and when I asked him if he had thought about it he said, “Oh of course, I took time to think of which one complemented the flowers most.”

The house = spotless. In fact, he even reorganized the kitchen closet and laundry closet, the storage room, the drawers in my office and the drawers in my nightstand. But that’s not all. After I unpacked, he did all of my laundry and made a fresh, healthy salad for dinner. He turned down the bed. I went to bed early but when I awoke, I noticed all of the laundry was neatly folded and placed into stacks at the edge.

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When I awoke this morning, a cup of coffee greeted me on my bedside table and the morning mail delivered with a kiss. He prepared breakfast and another delicious salad for lunch, this time with tuna. He is happy that I lost 10 pounds while on my book tour, I worked out at my hotels and ate very light, and so he now calls me “skinny maus” which is really, really cute and supportive. A few moments ago, he brought me a cup of green tea as I typed here on my computer. Now that’s a man who is not only happy to have his wife home, but who is showing his appreciation for all of my hard work as he knows it was no small adventure to go away. It’s nice to have that level of love and support after being away from home for so long.

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I’ve been thinking a lot lately about love, especially unconditional love which I like to call true love. Unconditional love is to love someone regardless of their actions or beliefs. Don’t you wish more would be willing to love this way? We’d have a better world, for certain. I’ve been loved in many ways from many different people, but my husband loves me unconditionally and I am so grateful and honored to have him in my life. I’ve had many say they love me but it’s usually condition-based — the minute I screw up, hurt them, make a mistake, have a different opinion, etc. I’m tossed aside only to be “loved” later once the person decides either to forgive me, realizes leaving was a sore mistake or when they know it’s too late so the unconditional love they attempt to show isn’t believable because I know that they wouldn’t have shown it if they had to truly act on their words.

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I’ve learned something about love over the years — that even the slightest misstep shouldn’t lose you the favor of those who truly love you, only to be left in tears until the person decides to forgive. You are then reeled back in again to walk on eggshells until the next misstep on your part. It’s a very sad cycle. My girlfriend is going through a divorce now at thirty years old and I’m truly heartbroken for her. My other friend is in a terrible marriage but since he is a good father, she stays. It’s heart breaking to be on the outside looking in at all of this, I hate to see such suffering in what should be a place of refuge: the home. My home is a place of refuge and I’m so grateful for this. I don’t have to walk on eggshells here, I don’t have to explain my shortcomings ad nauseum or the reasoning behind my missteps, and I don’t have to feel guilty for pursuing my passions even when it sometimes means leaving home for awhile to pursue my goals.

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You can’t be the only one in a relationship who loves unselfishly, both must partake in this conscious choice to love fully. Even my own parents love me as long as I’m performing well, otherwise they are dissatisfied and withdraw. I guess that’s why, now more than ever before, I’ve been thinking about unconditional love because so many around me don’t seem to have it. It is very hard to find, but when you do find it – hold on to it, cherish it and don’t let it go because it’s rare. It’s also quite beautiful, it’s pure, it’s fair and it’s the best and only love that you ever need in your life. It holds you together, heals you, restores you and gives you so much more than you thought you needed.

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I hope that you have one person in your life who loves you for you. We all need it, that kind of support is pretty special. And so, with that, I welcome a long weekend of time spent with my husband in our city celebrating the completion of a very successful book tour and the joy that comes with being reunited once again. I wish you a happy weekend to with the person who gives you unconditional love from the heart.

Enjoy your weekend, I’ll see you on Tuesday dear friends!

xo, Holly

(images: holly becker for decor8)

 

Posted in uncategorized on September 02, 2011

New! Amy Butler Knits

Fall is coming whether we’re ready or not! I’m quite excited about it this year since I can’t wait to wear skirts and colored tights again. I also love all of the Autumn festivities in Germany and Europe in general. Do you love to knit? That’s such a great Fall hobby though it’s a good idea to get started on projects now so you can cuddle up with them in the cooler months ahead.

Amy Butler Knits

Everyone knows I’m a fan of Amy Butler! I’m willing to bet you are too. Did you know that she now has a brand new collection for those who love to knit? From fashion accessories to the home, you can find lots of patterns and yarns in Amy’s favorite colors to create your very own piece. This new collection with Rowan Yarns is Amy’s first collaboration with a favorite English designer of hers, Erika Knight!

Amy Butler Knits

“The collection includes knitted and crochet designs from throws, cushions and chair covers to super stylish accessories as a slouch beret, multi colored scarf, gloves and cabled socks. The garments are a mix of key pieces including simple cables, stripes and a show stopping crochet skirt.”

Amy Butler Knits

Amy Butler Knits

Amy Butler Knits

Amy Butler Knits

Amy Butler Knits

Amy Butler Knits

Amy Butler Knits

Amy Butler Knits

Amy Butler Knits

Her yarn is 100% merino wool with a chainette structure and the color palette is selected from her Soul Blossoms fabric collection so that the two can coordinate beautifully together so that you can mix fabric and yarn effortlessly in your projects.

Enjoy!

(images: david butler of amy butler design)

Posted in uncategorized on September 02, 2011

New York City Here I Come!

Whew! My book tour in the U.S. is coming to a close now and the last stop is New York City and I’m super excited about it! Tonight was the Philly event and it was really nice – I was so glad that I made it up after my flight canceled, train canceled and my glass shower door at my hotel fell off its hinges and trapped me in the shower – LOL – my goodness, right!? Total drama. But I made it to my event! Yay! I want to thank Kate from the Anthropologie Visual Display team at the home office for being my special guest – she did such a nice job presenting. I’ve known her for 5 years so it was great to see her again as well. She is the lady behind one of my favorite blogs called This Love Forever so please visit her blog!

Anthropologie Philadelphia

Anthropologie Philadelphia me posing near a big poster they had made in-store for my event. :)

Book Signing Event Only

Thank you all for coming tonight and on Tuesday night I’ll be in New York City for an event at Anthropologie in Soho. It’s going to be really nice to connect with the New York crowd!!!!

Date: Tuesday, August 30th

Time: 7:30 pm

Address: Anthropologie, 375 W Broadway (Soho)

SEE YOU TUESDAY NIGHT NEW YORK CITY!!!! Weeee!!!!!

 

Posted in uncategorized on August 30, 2011

Thank you, LA!

Last night was my book signing and mood board demo at Anthropologie at The Grove and it went so, so well. I had a really good time and loved meeting everyone so thank you for coming out despite how amazing the weather was and that it was scheduled at a rough time given LA rush hour. For those of you who couldn’t make it, the event was just great and I met lots and lots of wonderful people. I want to especially thank Betsy Burnham for speaking (she is so amazing) and sharing her mood boards and process as well as Leslie Shewring for talking about how she maintains her creative side despite being a busy mother. It was really fun to speak alongside of these very talented and creative ladies.

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NOTE: My flight to Philadelphia was canceled due to the hurricane so I’m not 100% sure that I’ll make it to Philadelphia in time for the Monday night signing, but we’ll see if the weather cooperates and I’ll definitely keep everyone posted here on decor8 so you know for sure whether or not my Philly stop is still on schedule for Monday evening. Until then, I’m going to go out and enjoy warm + sunny LA today and I wish all of my dear friends on the east coast a nice weekend, I know it’s pretty stressful over there currently with the hurricane and I hope you stay safe and sound.

(image: Lindsey Sherrod)

Posted in uncategorized on August 27, 2011

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