Hello my dear friends! I have been wanting to tell you the good news about our baby – we will have a baby boy! We just found out last Wednesday and had promised to tell our family first before taking the news online so that we didn’t hurt the feelings of our in-laws (as you can understand). But wow, how much I’ve wanted to tell you since last Wednesday! It’s been hard to control myself.
My mother guessed it was a boy and so did my mother-in-law, in fact when I was 6 weeks pregnant my MIL gave me a pair of little baby boy shoes and I asked her, “Why!?” and she said she thinks it will be a boy! Yeah, it was a little interesting to say the least… Such an early prediction, but she meant no harm and was just having fun with us – BUT both mothers were right! And a little secret is that I also knew early on. I told my husband the second we found out that we were having a boy and I kept referring to our baby as he, our boy, son, etc. It is just a feeling I had, though really only a good guess. I wanted a boy OR a girl equally, I had NO preference whatsoever – just a healthy child. That’s still all I think about – healthy and happy.
We also have a name but are waiting until the day he arrives so he is the one to hear it first from our mouths. We want to keep some things in our life secret, it feels nice to have your own couples secret, don’t you think? Do you want to hear how we chose the name? It’s fascinating! For a few weeks, I started to research names and so did my husband. I was on a bevy of websites and he was using websites and a baby names app. After much research from us both, and ZERO discussion about it, we both were sitting at the breakfast table recently and he said he thinks he has a nice name in mind if it really is a boy. I asked him what it was and when he said the very name I had chosen (without his knowledge), I nearly fell out of my chair. This is a name neither of us have ever heard of, or read or saw in a film or anything and absolutely nothing associated with our families. I ran to my bedroom to grab my iPhone to show him the name I had put in my Notes and he smiled. It was the same name.
How’s that for a good story?
I have one final bit of news to share. I’ve started writing a journal to my baby boy. I’m telling him about how I feel now, my pregnancy, things his daddy and I talk about, what I’m doing, etc. I hope to share it with him someday when he is old enough to understand it and cherish my words. I’m writing in a beautiful journal that I was given by the shop owner of Astier de Villatte in Paris back in February 2012 when I was styling their shop for my book. I had been saving the journal ever since for a special moment, and you really cannot get more special than this!
As I’ve said all along, the baby’s gender WAS NEVER IMPORTANT to me. I would have been thrilled to have a girl, too! Gender is a non-issue, good health is the most important. So I’ve been taking extra good care of myself and feeling stronger and healthier each day. But when the doctor asked me last week if we wanted to know, well… We said YES! Especially since we are having our baby in the dead of winter and need to make preparations in advance so we can really nest this winter and not have to run around after the baby arrives to shop for necessities, this takes an incredible lift off of us.
So that is my news. I’ll be back tomorrow with a gorgeous home tour and some more goodies. And by the way, if you are looking for darling baby clothes, I just had a great time shopping the new MINI collection over at Zara. Super sweet stuff.
(photos: zara mini)
Hello everyone! How are you? I’m doing great! Today I’m off to the farmers’ market to buy some lovely “props” for my home – tomorrow and Friday we are doing shoots here for my next book which releases on my birthday next year, March 21, so I have to get the photos in asap so they make the book. I’ve been too ill up until now to style and shoot anything, so I’m glad my head is above water enough so I can work. This is such an important book to me – it’s going to be really unique and full of color, I just know that you will love it.
Leslie Shewring and I have been working non-stop since May – so we’re about ready to wrap it up now and move on to other projects – so we’re in the twilight stages. We just can’t wait to see it in the upcoming months printed and ready to go out into the world. Next year will be an exciting time for me with a new baby arriving in January, a book in March and then a book launch party in London in May with some book tours and stuff to follow. I really want to bring the baby to the launch party in London – though it will be so tiny, I think it would be wonderful to share something so special with someone so special – and to have the baby meet everyone and be in one of my favorite cities – bliss! I have so many dear friends in London, I’d love to share the joy and also to meet my uncle who lives nearby. So we’ll see. It’s only a 50 minute flight and depending on the baby’s sleep schedule, we’ll know by May whether or not a plane ride is feasible and good for the health of the little one. If not, no problem – I’ll leave little cutie with daddy and escape for a day or two on my own. We’ll just have to see how I feel and where I’m at in May. Still a long way off…
Oh and by the way… My ultrasound yesterday went wonderfully and we found out that though I’m still not gaining any weight, the baby is growing and is the right size, kicking around and doing so beautifully. My doctor said the growth is perfect according to the charts. Yay! I’m not nearly as nauseous (though I still have nausea) either, which is such a relief. I laugh because I thought by now I’d be a beached whale but I lost 20 lbs and look great – though it’s obvious when you look at my stomach that I’m pregnant. The doctor thinks she knows the gender but wasn’t sure because of the position the baby was in during the u/s – so we will know when I have the 3D u/s in two weeks during my 21st week. I have to say, Germans have no problem giving regular ultrasounds – I think I’ve had 5 already and I’m only 19 weeks! Here you have to see your doctor every 4 weeks and then towards the end of December, I’ll have to go weekly. They monitor pregnancy closely here and watch for every possible sign of problems. What she predicts though, gender-wise, made me smile because I’ve had this funny intuition from the start that came naturally but I’m happy either way so I don’t care what the gender is. My mother didn’t know when I was born if I’d be a boy or girl, but she knew instinctively that she was having a girl so when I was born and the nurse told my mother, “It’s a girl!”, she said she replied, “I know, and her name is Holly Elizabeth”. She said the nurse was surprised and my mother told her she knew from the first day she found out she was pregnant. Funny! When it comes to gender, maybe I would care if I already had children and for instance, had 3 boys – I may want a girl. Or vice versa. But when it’s your first, how can you really have a strong preference either way? I just want a healthy child who is happy and who thrives in our home. I know that even u/s can be inaccurate with determining the gender, so I’ve decided to go neutral in the nursery so that if there are any surprises at birth, I can swap out accent colors and not be bothered with it. And that works for me because that’s my design style in the rest of the house anyway.
I’m also planning to buy clothing that can go either way, boy or girl, so I have the necessities at the hospital to wrap my little bundle in so if there is a surprise, we are prepared and not putting a girl in a boy’s outfit or a boy in a little Liberty dress. Though, hey, anything goes these days right?! It will be the dead of winter so I’ll need to bring a few things to the hospital though so the baby has proper attire. I’m not a big planner and tend to be really spontaneous, so I have to admit that thinking ahead about any of this is a trip for me – I’m just not a planner type, but I guess this will come with parenting and also with parenting in Germany where everything is timed with precision and planned so expertly. Up until now though, I’m pretty relaxed about the whole thing. Plus, I have a wonderful midwife so I have an expert to go to for all of my questions because though internet opinions are well-intended, I am keeping my circle pretty tight when it comes to who I’m listening to when it comes to advice. And thank god because the internet is full of wannabe medical experts!
I want to wish you a lovely day – I’ll be back with some more posts later on. I have a new recipe for a delicious Fig and Raspberry Frangipane Tart to share from Jillian Leiboff, a second recipe and video to share from Liz & Jewels, a new contributor to tell you about whom I’ve signed on for a year to do home tours on decor8, and lots more to talk about. See you later! xo
(image: holly becker)
Hello everyone! Today is Labor Day in the US and though I live in Germany, I still observe American holidays so I’ve elected to take today off to begin organizing my home for some upcoming projects. And tomorrow is the BIG DAY… The big ultrasound! I can’t wait to know if I’m having a boy or a girl but more importantly, to check in on the baby and make sure all is well. I have no idea about the gender, some moms instinctively know but I haven’t been able to determine that at all yet. I wonder if any of you had a feeling and then you were right? I am 50/50 – and thrilled in either case.
Today it is cloudy in Hannover, but a happy kind of cloudy. And very cool outside, though we are promised a heat wave at the end of the week so I’m basking in the moody weather today with candles on and favorite French tunes playing in the background. I’m beginning to sort things in my studio and prepare my home for Fall. It’s a ritual I enjoy each year, the big shift, and I love it very much. I’m actually ready for Fall now, are you? I crave all of that cool weather and crunchy leaves, comforting hot drinks and warm blankets and clothing. This year is a little different though, as I am planning a total redux at home since I’ve missed changing things up (haven’t redecorated since 2010) and feel a huge need to make some changes. I never go this long before I alter rooms at home, but now with a baby on the way, I am more motivated that ever to simplify and organize so that I can enjoy my home more this winter when the little one arrives.
The only thing I cannot do now, that is really hard to hold myself back from doing, is to push my furniture around! Argh! This bit drives me crazy because I love moving furniture but it’s not advisable when pregnant to move 300lb bookcases, is it?! So I guess I will be asking my husband and his body builder friend to come by as I play the role of bossy bear and point to stuff. Now that I think about it, that actually doesn’t sound so bad. :)
Have a nice day!
Ever stumble upon something where you just think, “YES – this is something I would have organized!”. That’s how I felt when I saw the video and read about this Dutch wedding event called Engaged. While the theme isn’t anything I’d explore professionally or host an event around, the overall concept is definitely one I can get behind and that I really like. I guess it’s because it feels very American to me and that is something I often miss about living abroad – Americans do wedding, craft and blog events REALLY well don’t we? (With the exception of our big, cheesy mainstream ones hosted by massive corporations.) It’s different in Europe, where lots of these things are just taking off – most of the events can be feel very typical “trade show”. So I applaud these girls for launching this event in The Netherlands. Could set a new standard here and launch a refreshing new trend in this part of Europe. Want to watch the cute Engaged video first and then I’ll tell you more? It’s in Dutch but you’ll get the gist of it.
This event, to be held in
Rotterdam DELFT on UPDATE: October 5, 2013 will not only include a curated group of vendors for brides-to-be and their grooms to mingle with and learn from, but also yummy food and various DJs that you can hang out with – all in an inspiring space. They will even host a dance party so bringing your dancing shoes is strongly encouraged. The organizers, Janina and Judith, assure you that there are no boring stands, leaflets or flyers (so typical at the usual wedding fair), just real and fun experiences. And for only a €25 admission fee, you really can’t go wrong (€32.50 at the door)
Engaged is still accepting vendor applications so if you are interested in attending and reaching brides, definitely fill out this form ASAP!
I’m already married and I want to go – looks so cute! So, will you be attending?