Hi friends, sorry I’ve been missing from the blog but I’ve been co-teaching our Instagram, Photography and Styling e-course for Blogging Your Way… I’ve not had much extra head space to think about writing here. This week, another teacher leads our classes for the week and I’m off the hook, so I feel like my head is above water so no more absence from me here! And you know, once my little boy is in school, it will be a manageable again to maintain my blog (and everything else) in addition to e-courses, but right now he is home full-time so it’s a bit of a struggle!
How are you doing? I’m good, just not so happy with the news lately. It’s draining to wake up to so much hate and anger on the news, isn’t it? When I text my friend after the Nice attack to see if he was okay (he is living in London but is French and so there is always a concern he may be visiting relatives in France) he helped me to regain some perspective. I asked him if he was okay and he said yes, he was in another town celebrating Bastille Day, but not Nice. And then I told him that I thought the attack was horrible and sad and I started to complain a little and he simply said,
“Let us stay optimistic. And enjoy an even better life!”
Maybe when you read that, you can let it sink in a bit.
At first I thought he seemed so incredibly naive! Almost a bit selfish! But then I realized that it’s exactly as we should be living, when bad things happen and we were spared, we should consider ourselves to almost have a right to live an even better life because we are still alive. Why should we live in fear, sadness, in an eternal mourning?
One thing the news and internet does is that it stresses us all the F–k out. Of course we hate what’s happening globally in politics, gun violence, terrorism, etc. Naturally. And Donald Trump. Oh boy, it’s scary as hell. And to hear about it all day, every day, plus everything else, well it’s stressful. And then there is me, living in northern Germany as an American. So I have equal parts concern over what is happening in Europe and the UK AND in America. Because my family and life is in both. So what happens in America bothers me as much as what happens in Turkey, or in France, which is right over the border, Brexit, etc. It’s kinda overwhelmed me lately.
Yet I almost think that the negative forces at work in the world – the many ugly people out there behind all of this sickness and sorrow – are winning BIG TIME when we pay them so much credit for ruining our day, our week, or more: Drying up our spirit of hope. And once we lose hope …. Well, one word for ya.
We are screwed.
In my perspective, my French friend has the right attitude. Sure, you mourn a loss but you have to put everything in perspective. I cried when I thought about the children who were killed in Nice or those who are left without parents and had to see a truck plowing over their family. How can you not feel terrible? Yet, you still have your life to manage and deal with, and that has to come before everything else. Our families need us to be strong, proactive and positive. If we want to fight against something we see as injustice, then take up a stand and actively go out and fight for the rights of the group you want to stand behind. Or put your money into some cause. But complaining endlessly, moping around, saying the world is going to hell… I think it’s only going to make everyone’s life even less meaningful if we collectively turn into one big depressed lump online. Instead of choosing a victims standpoint, let us stand strong as a victor, united in our belief that things will get better. They always get worse before they get better, right? So maybe that can be the candle, the carrot, the hope that we chase… That better days are ahead.
While I support fully acknowledging loss and suffering, I also support even more fully to live better, do better and to lead by example so others can rise up stronger too. Negativity breeds negatively. Let us spread light, love and promote peace.
I’ve decided to stay optimistic and maintain hope. I hope you will to.
WHAT DO YOU THINK? HOW ARE YOU COPING?
(Photographer: Copyright Debi Treloar)